I LOVE my engagement ring - but worried it looks tacky?

[princesspollysmum]

My (for now) BF let me pick my engagement ring. Would’ve spent up to £100 on it but I knew he wasn’t having the best time financially and we have other priorities (our 1 year old, a house, car payments etc). I follow a company on Instagram and the rings she has are all cubic zirconia and sterling silver for £40-£60. Mine was in the £40 range but is BEAUTIFUL. Her rings don’t rust or turn fingers green and are really sparkly. It’s much bigger in person than the pictures made it look which is my concern … don’t want to look like a wannabe WAG (my boyfriend dies football and worried his group might say something! Or the girlfriends from the group!)

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

Mine are white gold too and going strong. I also have silver rings that are over 20 years old.

How is this wrong? Genuinely, how is it wrong, of course a forty quid ring is unlikely to be durable and of course any one who knows rhem knows it will be fake and they can’t afford tens of thousands on the real thing. At no point did I say she should wish an expensive ring.

Dirtylittleroses, your posts come across as quite disdainful, 'cheap copy' 'costume jewellery' - there isn't a law as to what an engagement ring should be. The bollocks about diamonds and several months salary, as pp have pointed out, came about due to a very successful advertising campaign by a jewellers. Engagement rings generally are a pretty modern thing, especially for plebs like us .

I wouldn't have a clue what a piece of jewellery cost. You don't measure love in ££££.

My own engagement ring is a garnet and pearl second hand antique. It didn't cost much. I love it. But I love my husband more......

Blimey is Rebekah Vardy on here?

It looks gorgeous on your hand, really suits you. Doesn't look tacky at all. You have gorgeous hands btw - well, one gorgeous hand, the other could look like a goblin's for all I know. It's really pretty and it wouldn't even occur to me to wonder if it was 'real' (the ring not the hand...)

It's what the ring signifies that counts - the commitment. You could make a ring out of twisty twine or glass or...anything and it would still be the sentiment that mattered.

You could make a ring out of twisty twine or glass or...anything and it would still be the sentiment that mattered.

It wouldn't last very long though

It looks lovely. Your love and your home together are much more important. Good luck.

My dad proposed to my mum and then they went and chose a ring together that was pretty cheap and small, because firstly it wasn’t a “thing” to spend thousands back then and secondly they wanted to save for a house.
They've been happily married for 54 years now and my mum still loves that ring.
Don't get swept up in the thinking that you have to spend loads on wedding stuff, the marriage is the important bit, the wedding is just one fun day.

I’ve also had my white gold ring for 18 years, still totally perfect! I had it re dipped about 5 years ago and it still looks great.

Except @Ozgirl75, her ring is not white gold it’s sterling silver. That’s a significant difference.

Nothing wrong with a bit of tack. Is tack a crime?
You care what strangers think? Stop that, it's wasted time worrying about what people think on things that literally don't matter.

Even if someone did say 'your engagement ring is tacky' you say 'thanks, I love it! Love a bit of tack!'

I think it’s beautiful!

I like this story more than the smart alecs spending £13K+ on a ring like some Z lister!

you don’t do yourself any favours saying stuff like this. You come across just as badly as those saying that a cheap ring is tacky. It just makes you look jealous of those who can afford to pay for an expensive ring.

Look, I am not engaged, I don't want to be, so there is nothing to be jealous of. I would spend that money on something else, that's all.