To be conflicted over DH's hair

[JanesLittleGirl]

DH has always been a bit shit at getting his hair cut and will happily go 6 months between cuts. This has never bothered me but lockdown saw him go over 2 years without a cut so he ended up with shoulder-length hair tied up in a scruffy man-bun.

Finally I'd had enough of it so I made him an appointment with my hairdresser, Jo. I told her that he wanted to keep some of the length but I wanted it too short to tie in a bun. Apart from that she could use her imagination.

She gave him a Bob! A full on, stacked A-line bob with a high crown, side-swept fringe and points that curled under his chin. It would look really cute on a woman but on a man? Anyway, he likes it, Jo explained that she followed the brief (a bit of a stretch IMO) and DD styles it for him to keep it at max bouncy cuteness.

He even went back to Jo last week to get it cut again as she had told him that it needs to be cut every 6 weeks to keep its shape.

So I'm conflicted. On one hand, it's his hair, he, DD and friends who have commented seem to like it and I have to accept that it's neat and tidy and does sort of suit him. On the other hand, it's a bloody bob!

There is a complete difference in one person having a preference and voicing that and actually making decisions for another person.

If he decided what was attractive to him was for you to never cut or style your hair again and wear it to your waist and he called your haridresser to let them know to never again cut your hair - you wouldn't find that controlling? You would want to be attractive for him so you would do what he had decided you would do.

Just because you treat your husband like a child and control him, doesn't make it healthy. What OP has described it emotionally abusive.

And these are completely different responses then threads with sexes reveresed where even men voicing an opinion get shot down and called names....let along making the decision on the style their wife will have and calling the salon to tell them how to cut it and then voicing disapproval that isn't how they wanted it.

If OPs DH came on here saying the same thing and that he had decided he was only attracted to her if she was bald so he made her an appointment and told her she was having her head shaved, called the salon and told them to shave her head..and when she came home with only a pixie cut, he got annoyed and decided he still didn't like it and wasn't attracted to her because it wasn't exactly what he had said he had wanted....people wouldn't think it was just so haha funny and just part of being married.

Omg just shave it off when he's asleep.

Orlando Bloom, David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth, Colin Farrell, Tom Cruise, Johnny Depp, Kurt Cobain, countless rock stars…

@Justhereforthis

all exceptionally good looking men who could pull off anything.
If OP’s husband falls into that category, great. But he probably doesn’t as such good looking men are rare

It's his hair.

Keep kinda want to see a photo though.

Cant you think of it less as a man bob and more of a Prince Valiant style?
Maybe buy him a sword to go with it?

Can he zhuzh it up a bit with rollers and backcombing to make it look less of a mistake and more of a statement?

Or , you know, Robin Hood?

There I was thinking my DH's long hair tied in a pony tail aka ageing rocker complete with severe hair receding and bald patches was bad. Better than a man Bob any day!

It's his hair. Unclench a little.

😂😂😂😂

You reap what you sow OP!

I’m a pretty easygoing husband, but if my wife not only told me to get my hair cut but also briefed the hairdresser on how to do it, she’d be living at the Premier Inn until the divorce came through.

None of these have had stacked bobs apart from Depp as Willie Wonker and he looks like a paedophile.

This

put chewing gum on his pillow...

Me too, there is no place in my life for a man bob and I'd live with being called controlling. Luckily DH is bald so I don't have such problems😆

I was thinking the same. Imagine if this was reversed and he'd make the appointment for OP with instructions given to the hairdresser.

Did you mean to put DS but put DH by mistake?

Genuine question!

Like, I know it's wrong but...I wouldn't be okay with it.

Actually snorted with laughter at the photos here. Good work MNetters

We need a photo (blurred out face obviously).

🤣🤣

I'm wondering if the hairdresser knew full well what she was doing. She gave him a hairstyle that probably makes him look like a cross between a mediveal page and Zoolander extra, and is having a chuckle with her friends at the hairstyle she gave the husband of the overbearing wife.

That's hilarious we need photos

I could live with this??