It hurt feelings - yes, a lot of female feelings have been radically affected too, not least by the death threats and rape threats and being excluded from rape crisis centres and refuges. No one cares.
So either feelings matter - full stop, in which case the TQ+ politics and community needs to start making clear that female people have equal right to feel safe and unhurt and experience sensitivity and kindness, or you are advocating for a two tier society in which TQ+ people are special and treated in a special way that mere females aren't entitled to. No, not supporting that, it's never going to end well for anyone, is it? I mean it's been bobbins so far.
And this constant expectation that to 'like trans people' would mean never mentioning anything that potentially may upset one - this just silences women from saying what they need to about the impact upon them, their access, their equality, their legal rights. I don't care about your lovely friend and how wonderful they are - I have lovely trans friends too, and I also have lovely friends who can no longer use spaces or resources they need because they have been excluded from anything so that male TQ+ people may choose the provision that best suits their sense of self. This is really not ok unless you have a deeply held belief that females are lesser humans than TQ+ ones.
Women have been forced to the discourtesy of getting blunter and blunter because no one is listening and to say a word causes accusations of 'you don't like trans people' (or you wouldn't have needs or care about anyone else who has needs that conflict with removing their provisions and access). Seriously? It's been made one or the other. Women's language is being removed and if they argue back it's 'hate'. It's 'anti trans'. And yet women when forced to get blunt and say a clear no and be clear about the reality that however distressing it may be to a TQ+ person biology does not change and females need to be able to say so and have this recognised - get told how horrible they're being for not shutting up, putting up and revolving their lives around the male people with these special needs.
And you're startled this has caused resentment? Most of us here spent years being very 'kind' until we realised, there was never going to be any reciprocation. Just endless scolding and shaming and male-centrism.
There's a few women I'd dearly love to introduce Emma Watson to and open her very privileged eyes to who she is causing harm to every time she insists that feminism means excluding some vulnerable females from society to be nice to male born people. These are facts. They are not ok. I will not pretend otherwise.