To not cater for this

[Just1moreq]

I'm cooking for 10 tonight. 5 couples, in the group there is someone who has a nut allergy and someone who has cealiocs (I've never figured the spelling) one of the pairs have just called to say that they are doing vegan weekends to reduce their carbon impact.... They are just checking that somethung tonight will be suitable... I've said it wont but that they are more than welcome to bring stuff. ... Am I being an unreasonable arse?

I hope that you'll say, when they arrive, that it was a pity that they couldn't have shifted their two days to Monday and Tuesday instead so they could have come earlier.

I can't stand faddy eaters.

Your part time vegan guest is so rude! The absolute brass neck of texting someone who has invited you to dinner with such a ridiculous request. They could make up for it by doing vegan Monday or something.

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Well, disinvite the 'friends' who gave you a few hours notice of their special dietary restrictions! That's beyond the pale rude, entitled and precious.

if a friend was visiting who is an actual vegan then of course you'd be out of order to not cater for them
Part-time vegans who do it for attention don't get to impress their carbon footprints on you, however. Especially at short notice

Accurately put; I've every patience with genuine vegans, but none at all for attention seekers

It's maybe a shame they're still coming round after you've eaten if they're going to use it to blast on about how they'd have loved to come earlier but simply couldn't "because of their principles"

Off the point but the gf Old El Paso range is excellent , my daughter is coeliac so we all have those products and they are perfectly ok for non coeliacs - which is not something you can always say .

Just serve them a massive salad 🤣

I do think it’s rude of them to give you such short notice. If it’s ok for them to eat meat during the weeks it’s hardly going to matter is it?

I wouldn’t really mind too much catering for these friends’ weekend vegan thing if I’d had proper notice about it. It’s the last minute bombshell that’s particularly rude.

When I was vegan I’d always have offered to bring stuff though, and I still do as a veggie now.

I'd suggest they reduce their carbon impact by staying at home

Perfect. I'd also point out the food waste that they've incurred.

It's a shame you're going to be grazing that food all night, isn't it?

Haven't read whole thread but how ridiculous of them. If you are serving any veg or salad tell them that is suitable or tell them the whole dinner won't work for them.

I wouldn’t really mind too much catering for these friends’ weekend vegan thing if I’d had proper notice about it

Neither would I, PurpleDaisies, but as you said it's the last minute notice that's done it (and where the attention seeking lies)

Maybe they've heard that OP's already catering for someone else's dietary needs, and are thinking they too would like to be seen as special ...

Tell them not to come. So rude

Perhaps the last minute vegans could see you next Tuesday? You sound like you're well matched

Seeing as you've already done the shopping and prepared the meal, the carbon footprint is a moot point surely. It would actually increase the carbon footprint for you to go out and buy vegan food. Also incredibly inconsiderate to give you such short notice. Just say that what you have planned isn't vegan but they are welcome to bring their own if they want to.

This one sounds as stupid as your friends.

They can either eat the food and do their vegan "look how great I am" days another day, or sit there and watch everyone else eat and look extremely foolish.

You can’t actually “do vegan weekends”. You either do everything you can to avoid animal products and suffering, or you don’t. You can’t be a part time vegan.
This guest if part time plant-based.

Weirdos. YANBU

I have dairy, egg and soy allergies so have to find vegan alternatives alot of the time. One thing that trips me up sometimes is wine. Alot of wine isn't vegan, its filtered with caseien or fish. So (in my pettiness) I would nip out and buy the least appetising vegan ready meal I could find, but make sure NONE of the wine is vegan. Then refuse to give them any as you "would hate to serve them something that goes against their weekend beliefs)

I don't think the OP is complaining about those guests with health issues but telling your host that you have become vegetarian with six hours notice is unreasonable. Add to this the fact that they are only vegetarian when it suits them makes it worse.

Why not ? She’s already catering for someone with Coeliac disease and another with a nut allergy. That’s compassionate and thoughtful for people who have a real dietary problem. Why should she extend that compassion to someone who has decided to be an entitled twat at a couple of hours notice ? Perfectly reasonable to say no and suggest they bring their own food if they still want to attend. Cooking for friends used to be a pleasure, but more and more it’s becoming a pain in the arse.

Good for you @Just1moreq for not caving in to their unreasonable request, funny how their principles didn't stretch far enough to provide the alternative they wanted themselves. Not very good friends expecting you to change/adapt everything at such short notice when they could easily have brought what they considered appropriate with them.

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Vegan weekend?! What utter pretentious twaddle! If they are truly vegan then yes but as it’s just for the weekend, why can’t that just be vegan in the week instead.

I've sent them a pic of the wine I got and told them I'm making margaritas, so if they aren't OK with that they will have to bring drinks

Excellent point OP!!!

Let's see if they produce their own vegan drinks or whether their willing to compromise their carbon footprint by drinking yours!!

Keep us posted

Nope. I will and do cater for any and all dietary requirements, but with 6 hours notice and on a whim? Not a chance! I think I would honestly have asked if they were joking!!! When I realised they weren’t, I’d have told them not to come. More Tex mex and Margaritas for you and your not rude friends!