I LOVE my engagement ring - but worried it looks tacky?

[princesspollysmum]

My (for now) BF let me pick my engagement ring. Would’ve spent up to £100 on it but I knew he wasn’t having the best time financially and we have other priorities (our 1 year old, a house, car payments etc). I follow a company on Instagram and the rings she has are all cubic zirconia and sterling silver for £40-£60. Mine was in the £40 range but is BEAUTIFUL. Her rings don’t rust or turn fingers green and are really sparkly. It’s much bigger in person than the pictures made it look which is my concern … don’t want to look like a wannabe WAG (my boyfriend dies football and worried his group might say something! Or the girlfriends from the group!)

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

I have literally never noticed anyone's engagement ring, unless they've asked me to look at it. I really wouldn't worry!

What tiny photo issue? The photos are fine, the same as they always have been.

It’s pretty but the size makes it obvious that it’s a fake stone.

Think I’ve voted wrong, but I voted YABU as I think it’s a pretty ring and you should be proud of it. Enjoy and congratulations

Op has a £100 budget. Why link to a diamond website where they cheapest ring is over 5 times their budget?

It’s lovely and I think it’s lovely and sweet you went for something that isn’t stupidly expensive. My DH and I did the same. My only comment would be would you worry about it getting caught on something - I say that as someone who can’t wear bigger rings as they hurt my knuckles 😂🙈

Be honest with me - if you saw this on a lady would you think it looked cheap, tacky? What would your thoughts be. And don’t say it shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t to me but want to prepare myself for what others might say to me! I love him and don’t care how much it costs.

But it doesn’t matter* *if, as you say, you love it and don’t care how much it costs! Just enjoy your ring and, more importantly, your engagement 🙂

Where is it from? Pm me if you don't want to put it public?

If anyone asks you where it came from, just say 'It's a family piece. BF's mum wanted me to have it,' and that will shut them up.

It's a lovely ring and the kind of people who try to work out how much other people's engagement rings cost aren't worth caring about anyway.

I love it. It's the style I wanted but couldn't afford (and wasn't very popular at the time so no 'cheaper' versions).

Please link the seller, I'd like to replace my engagement ring and this would be perfect!

I would never look at it and think that must be fake but I agree with others that it would be mega expensive to be real. Mine was £1500 and is a much smaller diamond. And I would worry it wouldn't stand day to day wear but if you love ot who cares. Congratulations

It definitely doesn’t look real but that shouldn’t bother you! The whole “can only be engaged with diamonds” thing was a marketing ploy by de beers.

Aw, congrats OP - lovely ring!

I like it. Congratulations

Lovely ring. Congratulations! Wear it with pride and enjoy the sparkles.

Firstly congratulations. I think the ring is very pretty.

To anyone who asks tell them it is an ethical choice. My original engagement ring is a diamond solitaire but it didn't really mean that much to me, was also yellow gold and I have only ever worn silver jewellery but couldn't afford platinum at the time (24 years ago)

I now wear a Moisannite ring, the stone tests as a diamond but is grown in a lab. The band is silver. Cost me less than £100 because I bought it on Etsy and it is imported. My replacement wedding ring is a £10 titanium ring.

Or tell them it was your Grandmother's, no one questions an heirloom ring.

My engagement ring cost £30 was an old stone of my mum's put into a new ring. We didn't have much money when we got together. 22 years later I never regretted it. We spent our small savings on the best honeymoon ever. Was again relatively cheap but so special.

It’s too large to be a real diamond (unless you are very wealthy!) so people will know it’s not, but whether that’s an issue depends on whether you care or not.
Congratulations on your engagement.

It's a beautiful ring, it doesn't look tacky in the slightest. I would be very happy to wear that. Congratulations OP x

It is BIG, But the only thing that would concern me about that is catching it on stuff.
Silver wears quite fast, especially if you do gardening, but I commend you on your thriftiness- I never had an engagement ring, just a turquoise and silver ring that was £6!

Congratulations! I also think an engagement ring is a promise and should match the person wearing it as a symbol of love and acceptance - the stone etc. does not matter. My SIL’s is silver with flower engraving maybe cost £10 - was intended as a place holder but she didn’t want anything else as that represented the promise and commitment. Their marriage reflects this - more full of substance than show iykwim.

It’s lovely OP.

I’m a bit confused by those saying that people will know it’s not “real” because of the size. I think it’s a bit old fashioned to assume it has to be a diamond for an engagement ring. I would have assumed white sapphire because it is clear, but have seen plenty of people with similar sized non-diamond rings - blue sapphire, emerald etc - l think it was Kate who set the trend.

I don't wear an engagement or wedding ring.

Don't look at anyone else's.

Why would you care what anyone else thinks about the cost?

Its a pretty ring.
It is on that finger so its an engagement ring.
If it helps we were students when we got married and i didnt have one.
When we got married 8 just had a silver ring
. At 25 years I got a new wedding ring and a three stone diamond.
You do it your way. Enjoy !

Also in all honesty I find diamonds a bit tacky. It's a weird concept that a shiny stone is somehow important. the only important thing is that you are good together and love each other.