to be upset my friend hasn’t paid me ?

[Germanpandalover1987]

I’m a nanny for my friend’s little girl and she was due to pay me yesterday on the 1st but she hasn’t so I think she will pay me next Monday (because of the bank holidays+ weekend) and I’ll get zero apology for the lateness. I won’t ask her because I don’t want things to be awkward between us but I’m upset with her. Its not the first time she doesn’t pay me on time. Would you also be upset or just let it go because she is a friend ? Thank you

OP,

A real friend wouldn't dream of putting you in this position of having to ask.

Scummy behaviour.

Working for a certain type will result in this.

She really doesn't care about upsetting you and she is both disrespectful of you and unappreciative of what you do.

If this happens again, you should consider moving on.

I think you should move on now if you can get another position.

SHE is causing this issue through her disrespect of what you do.

NO ONE would tolerate this.

Ask for the money. Do you have a contract? It's worth discussing having one with penalty fees for late payment, that tends to focus minds a clients. If you have no contract or no specification for late fees then statutory charge and interest applies at 30 days, you can look up the relevant charges.

At this stage, I should defo put a penalty in place per day late.

How long have you been working for her,
OP?

Is it a full time job?

Text her and remind that there is interest to be paid on late payments. If she isn’t bothered because you’re a friend, I’d say stop working for her.

@Germanpandalover1987
How would she like it if she was not paid when she was meant to be. Your minding her dd so deserved to be paid on time just the way she deserves to be paid on time.

It poor behaviour, but you need to stand up for yourself and tell her. She is inconsiderate but you are not taking responsibility for your life. You cannot complain about something (anything) and say ‘but I’m not going to say anything because it would be awkward’.

If you won’t say anything, it won’t get sorted - and that is unreasonable behaviour from you.

I would guilt trip her. Message her and say 'Please can you pay me. I've got no money left for food for the weekend'.

An over reaction by not wanting to ask.

Exactly. So don't be afrai9d to ask.

If there's a contract in place then YABU.

She's not your friend. She's your employer.

Is the payment set up as a DD? If so, your friend might think it has gone through and not realised it hasn't yet due to the bank holiday

I'd ask for it. X

Are you this relaxed about your wages? I would be in trouble if mine were paid in late - my mortgage goes out the next day!!!

This. You can’t let her take advantage of you. She could pay on time she just isn’t bothering. You need to tell her that you do notice and that it needs fixing.

I agree with the others, message her and ask for payment.

Not now though, tomorrow. It''s a bit late to send that type of message now.

She should be embarrassed. Inexcusable behaviour.

My guess is she won't be because she is a CF

As PPs gave said, remind her to transfer the money.

demand the money immediately. Then don't work for her again

What? If anything it is an under reaction. OP has bills. Those are the things OPs friend gets to pay because OP facilitates it

She has made it awkward not you.

As others have said, text her ans politely ask for payment.

She might not know you don’t have it. If she has a standing order then it won’t send until the next working day.

i get rent every Friday, but when it’s a bank holiday it doesn’t come in until the Monday

I would never ever leave my childminder without payment. I have before scrapped the bottom of the bank account and gone without food to make sure she was paid promptly as I would expect my employer to do for me.

She is ungrateful and obviously does not value your work OP

Just speak up.

People treat you how you allow them to OP so you need to start some serious work on your assertiveness.

People can be (you only have to spend a little time on MN to see this) be Cheeky Fuckers and you are right to feel upset that it is a so called friend seemingly taking advantage of your friendship.

You are not a charity and have the perfect right to expect her to keep up her end of the contract.

If this becomes a regular occurrence (it may genuinely be a innocent error or especially tight month for her if just a one off) and she starts to become arsey with you, end the contract and the friendship as no true friend would treat you like this.

You run a business, time to be firm.