Where were you at at 32?

[Dinglehopper12]

Hello,

I am married with 2 kids and an ok job (£4 per hour over NMW)

every one on mumsnet seems to earn millions!!

I feel so filled with envy when I hear of people from school that have done well, should I have achieved more with my life?

don’t want to feel like a failure as obviously that is just negative.

I was 32 in 2016, had been with DH for 12 years (married for 2) and earning £33k in a job I’d had for 3 years. I didn’t want DC and had an active social life and lots of fun hobbies.

Absolutely bloody miserable, in a toxic and dead relationship, working a crap job with long hours and little pay.

Thankfully 33 was my year and every year since has been better.
Never to late to set some new goals personally or professionally

Deputy Head in a primary school, own flat and to-be-DH had moved in with me 😀

I feel so filled with envy when I hear of people from school that have done well, should I have achieved more with my life?

It seems like maybe you had your kids younger? Everyone does things differently. I spent 23-34 focusing on my career and then had my dc. It was a struggle falling pregnant though. I wouldn't have done it differently though. You are SO young that you could retrain, further your studies and change job prospects. Don't write yourself off so early. Most importantly don't compare to others.

I was doing an Access course.

Married, but sadly no DC due to fertility issues, and was struggling with that. In a good job, but a lot of stress and company was closing down. Having to move to find a different job in place where had no friends/family.

Externally it all looked good/great, but it really was a struggle.

Im 32.

In a long term relationship of 15 years.
Have 2 kids.
Moving into our self build this year
Have a career and opportunities to progress.

But my MH is shit and no house or career can fix that.

I was 32 in 2017. I was about 6 months into my first qualified job in the NHS after gaining my PhD in 2016. I was on around 32k. I'd been with DP for around 18 months.

5 years later at 37, I've progressed to a senior role in my profession and now earn 50k. DP and I are still together (almost 7 years together now) and we have our first baby together who recently turned 1 year old.

We are still yet to become homeowners but hopefully that's achievable for us in the not too far distant future. 🙂

Actually it's 'unnecessary', unlike my apostrophe!

Were you able to spell unnecessary back then?

Were you also misspelling 'unnecessary' at 32? (Oh the irony of you picking up on someone else's errors!)

@PAFMO

Cross posted!

I was in Norway on a construction job about to quit because of some weirdo at work. Worst professional mistake I made.

Alone with 1 month old, alone throughout pregnancy, no friends left, moved to a new place where I knew hardly anyone & few transport options. Couple of bags of stuff to my name. Prior to that I had been a somewhat successful professional and had around £60k saved. But my mental health was shockingly bad leading me to end up that way.

Thankfully now at 40 I have a healthy successful 8 year old, £45k salary, reasonable house & savings. Mental health improved but not perfect. Still very few friends as a result of that but a bit more confident in myself.

At 32 I was recovering from being bullied at work. I make a decent wage. Been trying for a baby for the last three years, not married. No children. Feel as though I have no purpose.

progress and happiness isn’t always measured by loads of money or loads of achievements.

Was 20 years ago…
Living in London with my friend in her house. Had been going out with now DH for a couple of years but he was a bit of a commitmentphobe… I think I was earning about £65k a year.
Now have 2 kids, live about a mile from where I was living then and earn about £3k a year!

Oh and I was also unemployed at 32... go figure...

March 2017. I was married, trying to get pregnant. Earning double what I do now! Life has ups and downs.

I'd say the more the merrier when some patronising arse makes a complete fool of themselves!

At 32, I'd been married 11 years, my sons were then 10 and 7. I was a SAHM. Husband worked, and we had a mortgage when the interest rate then was 12.5

Only a couple of years ago for me!

I was pregnant with my first child, celebrating my 7 year wedding anniversary. Living in our step up house (four bed with views of the countyside) owned but with a mortgage. Earning £45k as a middle leader in a school. Happy with life then and still am!

I'm 32. Married, 1 child, own our 3 bed house, 92k household income (I work part time). I have high hopes for my 30s, lots of time to do anything we want to really!

That was a decade ago. I'd been married for ten years and had two children in the infants at primary school and I worked there part-time as a lunchtime supervisor, with my hours and responsibilities increasing as they got older and less needy, iyswim. I've since returned to full-time work as a teaching assistant and couldn't be happier with my life (well, without the fantasy lottery win 😀).

At 32 I was married, good career that was going well - and going through fertility treatment. And if you’d asked me I’d have swapped my career for your two children in a heartbeat.

I was working in the city working crazy hours but earning well. But that’s because I didn’t have kids until later. To each their own.