What should I do if anything: DS friend's mom farted in front of the boys and there's a whole group chat about it

[Evangeli]

This is actually not as light-hearted as seems.

DS16 friend's mom "Sally" is lovely woman, known them for years, have had dinners and so on at each other's places. We are also friends. We sometimes go on occasional walks with each other. She has mentioned she has digestive issues and can't go on long walks needs the washroom.

On one of these walks, "Sally" gave a really loud fart- there was silence and we talked about other things. Stupid stupid me later texted my DD (who also knows the family well) just as laugh "went for a walk with Sally she farted really loudly haha" and DD responded "omg haha" and that was that.

Fast forward a couple of months later- a couple of the boys were having a sleepover at their place (not DS- I had picked him up earlier), and apparently they heard her fart loudly and obviously found that hilarious. DS told me about it and they simply seem unable to stop talking about it- literally made a group chat named after her fart and just ridiculous silliness.

My involvement is that in the context of that conversation with DS, I happened to mention the earlier fart on the walk and made the stupid mistake of showing my text with DD "see- she does that- it's not a big deal", and before I could stop him, DS took my phone, screenshotted the text and sent it to the group chat so now I basically added fuel to the fire and I feel awful.
Also awful if the poor boy whose mother it is finds out, and if/when Sally will see my text.
We live in a small town and this is the entertainment we have, except it actually does bother me and I yelled at DS and told him he violated my privacy (he does not make a habit of screenshotting my texts).

I am actually bothered by this even though I have real life problems this is living rent-free in my head as the young 'uns say.

is there anything I can do to mitigate this situation.

16yo Boys are THAT entertained by flatulence, really?

Have you ever been in a lesson in secondary school and had a teacher fart very obviously? Most of the class will be snickering or desperately trying not to, girls included.

Yup.

Blimey, my 10yo finds them mildly amusing but nowhere near enough to get involved in a group chat about one.

If my mum had texted me that I would have pulled her up on it, not gone along with the joke. Yes, even at 16. But then, my mum led by example, so by 16 (or however old the DD is) I knew that was wrong.

How did I know this would be on reddit already. 😂

Sally is a lovely woman and a dear friend, who has a medical problem and you decide to mock her? Your teenage son is part of a SM group that colludes in this behaviour?
Seriously - think about this. Stop behaving like that, it's vile. I feel so sorry for her that there's a group chat about this.

Agreed with others that you definitely could and should have stopped your son. But you shouldn't have sent the text anyway. That poor woman. Neither you, your son nor his friends sound like nice people at all

Please tell your son it is horrible to be slagging off this lady particularly when she has a medical problem and that himself and his friends should be ashamed of themselves and delete the group chat immediately. You should also be ashamed of yourself. God love that lady if she hears or sees those messages.

Why the hell, even if he had grabbed your phone or whatever, did you not make him immediately delete the comment?! Why haven’t you stopped this group chat? Taken DS’s phone? Literally anything but standing about dithering about a mess you have made?! What was your reaction when he screenshotted? This is very bizarre

Link please! I love a double post 😅

I could be Sally & I'd be mortified by this. I have digestive issues & unfortunately this does happen to me. I'd hate to be ridiculed like this

Yeah. Cant really say anything more apt than this.

Mom??

You’re like a child who only is sorry it got caught, not for the actual reason it got caught.

Tbh if I found out my ds friends had a group chat about my farts, I would probably laugh.

We all say stupid things. Just learn.from this and try to forget about it, move on and vow to be a better friend. But if Sally does find out, you're going to have some serious grovelling to do.

Deletion or non returning op?????

Place your bets

This is bullshit, isn't it?

If my mum had texted me that I would have pulled her up on it, not gone along with the joke. Yes, even at 16. But then, my mum led by example, so by 16 (or however old the DD is) I knew that was wrong.

I wouldn't even consider omg haha to be going along with the joke. To me that's offhand. I regularly respond haha really, or haha ok, and I'm not actually laughing about anything, it's just a nothing response. She didn't say anything mean and hasn't been involved in anything further.

My mum would never have texted this, but even if she did, I would just throw an offhand response and think no more of it. Cba to make a thing of it. She's my mum not my kid.

Pure BS

Why is farting so bad? I find burping utterly repulsive but no one mocks that and yes of course I burp.

I think there must be very little to do in your small town, for this to be the subject of a text to DD, then digging out the text again

absolutely

I get that but a group chat?

Is everyone pretending that they wouldn't mention to a family member if someone did a really loud fart in public?!

I probably would've told my mum and everyone inlived with.

Have a sense of humour!

Outside in the open you would have to fart really loud to be heard. Bowel issues or not I would've found it hilarious.

Who sends texts about other people’s farts? That’s just weird.

Omg, if this isn't made up make believe bull shit you are feckin awful!