To not cater for this

[Just1moreq]

I'm cooking for 10 tonight. 5 couples, in the group there is someone who has a nut allergy and someone who has cealiocs (I've never figured the spelling) one of the pairs have just called to say that they are doing vegan weekends to reduce their carbon impact.... They are just checking that somethung tonight will be suitable... I've said it wont but that they are more than welcome to bring stuff. ... Am I being an unreasonable arse?

I'd love to know if this weekend-vegetarian couple actually show up if they aren't going to be eating with you and only coming for the cocktails.

Hope you have a lovely evening @Just1moreq

Cooking for friends used to be a pleasure, but more and more it’s becoming a pain in the arse

Depends on the friends I guess, but this kind of thing is why those who offer advance choices at weddings, etc., sometimes come to regret it

Because there are often those who use it as an opportunity for attention seeking

You can’t actually “do vegan weekends”. You either do everything you can to avoid animal products and suffering, or you don’t. You can’t be a part time vegan
This guest if part time plant-based

Exactly. Sounds like their reasons aren't to do with animal suffering but to do with environmental concerns -ie. cutting back on animal products but not cutting them out entirely in order to reduce carbon footprint.
Which is fair enough - and do similar myself, only eat meat a couple of days a week and usually when not at home - eat almost exclusively plant-based at home. However, no one knows about this and I don't make a song and a dance about it. These plant-based at the weekend people are twats - all they have to do is cut out the animal products on another day of the week. And virtue signallers too.

Why would anyone choose to be vegan on Saturday and Sunday of all days? If you're going to participate in purely gimmicky bollocks, at least pick two days where it doesn't make other peoples lives harder.

I'm guessing they don't normally do much socialising on weekends.

It's like a friend of mine who asked for gluten free when we went out for Chinese. I told the waitress that it was a diet choice and not an allergy.

Friend got cross with me and asked me why I told them that. I said "do you seriously want them to have to do all the extra work of making sure there is no cross contamination from trace amounts of gluten when both you and I know that you're likely to eat some of the spring rolls I've ordered anyway?"

She shut up at that point.

You don't make people do loads of extra work for a fad.

I’m vegan (all the time…not on arbitrary days) and I’d never expect you to provide anything and would always ask first if I can bring a suitable dish to go with the veg/whole dish if needed. And NEVER ask on the same day 🤦‍♀️

Why don’t they just change their two non meat days. They’re NOT vegan so why do they care when it is that they care about their carbon footprints? 🤷‍♀️

I have two fixed fast days a week but if I’m invited to a friends/or out for dinner then I’m bloody going to swap it.

Also I don’t give a monkeys about cross contamination.

I helped organise a charity Ball-

when we asked for food allergies etc we got answers like
don't like meat on the bone
don't like spicy food
don't like insert various food here

Not asking for preferences but things that might kill you!!

I have a nut allergy and would never presume that if I mentioned it on the day that they would be able to be nut free.
I'd eat what I can and won't waste away from what I can't

Terrible manners to say on the day-am 100% behind you @Just1moreq

For Part time vegans, no absolutely not being unreasonable. Of course they were full time that would be different, but then you would know that in advance.

they are idiots 🙄 and I say that as a life long vegetarian (doing it decades before it was trendy 😜)

I’ve only read the first page so this might have been mentioned already, but I think she’s saying that you have no compassion because you’re a meat eater, not because you won’t cater to your friend😂

What's compassionate about being vegan 2 days out of 7?

I’m a staunch meat eater. I reckon if I went back and checked, I’d have done 2 vegan days out of 7 without even trying.

Unacceptable to just give you short notice, plus their 'weekend vegan' thing is a fad, doubtful they'll still be doing it in 3 months. I always consider, 'would they ask the Queen for a vegan meal?' or to take off her shoes etc.

If they are truely doing a "vegan weekend", rather than a plant based weekend, you could possibly have some entertainment if/when they do arrive for drinks.

Not just the wine as mentioned above, but leather (e.g. shoes, handbag etc), woolen clothing, check whether any lipstick has lanolin, whether their skin care products they used that day are vegan etc etc etc.

They gave you six hours notice?!

i think I’d be texting them back saying that I’d already shopped and prepared most of it and it would certainly ADD to the carbon footprint to go out again and buy more stuff so they could make do or not.

silly arses though. Hope your dinner is going well!

I'll survive if they dont turn up at all, no big deal. Food is cooked, drinks are chilling and I am planning on drinking quite a few!

Enjoy your evening, OP! 🍹 🍹

Proper vegan you cater for

"Vegan weekends" can get to fuck.

Sorry I voted the wrong option 🤦🏻‍♀️ YANBU!!

The first 2 dietary requirements you should 100% cater for. The weekend vegans can do one. Maybe if they were always vegan and gave you more than a few hours notice...otherwise why can't they just do Sunday/Monday to reduce their carbon footprint? 🙄

Being vegan is a choice unlike a nut allergy or being coeliac. They could have given much more notice to their host. IMO the guests are the 'delightful' ones.

Completely agree. You either do all you can to avoid animal abuse and exploitation, or you don’t.
Every time an individual chooses a better option than animal abuse, it’s a positive step, but you can’t be a part time vegan.

I think they are being ridiculous and very rude they could eat vegan Sun/ Mon this week and no impact on carbon footprint.

How did it go? Did they turn up?

I need to know this too!

I think that they are rude and thoughtless to land this on you at the last minute. Entirely reasonable to let them bring their own stuff if they must!

DIL has always been veggie, no problem, I don’t eat meat. One weekend they came to stay ‘By the way’ said DS, ‘xxx is now vegan’ .
Sudden rethink of weekend meals.
Luckily we love her dearly and she is always very appreciative of the vegan food we make for her.