I LOVE my engagement ring - but worried it looks tacky?

[princesspollysmum]

My (for now) BF let me pick my engagement ring. Would’ve spent up to £100 on it but I knew he wasn’t having the best time financially and we have other priorities (our 1 year old, a house, car payments etc). I follow a company on Instagram and the rings she has are all cubic zirconia and sterling silver for £40-£60. Mine was in the £40 range but is BEAUTIFUL. Her rings don’t rust or turn fingers green and are really sparkly. It’s much bigger in person than the pictures made it look which is my concern … don’t want to look like a wannabe WAG (my boyfriend dies football and worried his group might say something! Or the girlfriends from the group!)

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

It’s beautiful and I like CZ rings—they are lovely and sparkly in the light.

Life got infinitely less stressful when I stopped giving a shiny shite what people thought of me / my things. You like it? That’s all that matters.

Life got infinitely less stressful when I stopped giving a shiny shite what people thought of me / my things. You like it? That’s all that matters.

We all have different opinions and taste

If you love it then wear it with pride.

Personally I would go for something smaller (but again that's my opinion - it doesn't mean I'm right)

Meh, online people (mostly americans) said my ring was 'tacky' and a 'promise ring' not an engagement ring when I joined a wedding group... guess Kate Middletons blue sapphire is a tacky promise ring too then.

Take other opinion with a pinch of salt. I wouldnt wear the ring you posted because I like 'dainty' engagement rings (the smaller the stone the cuter to me) but unless it was MASSIVE like a grape on your finger then I likely would even notice or think about it - I think we get judged less than we worry about in the real world, most people are peocupied with their own lives and worries of judgement.

In the 7 years I have been engaged only 1 person in real life ever mentioned my ring and that was just to ask 'are you engaged?' (I apparently look very young lol).

It's a very pretty wring and if you're happy with it, that's what matters. If you've an 'average' income, I'd probably assume (if I thought at all about it) that it would be zirconia due to the size- but I also have never given a crap as was obvious by my own choice of rig, what others think. If you like it, nothing else matters.

It's beautiful, can I ask where it's from?

I dont wear my engagement ring now because it was white gold and broke every couple of weeks even with being very gentle and taking it off often... before buying we had no idea white gold was so ridiculously soft and fragile.

I use to wear silver rings daily, on average they lasted about 5 years before oxidising enough to snap (but I didnt look after them, I worn them in the shower etc...).

A good silver ring is better than white gold and most people on a budget cant afford platnum etc...

The most durable option (which I wear for my wedding ring) is Titanium but they dont make many womens rings in T

It looks so pretty on your hand. Congratulations! You sound a lovely couple.

Gosh you have lovely hands! The ring suits your hands and its a beautiful shape.
I might worry about longevity, although I have mainly silver rings and they wear well if the band isn't too thin. My eternity ring is silver (and CZ - it's far sparklier than the real diamonds in my engagement ring).

before buying we had no idea white gold was so ridiculously soft and fragile.

It isn't? Mine has been going for over 20yrs now, I never take it off. It also has never needed replating, unlike some white gold rings.

This ring looks like it was made to suit your hand. So gorgeous!

However you did ask for opinions. A real one would cost thousands, so unless that is something you and your dp could easily afford then it will be obvious to people who know you it's not real. I would think that it's the same as someone using a really expensive designer bag, when you know it's fake. It all comes down to whether you care or not what people think. A ring of that size is bound to get questions and how would you feel knowing it's not real, would you feel uncomfortable or proud to wear it?

Mine looks just like that it’s real and was £10k and I worry people will think it’s fake 🤣🤣 it’s lovely please enjoy it but I thought mine was massive to start with too but I got used to it.

It’s beautiful and looks beautiful on your hand. It honestly would not occur to me to wonder if it was “real” or not. Wear it and love it.

It's very pretty.
And an utter bargain & you are wise to use your precious funds for house etc

The love of my life gave me a silver 'knock off' pandora ring just before he died.
It means the world to me. (he'd given me a £££££ one years ago but we sold it when things got tight: the 'pandora' one is just fine - it's the Love that matters)

Don't worry what anyone else thinks - enjoy the Love ( & the ring that shows it)

I think the trend for non-traditional diamond rings is massive now - so much moissanite, lab-created diamond, black diamonds, morganite etc.

I don't think people will look at it the same way, as a lot of people choose a stone for ethical reasons as well as cost, so if anyone says 'is that a diamond' you can always just say 'no we chose a created/synthetic/alternative stone'. and then just carry on being thrilled about your engagement.

Ring is lovely, and suits you perfectly. Congratulations.

The most durable option (which I wear for my wedding ring) is Titanium but they dont make many womens rings in T

My friend is a nurse and recently had to remove a stainless steel ring from someone's finger. Took her two hours. That stuff is too durable. Don't be tempted to get a stainless steel ring, people!

I expect the first comment you will get when people see it, is, ‘wow-that’s massive!’. You just need to decide what your response to that will be.

Thank you-I chose it myself.
Oh, it’s not a real diamond.
etc etc

and how that would that make you feel?

The ring is lovely and looks beautiful on your hand. TBH I wouldn't give a second thought as to whether it was a real diamond or not (and would have no idea anyway!) I would just think it looked beautiful, congratulations, how lovely and wish you every happiness for your future.

Engagement rings are not about cost, they're about sentiment and love.

I’m very surprised as these comments on not knowing if it’s real or not. That ring would be worth hundreds of thousands if real, it’s huge. As such, if a couple can only afford a max of 100 on a ring, then everyone who knows them will immediately know it’s fake.

if the op is ok with this then that’s fine, but if she is thinking it will fool anyone then it will not.

You've have beautiful hand. 😀
The ring looks really good on you.
Congratulations. 🎊

It looks lovely on you and not tacky at all but I think that the size of it looks more like a cocktail ring that I'd wear for a dressy night out than an engagement ring which (for us normal people without huge fleets of servants) are normally smaller so you can wear them all the time without damaging them.

I think it's pretty!

I'd also think that any one who knows you would know it wasn't real though. As a diamond of that size would be mega mega bucks. Does that bother you? That people will guess it isn't real?

I didn't know which was the answer to vote for but it's lovely!

Well done for being happy with a ring that doesn't cost the earth. So sensible! And it's pretty and I think suits your hands just fine.

I'm getting married again in August and have also gone for silver and moissanite. We've much more interesting things to spend our money on!!