I LOVE my engagement ring - but worried it looks tacky?

[princesspollysmum]

My (for now) BF let me pick my engagement ring. Would’ve spent up to £100 on it but I knew he wasn’t having the best time financially and we have other priorities (our 1 year old, a house, car payments etc). I follow a company on Instagram and the rings she has are all cubic zirconia and sterling silver for £40-£60. Mine was in the £40 range but is BEAUTIFUL. Her rings don’t rust or turn fingers green and are really sparkly. It’s much bigger in person than the pictures made it look which is my concern … don’t want to look like a wannabe WAG (my boyfriend dies football and worried his group might say something! Or the girlfriends from the group!)

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

OP asked "Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be."

If I just saw it in passing, I probably wouldn't think much at all as I don't really have a radar for jewellery. But looking at it, I would think that the band was very thin for an engagement ring, especially for the size of the stone.

If you are bothered by what people think (nothing wrong with that, you are a human with feelings) then maybe go for something more subtle.

1st of all congratulations & it looks absolutely beautiful. When I got engaged 24 years ago we had zero money so my Husband got a cheap but beautiful 2nd hand 9ct gold engagement (with the tiniest diamond) & thin gold wedding band & we also choose to get married on the cheap at the local registar office. We had the most amazing day. On our 20th Wedding Anniversary my wonderful Husband surprised me with a new Engagement & Wedding ring (mainly because I've recently lost 10 stone & my rings no longer fitted) but it was such an amazing surprise & I my old rings have now been passed down to my Daughter's. Who cares what other's think, the main thing is you love it & it looks amazing. Maybe once the Children are grown up & you're better off financially you could do replace it, only if you want too. I was so upset when I could no longer wear my old one's (we had them re-sized twice) & we we're told the engagement ring couldn't be made any smaller. I still love them just as much as I did 24 yrs ago & glad my Daughter's are going to use them. Even my new rings are 2nd hand as you get so much more for your money. Enjoy your engagement & show that amazing ring off.

I think it’s pretty! If you’re happy with it that’s what’s important, congratulations xxx

@Foxglovesandlilacs86

My engagement ring is the same as that but it’s real and was 13k.

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@Foxglovesandlilacs86

🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t know why I felt the need to share that tbh but I felt like it was relevant at the time. 😂

But of course, EVERYONE needs to know your engagement ring allegedly cost £13,000.

@KatesMott

ooh, good for you getting that humble brag in 🙄 Mine was also 'real', I'm assuming you mean real diamonds as opposed to a real ring as the OPs ring is clearly 'real' too?! Mine was a similar price to yours, but a much smaller stone so I must presumably have a better 'real' diamond- does that make you feel better? No?

I agree with @PaddingtonBearStareAgain you have literally just done the same - told us all your engagement ring supposedly cost £13,000. Trust me NOBODY gives a shiny shit.

And PMSL at @mihimagna at people being jealous of a poster CLAIMING to have a £13,000 engagement ring. Most people aren't jealous of anonymous nobodies on message forums dear.

Even if it IS genuine that someone has a £13,000 engagement ring, to suggest that others are 'so jellus' of it, is pathetic and childish.

Basically, people have derided the humble bragging, because the OP made it clear she had her boyfriend are not very well off and he couldn't afford an expensive engagement ring. So it was vulgar and rude and quite nasty to blather on about how much rich I am than YOWWWW!

@princesspollysmum Just spotted the pic with your ring on your finger ... It looks lovely.

It's beautiful - congratulations!

'the OP made it clear she AND her boyfriend are not very well off' - (not had her boyfriend!)

It wasn’t meant a s a humble brag because what is humble or stealthy about saying exactly how much it cost 😂 I think in my own clumsy way I was trying to say the ops ring was lovely and looked exactly the same as mine which is a relatively expensive ring. It just came out wrong. Sorry op if it sounded bitchy x

and my DH isn’t a hedge fund manager or anything he sells plant and machinery for a living and owns a yard with a load of containers on it 😂 nothing glamorous about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think well done for going for cubic zirconia. The ethics around precious stones are really dubious and even if they're not 'blood' diamonds, the industry still artificially inflates prices to the detriment of everyone but itself.

Op I love that you love it and I also love the mentality of being sensible with your money and planning for the future. The ring looks lovely and I wish you both lots of happiness

What the hell is wrong with you @Foxglovesandlilacs86 , that you thought that post was appropriate?!

It’s beautiful. It doesn’t matter a bit that it isn’t real. It doesn’t look tacky, it’s a very elegant design. I think the loveliest thing here is that you aren’t hung up on having a ‘real diamond’ or a super expensive ring and you know what’s important.

The only thing is though that you have had to feel worried about it. Maybe if you have doubts now then you always will, so the only answer to that if you’re worried about what people think is maybe to get a smaller one.

Saying that - There are always going to be people who would rather have no ring than a ‘fake’ one and that’s fine for them, but you aren’t them. Your ring is beautiful, doesn’t look tacky, you sound like a lovely person - if this ring makes you happy when you look at it, wear it with pride and enjoy it. 💍

bloody hell , wind it in @Johnnysgirl @Foxglovesandlilacs86 has explained it was a cack handed compliment that she worded wrongly
lets play nicely here

I'd probably think "How the hell do people afford diamonds that size?? Or is it not a real diamond?" 😂

It looks nice.

Seems a bit of a reaction. I don't see anything offensive in what she said.

A family member was wearing a really ott ring (not classy like the OPs) and we all assumed it was fake - we were wrong. So it works both ways those boasting about their expensive rings.

It looks lovely on your hand. I do not think anyone will think it is a precious stone, but I do not think that matters. My concern would be the practicality and durability of it. I am not sure it is going to last a lifetime, but that might not matter to you as you could take it off sometimes, and you might find you need to upgrade it in some years' time or something.

Many congratulations!

Foxglovesandlilacs86 is absolutely entitled to share her experience.

I agree with the POV it's a lovely ring but wouldn't fool anyone into thinking it was a diamond especially friends and family whose aware of the OP'S financial situation.

I doubt the OP expects to fool anyone, its a lovely ring within their budget.

I love the silver. It's very nicely constructed.

It would look terrible on me (very dull minimalist, doesn't wear colour) but I imagine it fits your look well if you love it. Nothing worn with style and consistency can ever look tacky.

Make sure you get the matching earrings for your anniversary! ;)

To the posters criticising me, I said mine cost 'a similar price' and I directed it to the poster who had to bring the cost of her engagement ring into it, not the OP. I DO think it's vulgar to come on a thread written by a poster asking advice about her ring, which cost less than £100, by immediately bringing up the exorbitant price of their own ring and seemingly using the post as a vehicle to boast about this. I made a comparison, again with @Foxglovesandlilacs86 not the OP, suggesting it's like me saying I must have a better quality diamond than hers and stating its not a nice thing to do. I wasn't trying to set up a pissing competition, merely pointing out the rather tone deaf response isn't great. I didn't come on to tell the OP all about my ring complete with cost breakdown, nor does anyone know what it cost, nor do I expect anyone to give a shit either way 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sure, Jan.

OP, are you coming back to tell us whether you've thought about whether the ring will be hard wearing enough?

I like this story more than the smart alecs spending £13K+ on a ring like some Z lister!

Can I ask you to link me to it?... I want one too... 😆

That was for @princesspollysmum !