I LOVE my engagement ring - but worried it looks tacky?

[princesspollysmum]

My (for now) BF let me pick my engagement ring. Would’ve spent up to £100 on it but I knew he wasn’t having the best time financially and we have other priorities (our 1 year old, a house, car payments etc). I follow a company on Instagram and the rings she has are all cubic zirconia and sterling silver for £40-£60. Mine was in the £40 range but is BEAUTIFUL. Her rings don’t rust or turn fingers green and are really sparkly. It’s much bigger in person than the pictures made it look which is my concern … don’t want to look like a wannabe WAG (my boyfriend dies football and worried his group might say something! Or the girlfriends from the group!)

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

Honestly? I have no opinion at all.
But I have no opinion about anyones ring, it’s not my place to. Don’t get me wrong, I make all the appropriate noises if someone shows a ring off to me, but the ring really isn’t important. It’s what it means that matters. And yours means that your boyfriend loves you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you-and for that I will say congratulations on the engagement!

My husband chose my ring, and in all honesty, it isn’t what I would have picked myself, but I love it. He asked me some years ago if I wanted an ‘upgrade’…
good god no! What would be the point? It would no longer be my engagement ring.

However, he seemed to take that ‘no’ as “never buy me diamonds ever again”
So perhaps I should have been less forceful with my answer

Always one, isn't there?

It is a beautiful ring and honestly don't give a fuck what anyone else thinks as long as you love it that's all that matters xx

Congrats ❤️

It’s definitely WAG-ish- a diamond equivalent would be over £50k with that size and setting.

I’d also worry about the robustness of something of that size. An engagement ring should be worn forever, ideally- and with that raised profile, it would chip or be knocked out of setting really easily. It might not turn your finger green, but it’s not going to have much longevity.

If I wanted my boyfriend to spend as little as possible for something that would last- I would get a smaller CZ ring, or just put the money towards a nice wedding band?

First, anyone with the temerity to comment on it is beyond tacky, and not worthy of consideration. Second, my own engagement ring (now handed on to my son when he got engaged) was just as large, and VERY real, thanks to great great grandparents (the next generation most thoughtfully ran through the family money), so don't ask me. I KNOW very large rings can be real, and not always affordable to those who wear them.

I think it’s really pretty and if I saw it on someone I would love it and be envious! Enjoy it and your engag

I think it's lovely! Doesn't even cross my mind if it is 'real' because you're wearing it, it is clearly real. Gorgeous.

@princesspollysmum its beautiful and price doesn’t matter. someone else commented on the size being a giveaway that it’s not a real diamond but who’s to know (apart from those that know you lol) that it’s not an expensive real diamond and that you’re not wealthy.
Personally I’d rather a have a big cubic zirconia then a tiny little pathetic diamond that give its away that you’re a wannabe diamond person that can’t afford a proper big diamond.

It’s lovely, congratulations! Agree with the others I’d know it’s costume jewellery based on it’s size but that is NOT the same thing as being tacky, far from it. Lots of women adore costume jewellery, myself included.

if you want people to think it’s a real diamond swap for something much smaller but I’d that doesn’t matter to you (and it shouldn’t) then crack on!

When I saw your OP and the word ‘tacky’ I was nervous and was expecting something quite different! It’s a genuinely pretty ring. Enjoy it.

I wouldn’t say it’s tacky, though it’s not to my personal taste. My only concern would be how you plan to wear it with a wedding band. These style of rings don’t sit flush with another band. Ultimately, if you plan to continue to wear both and on the same finger, I’d want them to look good together and be comfortable to wear.

Ring is beautiful ❤️
I chose to buy a simulated diamond and spend the money on house stuff
yours is much nicer be proud of it ❤️

Did you buy it from phantomjewels on Instagram? The packaging looks familiar.

I have one which is pretty much the same from Warren James, and it has a matching band. My actual wedding/engagement rings are also the same but in gold. DH bought gold but when ibsaw a silver version i couldnt resist😂So yes, I do love it. Obviously mine are cubic zirconia because I preferred to save for a house instead.

I think it's really lovely and it would never occur to me to ask if a ring is "real" or not.

I have a large jewellery collection that includes big diamonds, small diamonds, moissanite, QVC Diamonique (you should check them out they are brilliant faux diamonds) and CZ and I enjoy wearing all of them, it has nothing to do with cost.

Your ring is being bought with love and that makes it priceless. Wear it and and be proud of it.

It’s a lovely ring. Hardly anyone can tell at a glance if it is real or not. You sound happy, now that is priceless.

It isn't tacky, but it is big. I love the design though, so would probably ask where you got it from instead of laughing at it (do people really do that?)
Congrats btw!

I don't see why people have to be so nasty towards @Foxglovesandlilacs86 unless they're just plain jealous. She's just letting you know the price for reference. And obviously she was referring to the diamond being real. OP already mentioned that her's is CZ so clearly is okay with the fact that it is cost efficient. @KatesMottwhy are you being a hypocrite, bragging about how your real diamond is smaller yet costs more while accusing someone else of bragging?

Honestly it doesn't matter if I like it or not -we all like different jewellery, clothes, accessories.

I also wouldn't spend a lot of time at all thinking about anyone else's jewellery.

If Im pushed for an opinion, I'd think you're very smart for not getting into debt over a ring!

the trouble with rings at this price point bought from Instagram shops is they are mass produced and made of crap materials that may look okay when they first arrive but quickly start to lose shine/colour/stones etc. Insta shops quite often buy from somewhere like AliExpress and mark up the price twenty times and STILL only sell for 40£.
This is a ring that you would (hopefully) wear for the rest of your life, get it from a proper jeweller.

agree with @heavyistheheed

My lovely DH asked recently if I wanted to upgrade mine too. I said no, like you as it wouldn't then be my engagement ring. The look on his face was complete shock.

He suprised me with an eternity ring instead.

You have literally done the same as you are accusing the other poster of.

I know right the post from @KatesMott made me chuckle, boasting that her diamond must be better quality than the other poster. Sounded like something my five year old
would say. cringe 😬

Soooo much unbridled jealousy

It's a lovely ring.

Its really lovely, and if you love it that’s all that matters. I do think it looks very obviously CZ, but there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re not worried about that I think it’s fine

It is tacky,it’s tacky as tits but if you like it then why the hell are you worried about what other people think?!