To be conflicted over DH's hair

[JanesLittleGirl]

DH has always been a bit shit at getting his hair cut and will happily go 6 months between cuts. This has never bothered me but lockdown saw him go over 2 years without a cut so he ended up with shoulder-length hair tied up in a scruffy man-bun.

Finally I'd had enough of it so I made him an appointment with my hairdresser, Jo. I told her that he wanted to keep some of the length but I wanted it too short to tie in a bun. Apart from that she could use her imagination.

She gave him a Bob! A full on, stacked A-line bob with a high crown, side-swept fringe and points that curled under his chin. It would look really cute on a woman but on a man? Anyway, he likes it, Jo explained that she followed the brief (a bit of a stretch IMO) and DD styles it for him to keep it at max bouncy cuteness.

He even went back to Jo last week to get it cut again as she had told him that it needs to be cut every 6 weeks to keep its shape.

So I'm conflicted. On one hand, it's his hair, he, DD and friends who have commented seem to like it and I have to accept that it's neat and tidy and does sort of suit him. On the other hand, it's a bloody bob!

Rather than cut it off whilst he is sleeping, strap him to a chair and back comb it to fuck so that it has more of a spiky punk vibe. Give it loads of hairspray in case he tries combing it out.

On the positive side he is going to find it almost impossible to cheat on you.

Ooh no, as open to self expression as I am, I don’t admire a bob on a man. Just a personal quirk as I’m easy-ozie otherwise.

Personally I'd tell him or if I was patient I'd work for his mates to rip the piss.

If you think it is unforgivable to comment negatively on someone else's body or appearance, I'd tell him you only sleep with skin heads (or substitute preferred hair style).

If you don't want to sleep with him, I'd tell him I only go on holiday/ cook nice meals for/ smile at skin heads

And if that doesn't work, either embrace the bob or find a suitably coiffured alternative. Perhaps next time think bald.

Ditch the beard and it's almost exact

Omg i know its wrong and controlling and its his hair his choice but a Bob 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I'm trying to imagine my husband going to a hairdressers, booking an appointment for me and then telling them how I was to have it cut.

I just can't quite manage it.

My DH always has his hair cut too short and I don't think it suits him. I love it when it grows out a bit though so I don't say anything. It's his hair and I love him for him not for his hairstyle.

You sound a bit shallow tbh.

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I'm just here for the photos. 😂

Maybe he conspired with Jo to get a haircut his wife wouldn't like so that in future she'd mind her own business and let him have his hair how he wants it.

Bit unfortunate if he decides he does actually like it and his wife is stuck with it. Careful what you wish for.

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This really made me laugh.

So you had to chose and book the hairdresser and tell them what to do because your DH is so pathetic he can't manage basic self care ? Or you are controlling and took it upon yourself to decide how your dhs hair should be because you didn't like the bun. Either way the hairdo isn't the problem.

Just try being less weird, both of you. Its his hair.

Pleaseeeee show us a photo

Ohhh you are a mummy for him
Do you also change his nappy and wipe his bottom?

You sound completely unhinged and controlling.

Does your DH instruct Jo how to style and cut your hair???

I’m embarrassed for you , your poor fella

Oh my God, I’m dying. This thread.

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My contribution is this bad boy - not because it’s a man bob, but just because it’s the ‘do that came to mind on seeing many of the photographic contributions thus far.

I'm imagining an Anna wintour style . Sorry op but this whole scenario is fuckin hilarious 😂

Wow 😳 Can't imagine being this involved with DHs hair!

Can't begin to imagine what DH would say if I instructed a hairdresser what to do with his hair.

Not really buying the follow up version of events where he apparently asked you to book an appointment and tell them what to do. In your OP you said YOU'd had enough of it, booked him an appointment and told the hairdresser what YOU wanted it to be like. That sounds more like you took charge and told him he was getting it cut. Third party instructions to a hairdresser regarding style rarely ends well unless it's for a very young child.

Is it possible that he wasn't happy about the whole thing and there is some malicious compliance going on?

If not, and he's happy with it, then ultimately he's a grown man and it's his hair so maybe let him decide his own hairstyle in future. It sounds like he got the haircut YOU asked for so either let him make his own haircut decisions or, if he DID instruct you to make the appointment and tell the hairdresser what he wanted, you need to work on your communication skills.

Imagine the uproar if a woman posted on here that her husband had made her go for a haircut she didn't want, dictated the style to the hairdresser himself, then got upset when it didn't come out the way he wanted it.