Where were you at at 32?

[Dinglehopper12]

Hello,

I am married with 2 kids and an ok job (£4 per hour over NMW)

every one on mumsnet seems to earn millions!!

I feel so filled with envy when I hear of people from school that have done well, should I have achieved more with my life?

don’t want to feel like a failure as obviously that is just negative.

Married for 8 years ish, two primary school aged children with disabilities and just moved up here after living down south for those 8 years.

I'd become disabled, we'd closed our business, sold our house and moved up here where services for children actually existed as opposed to the area we were in where the LA seemed to treat every disabled child like a threat to national security. Fuck you, Hertfordshire you wankers

Married, 4 kids, sahm. Do struggle financially.

At 32 i was married and and a stepmum to 2 wonderful stepsons (i still am) i was unemployed and had cared for my father in law for 12 years who had early onset dementia, when i was 32 he was diagnosed with cancer i nursed him until his last breath. Now at 34 i have a fantastic job working for the NHS and i am working towards starting my masters degree.

At 32 i thought i had nothing going for me....at 34 my life is just beginning and it love it!!

I'm 32 and pregnant with 2nd child, working part time in a professional role earning just under 50k and married for 6 years. Bought first house at 25 and moved to current 4 bed detached last year.

Pregnant with a 3rd child. Working in a part-time admin job, having been regraded differently to everyone else. In a long term - nearly 10 years long relationship. Now fulltime, managerial role, chance of a step up (other colleagues on the higher grading remained where they were). Three teen kids and a new relationship. I’ve also got pets now and didn’t have them then.

Had been married for 10 years. Good job. Just moved north on promotion and about to buy a beautiful new bungalow which we would live in for the next 14 years. Will start trying for a baby in a couple of years but takes longer than expected and DS doesn't come along until I'm 36. That was 30 years ago!

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I’m that age now.

Happily Married with my own kids who are aged 13, 10 and 7.

I have a degree and a great job. I’m proud of what I’ve achieved considering I was a council estate kid. Completely self made and very happy indeed.

Married, career, one child.

Honestly I really don't get the "filled with envy" part - granted some people do get lucky with their lives but most of us have worked really bloody hard to get where we are. I had 2 degrees and a professional qualification by 32......

Can you honestly say OP that you worked hard for your "ok job" - was there more that you could have done to get the job that either paid mega money or one that satisfied you to the point you wouldn't need to make this thread?

Many years ago, I was about to have ds2. I had a great job I loved, doing accounts. Not much has changed now. I'm older, been too a few more countries. Life is fine.

At 32, I’d been divorced from an abusive arsehole for 2 years, was a single mother of 3 and had just started a STEM degree at an RG Uni. After doing an Access course at college when I was 31.

I am now 36 and starting my Masters later this year.

I had to split my second year of UG into part time due to lockdowns, which added an extra year, but I’ve just finished my final year exams.

My life totally changed at 32
I married DH in Cyprus with just dd(17 at the time) and my niece present.
We moved into our Self-build forever home and it was one of the happiest times in my life.
At 32 I was oblivious to the horrific heartbreak ahead 💔💔

I'm 32 now. Married with 2 children - a preschooler and a newborn. I'm a sahm which is what I always wanted.

I was widowed with two young children.

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Huh. So many people married and with DC by 32! I had just left a failing toxic relationship, and soon after met my now DH. Earning around 35k. Now 42, two DC, earn a bit less as part time, but hoping to change that. Thirty two was an amazing year, I had so much fun and really felt at peak confidence. Enjoy it while you can!

I have just turned 32. I have been married 6 years, and we have a dog. We own a 4 bed house and earn a bit over 100k combined. No plans for children any time soon

About to embark on a PhD and the accompanying years of poverty.

Married, 2 dc, working PT in a job I love, just bought a house and plenty of time for adventures and fun with my kids. My priority is time with my kids which my lifestyle allows

I was homeless, working on the streets. Would be for another year ish before getting into a hostel and then into a council flat at 34. I'm a care worker now and earn very little but I'm happy with that. Friends my age have much more than I do, and so do my siblings, but I'm not them and I don't want to be.

Honestly I was a single mum to a toddler whose father was in prison working 15 hours a week and contemplating suicide. I'm now 35 and earning 70k with a new partner and own my own home. Things can change quickly if you really want it.

Living abroad, engaged, just bought first house, no kids. Teaching job with okay pay, lots of travel and time to myself

@ThinWomansBrain what is your comment referring to?

I'm 32 and often feel this way.

I am married with two children, a home owner and a part time worker. I don't have a career. I'm on just over £13 an hour at the moment.

Where as my husband (same age) is on 85ka and is still climbing the career ladder and will potentially be on whole lot more when we're 40.

Problem with me, is I don't have high expectations in myself. I don't believe I'm capable of doing anything more than I am.

I guess you're not alone in how you feel.

I love this.