I LOVE my engagement ring - but worried it looks tacky?

[princesspollysmum]

My (for now) BF let me pick my engagement ring. Would’ve spent up to £100 on it but I knew he wasn’t having the best time financially and we have other priorities (our 1 year old, a house, car payments etc). I follow a company on Instagram and the rings she has are all cubic zirconia and sterling silver for £40-£60. Mine was in the £40 range but is BEAUTIFUL. Her rings don’t rust or turn fingers green and are really sparkly. It’s much bigger in person than the pictures made it look which is my concern … don’t want to look like a wannabe WAG (my boyfriend dies football and worried his group might say something! Or the girlfriends from the group!)

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

It's a beautiful ring and all that matters is that you love it and love your boyfriend. Can I ask the name of the company please? Would love to see more examples of their work

I was JUST about to say the same! @Marston01 that's a lovely story. And many congratulations on losing the 10 stone. 😘👏🤗 No worries about the old rings not fitting. Happens to lots of people, usually because they have gained weight though, not lost it! Wearing the new ones and keeping the other ones on a chain, or just safe in a jewellery box is good too.

So bemused by these comments, I assume people are just being kind. She’s worried about people who know them and what they will think. And one hundred percent they will all know immediately she’s wearing a cheap copy, they will clearly know they are not so wealthy as to spend tens of thousands on a ring. And there is a potential she will feel uncomfortable when they say let’s see the ring then and she shows them that. She’s also going to have comments and be forced to either lie and look like a twat or say god no it’s just cubic zirconia. All of them will have seen those rings on line.

Only strangers will not be sure, but every single person who knows her will know immediately , and it’s not right to pretend they might think she’s Got thirty grands worth of ring on her finger. So she might be better going for something more believable.

it’s also not going to be a ring that lasts her forever, it’s costume jewellery. If that’s what she wants then fine, but otherwise she’s better going for something that will last a life time.

@Dirtylittleroses I think it’s more that people are reassuring OP that it doesn’t actually need to be a diamond. MANY people these days choose something other than a mined diamond for ethical reasons.

The fad of an engagement having to be a diamond was relatively short lived in the grand scheme of things. Before the De Beers adverts in the 40s and 50s people generally chose emerald or sapphire.

Its a bit old fashioned to look at an engagement ring and assume diamond.

It's lovely, wear it with pride

i agree with @TheFoxAndTheStar .
if you want cheap go straight to the source with the ali express link or wish?
why even bother with the 40 expense when the true value is more like 4.
i don't know to many men would would be proud to show off that purchase either. they will be telling their friends it's just a joke.

OMG @fallfallfall that is not what I was saying at all!

I think OP’s ring is lovely.

you're right @TheFoxAndTheStar i agree with @Dirtylittleroses sorry for the mix up.
nothing wrong with the design. and it's not about a diamond vs other stone.

Roll on the day when women don't judge other women based on the value of their engagement ring. Judging by this miserable post we have a way to go.

Roll on the day when women don't judge other women based on the value of their engagement ring

Quite. Mine was inexpensive - from Argos in fact - but I still like the design of it 17 years later.

It's suits your hand...

I think you are wise not to waste money on material items like expensive jewelry and focusing on what's really important. If only there were more people like you x

Urgh, what a vile post.

@orwellwasright right?! You are spot on to highlight this.

What's the need for such a long winded critical comment. Just because something isn't worth 30 grand doesn't make it tacky. Absolutely not. The attitude displayed by dirty is tacky.

You are wrong and what an awful post. Most people aren't small minded. Not everyone is snobby and sees £ signs when they see engagement rings. Most are extremely happy for the couple.

BTW the person I know who had an extremely expensive ring (more than the figure you quoted), the marriage didn't last 3 years. Give me a cheaper ring anyday.

OP it's lovely and suits you

why do women not value themselves? she has set the bar very low, her man does not have to inconvenience himself what so ever over 40 quid.
i suspect he won't rise to the occasional anniversary, christmas or mother's day gift either. why should he, plastic tat is fine for one of the most important decisions of a lifetime.

Your post says more about you, than the OP...

A gesture of love knows no bounds and so no ring you could wear on your finger from a man who loves you so deeply as to spend his whole life with you could ever look or feel cheap or tacky. If this is the token you wish him to give you, wear it with pride as you have met your companion on the eternal journey of not just this life but the next.

@PaddingtonBearStareAgain , what does it say about me? I value marriage, I think it’s a massive important step.
I think both partners need to step forward through life’s challenges.
choosing plastic is the op, settling. What has this fellow given up for her? A beer at the pub with his friends?
he needs to show his commitment to a lifelong (hopefully) partnership and a big symbolic step of this lifelong commitment is the ring. It too needs to endure this ring won’t.

Or perhaps her man doesn't have an unlimited budget and was pleased to find a ring the OP liked that was affordable for them both.

What, really, is the point of a hugely expensive ring? There isn't one.

The cost of the ring on your finger bares no resemblance to anything.

Your post is snobby and unnecessary.

As I said you can have the most expensive ring and a crap marriage.

in theory if the marriage is crap you can take your gem to the bank (sadly not in keeping with the current economic conditions).

Interesting, my white gold engagement and wedding rings have lasted years and still the same shape as ever.

Not doubting your experience but my silver ring got mis shapen and they did not.

There's a reason white gold costs more

I'm glad you said that, I've had my white gold 18 carat rings for over 40 years.

It looks lovely! Congrats!

Love 🤩