What should I do if anything: DS friend's mom farted in front of the boys and there's a whole group chat about it

[Evangeli]

This is actually not as light-hearted as seems.

DS16 friend's mom "Sally" is lovely woman, known them for years, have had dinners and so on at each other's places. We are also friends. We sometimes go on occasional walks with each other. She has mentioned she has digestive issues and can't go on long walks needs the washroom.

On one of these walks, "Sally" gave a really loud fart- there was silence and we talked about other things. Stupid stupid me later texted my DD (who also knows the family well) just as laugh "went for a walk with Sally she farted really loudly haha" and DD responded "omg haha" and that was that.

Fast forward a couple of months later- a couple of the boys were having a sleepover at their place (not DS- I had picked him up earlier), and apparently they heard her fart loudly and obviously found that hilarious. DS told me about it and they simply seem unable to stop talking about it- literally made a group chat named after her fart and just ridiculous silliness.

My involvement is that in the context of that conversation with DS, I happened to mention the earlier fart on the walk and made the stupid mistake of showing my text with DD "see- she does that- it's not a big deal", and before I could stop him, DS took my phone, screenshotted the text and sent it to the group chat so now I basically added fuel to the fire and I feel awful.
Also awful if the poor boy whose mother it is finds out, and if/when Sally will see my text.
We live in a small town and this is the entertainment we have, except it actually does bother me and I yelled at DS and told him he violated my privacy (he does not make a habit of screenshotting my texts).

I am actually bothered by this even though I have real life problems this is living rent-free in my head as the young 'uns say.

is there anything I can do to mitigate this situation.

My ds is 16 and I just can not imagine he or any of his friends being so entertained by someone’s bodily function that A) they would find it that funny and B) start up a group chat over it. That is very, very immature for near adults. The poor mum, I have digestive issues and would be mortified if a bunch of kids (and the mum) were laughing and mocking me over something I have little control over.

She’s not your friend.

She’s your entertainment.

For the shame of it all.

Stupid comment - the woman has digestive issues .

We live in a small town and this our entertainment.

No shit Sherlock if farting is all you've got the spread gossip about.
I thought my area was boring

You feel awful? Good, you should do.

If your DS owns the group chat demand that he closes it or loses his phone. Have a word with yourselves, a family chat on behaviour and what you expect from everyone going forward. And don't make texts/emails like that anymore that can be screenshotted or forwarded.

You need to grow up seriously, who cares about someone farting. Texting your daughter to laugh about it is the most pathetic thing I’ve heard.

No surprise your son turned out to be a little shit being as you’re such a dick yourself. Really nice of you to take the piss out of someone who has confided in you that she has digestive issues.

I don’t know how you have the audacity to call yourself your friend.

You’re appalling. It would seem that your family and everyone in your life is as appalling as you. Apart from Sally who deserves better than you and all the awful people you know.
You were the one who started this.

She has digestive issues so its unlikely that she is happy to but has a medical or health condition that makes harder for her no to fart.

People laugh at farts but its not nice to make someone a laughing stock, that's actually considered bullying behaviour because it can make the person on the receiving end feel awful about themselves and humiliated. At least you know its wrong but please find some better entertainment! Even for your own sake

Your son is a nasty bully, isn't he? Wonder where he learned that ...

I was thinking the same, if a man had done this it wouldn’t be even worthy of comment, yet a woman does it and a WhatsApp group is set up to humiliate and bully her, fucking awful.

You never fart OP?

I really hope you don’t get any embarrassing health issues ever. You and your kids sound delightful !!

You all need a life. I can understand how a teenage boy might snigger at a fart initially but not that many would make a whatsapp group about it.

i'd contact sally before she hears it from someone else. say you're sorry and you were being really immature and silly. honestly, i think that's your best bet. if you're in a small town she's definitely going to hear about it and it's best you speak to her first, else she will be even more upset. TBH if it was me i wouldn't care about what you said but i'd be upset at being the subject of a group chat about trumping.

You're a nasty piece of work and you have brought up your children to be just like you. I hope you get called out and your "friend" dumps you.

Sounds about right.

Your mistake was showing your ds the text you sent dd. Especially as it was because of what they were saying.

Serves you right for being nasty and childish. I hope you get your arse handed to you for this.

You don't really think that any actual school child waits until the holidays to register on a parenting website and make stuff up do you?

It happens every half term.

It’s either children or teachers 😁

You sound like a bit of an immature dickhead tbh. Poor Sally. Hope she finds out and ends the friendship. You don't deserve her as a friend.

Except that op said it is caused by a disability/health issue so it is incredibly insensitive to be laughing at the lady with her daughter or in the sons group chat.

Op your son is too old to be behaving this way towards a friends parent. You are going to have to explain to him that you were in the wrong to mock her to your daughter so that you have a leg to stand on when you tell him to pack his behaviour in.

So unkind!

This.