To wonder what this means-fwb?

[SunflowerEvie]

Hi all,

I am currently in a friends with benefits type of situation. I am due to go over to his house tonight but I started my period this morning. I have told him that it has started and his response is ‘it’s not all about the sex baby, we can do other stuff you know’

Does this mean he sees this more than a sexual relationship? I really was not expecting that response from him. I thought he would want to rearrange but I’m actually pleasantly surprised.

Always experienced the opposite and most men seem to find it a turn off!

No man I’ve come across finds period blood a turn off but sometimes they don’t want their bed messed up.

I like period sex, it's the best thing for cramps. Put down a towel and away you go.

My ex wouldn’t go near me (sexually of course) on my period, but that’s fine for me as I said I would rather not either... all men are different I guess 🤷‍♀️

Could you be much more lonely and miserable than you seem at the moment? Big world, billions of men, a fair proportion are very nice. You won't meet them hanging around pining for this loser and believe me OP, that is what he is.

You don’t need to make any excuses for not seeing him again. He doesn’t need to know that your self-esteem is currently low. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that you are worthy of much better treatment.

You can just tell him that it isn’t working out for you right now. You’ve enjoyed spending time with him and it was good while it lasted.

You don’t need lengthy explanations.

If needed you can tell him that you’ve been chatting to someone else and would like to see where that goes.

Be breezy, brief, keep smiling, your head held high and don’t waver.

You know what you need, go get it!

Set yourself free of this torment OP!
Text him and lay your cards in the table and see how it goes. If you don't do anything you're not going to fee any better but if you do say something it will start to get better 🥰
Hope you're ok ♥️

You can do it. Think about other things that didn't work out but you feel better later on.

Type the message in your phone and give it a countdown 10 9 8 ... and send it.
Come back here for lots of support.

That empty disappointed feeling won’t last . When u go cold turkey after being love bombed by a manipulator. See your inner voice that queries his behaviour as your Sat Nav to a better relationship . Its recalculating after he let u down. That last visit the mask finally slipped and I think some of his spell has broken. You now know you want a meaningful relationship thats not just about sex. You were hoping the breadcrumbs he was leaving would go in a more emotionally involved direction but he focused on his needs to the point of making you feel awkward and let down with his surprise.

He is just on a different bandwidth to you emotionally you have more depth and something considerable to bring to intimate relations that is going to be taking you to a happier match in the end. You can see how to treat someone in a respectful way and u won’t take them for granted when you find them.
you are just evolved on a less basic foundation which means your not a quick fix kind of women you need something more meaningful thats all. Your inner voice is crying out to be heard. Listen to that intuition rather than the breadcrumbs because a strong intuition will build you up to a fortress and then you decide who gets to do what with your mind and body connected 🌳Plus you have a whole community here wanting the best outcomes for you

I agree with DarlingX, I have been there, I was devastated and couldn't imagine not feeling empty and sad about having no contact with him. It's amazing how a short time apart changes things.

Hi op, how are you feeling today? Hope you are feeling stronger and in better spirits.