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What should I do if anything: DS friend's mom farted in front of the boys and there's a whole group chat about it

227 replies

Evangeli · 03/06/2022 20:27

This is actually not as light-hearted as seems.

DS16 friend's mom "Sally" is lovely woman, known them for years, have had dinners and so on at each other's places. We are also friends. We sometimes go on occasional walks with each other. She has mentioned she has digestive issues and can't go on long walks needs the washroom.

On one of these walks, "Sally" gave a really loud fart- there was silence and we talked about other things. Stupid stupid me later texted my DD (who also knows the family well) just as laugh "went for a walk with Sally she farted really loudly haha" and DD responded "omg haha" and that was that.

Fast forward a couple of months later- a couple of the boys were having a sleepover at their place (not DS- I had picked him up earlier), and apparently they heard her fart loudly and obviously found that hilarious. DS told me about it and they simply seem unable to stop talking about it- literally made a group chat named after her fart and just ridiculous silliness.

My involvement is that in the context of that conversation with DS, I happened to mention the earlier fart on the walk and made the stupid mistake of showing my text with DD "see- she does that- it's not a big deal", and before I could stop him, DS took my phone, screenshotted the text and sent it to the group chat so now I basically added fuel to the fire and I feel awful.
Also awful if the poor boy whose mother it is finds out, and if/when Sally will see my text.
We live in a small town and this is the entertainment we have, except it actually does bother me and I yelled at DS and told him he violated my privacy (he does not make a habit of screenshotting my texts).

I am actually bothered by this even though I have real life problems this is living rent-free in my head as the young 'uns say.

is there anything I can do to mitigate this situation.

OP posts:
MrsSkylerWhite · 03/06/2022 21:01

Why did you feel the need to do that? Honestly, really do t understand why you did that.

film the kids next time they do something human but potentially embarrassing.

show it to them, ask them how they would feel if it went public (which don’t ever do, obviously) and hopefully that will be an end to it.

whyohehy · 03/06/2022 21:01

Pretty immature on your part (x 2 occasions). Guess this is what they call karma.

FiveShelties · 03/06/2022 21:01

Do pop back OP when you have a second. I would hate you to miss all the responses to your AIBU.

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 03/06/2022 21:02

and before I could stop him, DS took my phone, screenshotted the text and sent it to the group chat
yeah that doesnt sound likely. If that is true and your son overpowered you to
do that, you have far bigger problems as you have an aggressive make in your house who is nearly an adult.

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 03/06/2022 21:03

'Better out than in' as they say.

Who cares if she wants to boff for England? It's not hurting you OP.

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 03/06/2022 21:03

alqoqjn · 03/06/2022 20:40

School holidays 🤨

You don't really think that any actual school child waits until the holidays to register on a parenting website and make stuff up do you?

I can't understand how anyone thinks this would ever happen. You must know the weirdest children
Do they not have internet access during term time for reason, no friends, games console? No tik to, snap chat or you tube?

It's just so stupid

Also stupid is the OP, what pathetic behaviour from a grown woman

MrsSkylerWhite · 03/06/2022 21:03

Actually, why did I even bother responding to this?

surely no adult would be such an arse?

Longlurker1 · 03/06/2022 21:04

Grim.. absolutely grim..

Lochjeda · 03/06/2022 21:04

Maybe you should grow up a bit op. Imagine texting your daughter cause someone farted and then showing your son, that must of took some scrolling back to find the text, can't understand why other than cause you wee ripping the piss out her too.

ldontWanna · 03/06/2022 21:06

Aww you tried to join in with the cool (dick) kids, then your own dick kid showed you up and now you're afraid you'll get found out.

Just grow up and be an actual parent.

Pallisers · 03/06/2022 21:06

GrazingSheep · 03/06/2022 20:32

The apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

indeed.

WorriedMillie · 03/06/2022 21:06

This sounds like the post of
a) a bored kid on half term (in which case, maybe get a life/job/hobby?)
b) someone who has successfully contributed to the next generation of nasty people

Beaucoup · 03/06/2022 21:06

This did not happen did it?

PatientlyWaiting21 · 03/06/2022 21:09

I assume this is all on WhatsApp? Just delete the screenshot!

Rogue1001MNer · 03/06/2022 21:09

You don't really think that any actual school child waits until the holidays to register on a parenting website and make stuff up do you?

And yet the number of obvious troll threads goes up in school holidays. Think on't 🤔

grapewines · 03/06/2022 21:10

I really hope this is made up. Wtf were thinking doing that. You're no friend to her.

Onwards22 · 03/06/2022 21:11

is there anything I can do to mitigate this situation.

Yes punish your son he sounds like a bitchy little brat.

Yes farts can be funny but I would only expect those under the age of about 8 to keep talking about it.
Surely your DS farts all of the time!
He sounds very immature!

You also sound like you’re so desperate to be ‘down with the kids’ that you’ll try and jump in on the joke just to be ‘cool’ - which is pretty embarrassing and I’d love to see what they say about you in the group chats.

PAFMO · 03/06/2022 21:13

ldontWanna · 03/06/2022 21:06

Aww you tried to join in with the cool (dick) kids, then your own dick kid showed you up and now you're afraid you'll get found out.

Just grow up and be an actual parent.

This.
Word for word.

Stylishkidintheriot · 03/06/2022 21:13

Jeeze... small minds and all that

how on earth can a wee fart be that entertaining?

Katya213 · 03/06/2022 21:13

Don't lie, you were joining in the fun as you did before with your DD, now you've been called out lol!

Stylishkidintheriot · 03/06/2022 21:14

@Rogue1001MNer personally I think it’s the teachers getting some free time

gamerchick · 03/06/2022 21:14

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 03/06/2022 21:03

You don't really think that any actual school child waits until the holidays to register on a parenting website and make stuff up do you?

I can't understand how anyone thinks this would ever happen. You must know the weirdest children
Do they not have internet access during term time for reason, no friends, games console? No tik to, snap chat or you tube?

It's just so stupid

Also stupid is the OP, what pathetic behaviour from a grown woman

Not been on here long then...

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 03/06/2022 21:16

WorriedMillie · 03/06/2022 21:06

This sounds like the post of
a) a bored kid on half term (in which case, maybe get a life/job/hobby?)
b) someone who has successfully contributed to the next generation of nasty people

Sounds more like a mum wanting to be her teenage childrens ‘mate’ rather than to parent them.

Hollipolly · 03/06/2022 21:17

@Evangeli who is the lead of the group chat? Can you get it deleted?

Make DS leave the group chat!

fatherfintanstack · 03/06/2022 21:20

Wow OP, you are a tosser. Ok, farting can be funny but if someone has a digestive condition then that takes away the surprise nature of it and it's just laughing at someone with an embarrassing problem beyond their control. You sound extremely immature trying to pin this on your son 'he violated my privacy'. No he didn't. You got caught out. Your texts are hardly covered by the official secrets act. Next time you're taking the mick, don't put it in writing.

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