Teacher ripped pages out of dd’s book and then was overheard talking about her

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Dd (10) has been in tears since she came home today. They were doing a written piece of work and the teacher was wound up by a misbehaving child. Dd had crossed out a couple of words in her writing (neatly, using a ruler she said) but the teacher was angry that there was a crossing out in her work and ripped the page out in front of the whole class, threw it away and told her to do it again.

Shortly after dd had to get changed for PE and from the changing room overheard the teacher saying to the TA that dd had come up with ‘rubbish ideas’ in her work. Dd was crushed!

Im thinking of emailing the head to complain.

I am a teacher , I have an (internal) saying. ... I don't believe anything that they tell me their parents have done ..and visa versa. The versions of events are usually not as described

Excluding safeguarding concerns obviously

Also if she is upset you should speak to the teacher

Absolutely speak to the child's teacher about this.

Only read a few first responses and feel so sorry for any children of the posters that are saying this is BS or that your child has exaggerated things. You would hope your children go to you for everything that makes them upset/uncomfortable and to think of parents disbelieving their children from the get go is shocking. Poor kids.

Remind me not to send my children to your school then if that's how you are as a teacher.

@shas19 that was, of course, not what I meant FFS 🙄. The other side of the story would be that no scissors were thrown, obviously.

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@Johnnysgirl which part to you think didnt happen and why?

So you want me to believe everything even though stories don't marry up? Ok. Remind me not to have you on a jury

(And actually I meant everything not anything )

There’s a pretty big difference between anything and everything. Glad you corrected that.

It can often be the little details that matter so much in safeguarding cases. What I find scary about your statement isn’t the fact that you declare the bleeding obvious (that kids don’t always recollect or relay their experiences exactly as they happened) but your attitude… so black and white… insensitive and dismissive. I wouldn’t want you to be the adult in charge if I were a child in need. Certainly not my child.

I know you’re under pressure. I know your job is probably impossible sometimes. But don’t resort to blinkered thinking.

It takes a strong and resilient person to maintain a degree of sensitivity and be emotionally available to those in their care, in a world so full of arseholes and adversity.

Don’t mistake incompetence for strength.

I don’t know why everyone is saying it didn’t happen because similar happened to me at school except the teacher wasn’t overheard, he thought my work was rubbish, grabbed the book, stood in front of the whole class and declared it was rubbish and ripped pages out.

It’s not that unbelievable. Some teachers are just nasty and on a power trip.

@Thedogshouses what a delight you are. I'm sure your children are equally delightful. A joy to teach and to deal with you as a parent.

Yes they are. I don't feel any need to be constantly on at the school, it's just a part of life that once you are an adult, is over and done with. My husband 'retired' into teaching because he didn't want to be a trailing spouse and he has never looked back. He lives his job and has the best of both worlds, a job he loves and half the year off.

@Thedogshouses if he has half the year off he clearly doesn't work in a state school or you're not very good at maths.

I don't think they must be UK based. No school I know has a Principal.

Obviously not UK based, not a lot of offshore jobs left in Aberdeen. But teachers are teachers and schools are schools across the world and parents are parents. Makes no difference

99.5 % of teachers are British. 78% of parents are British. No difference.

No teacher in England gets half the year off.

I already told you I am an offshore (mainly) engineer in oil and gas.

Do you think he didn't get his status by working in the UK? Who would recruit a leader for an English school who hadn't worked their way through the UK system. He was in the fast track system under labour in the early 2000s. He is adamant that whilst school is intense, 180 days q year is different to taking a few weeks a year and being on email 24/7

Your poor DD. I would definitely complain, a very similar thing happened to my DS2, it upset him so much, I will never forgot it.

Forgot to say, school took it very seriously

I have reported your personal attack. Na.e calling is not OK.

She's not wrong though. That is how your posts have come across

If pages really do need to be removed then there are ways of doing that without making a child feel sgit about themselves