Won’t let nephew kiss baby

[cm1010]

I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable here and if I have a reason to be upset. I went to the zoo today with my parents, other half, sister, her other half and their three year old son and my five month old daughter. My nephew loves his cousin but likes to try and kiss her which I don't like. Today he went to kiss her on the lips whilst my mum was holding her so I put my hand on his shoulder to prevent him getting closer (he always has a cough and a runny nose) and I told him to kiss her on her hair instead (where I wipe straight afterwards) so my nephews dad then mumbled 'he's just a kid no need to push him' which he didn't say to my face but so I could hear. My nephew wasn't upset but this upset me because I feel I have every right to protect my baby and I did not push him away I simply put my hand on him to stop him touching her lips. My sister also asked why he's not allowed to kiss her on the lips. I was having a lovely day but it kind of ruined it for me :(

Oh bless her 😞 I feel sorry for you poor daughter as my mum suffers with them
and says they are painful. This is what worries me and if my nephew was to catch it, he wouldn’t know the symptoms of one coming on and could have kissed my little one before anyone even realises!

Yep, but for Alder Hey hospital my DD would have died from Herpes Simplex.
It's not worth the risk.

It is actually quite scary, one little kiss and others on here saying it doesn’t hurt ☹️ I’m so glad your little one got through it.

What is PFB???

Just make it clear that no one is to kiss baby on the lips. He might only be 3 but there's no need for him to kiss on lips, he obvs does it as this is something normal for him. My 3 year old has always kissed babies in the family, on the head, cheek or hand.
I don't like anyone kissing baby on lips at all, there's absolutely no need with the amount of germs we all carry. A parent doing it is one thing, but anyone else is a big fat no.

@cm1010 I don't think you're being at all unreasonable - it's disgusting that your poor baby girl should be subjected to a snotty, germy kiss! Your nephew doesn't need to & has no right to kiss her on the lips - or anywhere else, for that matter - your family needs to stop being a bunch of twats & respect your constantly repeated wishes.

I can get a bit PFB, less so now than I was when she was born but even I think you're being a bit OTT with the wiping her head afterwards, I think my family would just deal with that with an eye roll. Also you're nephew is so little, he wouldn't understand so I think had I been his dad I'd be a bit pissed off too.

On the flip side I wouldn't want anyone kissing my 6 month old daughter on lips. I don't even kiss her on the lips myself as her little mouth is so perfect I don't like to contaminate it with my aul kisser.

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'Precious first born.'

In my experience of MN, it's used as a derogatory term aimed at new mums who display protective behaviours towards their babies. Often accompanied by a belittling tone. Example:

New mum: I have asked family not to kiss baby on the lips because I am concerned about passing germs and baby becoming ill
MNetter: I think you're being a bit PFB

As a new mum myself, I find it really grating.

Another example:

New mum: I don't want my baby to be left with a great wad of snot on her head, so I give it a quick wipe after she's been kissed by her snotty 3yo cousin
MNetter (who presumably would be happy to wander around with a great wad of snot on their heads): I think you're being a bit PFB

😏

Going into panic made was very OTT! Panic mode would've been that your DD was about to climb into the lion enclosure.

I have really bad anxiety that makes it happen, I can’t really control it..

"Panic mode" is a very subjective thing to say and there are obviously different levels of panic. Most people would obviously panic more if their child was in immediate danger than in this situation, but that doesn't mean it's over dramatic in this context, unless you're screaming and hyperventilating, which is unlikely.