To think I should get a lie in at the weekends?

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I’m the one who deals with night wakings plus have to be up much earlier than DH in the week so to my mind the weekend is the only time I can catch up on a bit of sleep - or AIBU?

Saturday/Sunday should 100% your days to lie in.

Do you work?

Why are you doing all the night waking?

A day each is probably the best split.

Nope you are DNBU.

I do work and have to be out of the house by half seven.

DH starts work at 830 and wfh.

Every needs to be split - one lie in each per weekend, he needs to be dealing with night wakings too.

So how many parents are there?

Of course you should. Why does he say you shouldn’t?

DH and I split the nights fairly equally (two toddlers sharing a room, it’s hit and miss). Most mornings he gets up before me, does some housework and brings me a coffee because I’m an awful morning person. When I was doing a lot of night feeds he let me sleep in for as long as possible. Now it does depend. Whoever has had the worst night gets a lie in if needed.

Should be alternate nights imo.

@airrrrAIRRRRiELLLL I am really sorry but I genuinely don’t know what you mean.

I feel I should be able to catch up on sleep both Saturday and Sunday as I’m doing more in the week and at night. But just wondering if I am being a lazy arse

I think you should both get a lie in each, one Saturday and one Sunday.

you are BOTH parents.

shared night wakes and a morning lie in each

We can’t share nights so that’s why I do need all the sleep I can get!

Who does the childcare runs to nursery?

What time do you get home versus what time oh finishes?

Why can you not share nights?

How old are the children?

Why can’t he get up during the night?

What time do you go to bed?

I work longer hours out of the house than my DH and I’ve never thought this should mean I get a lie in at the weekends - working place and pattern can’t be helped.

BUT he needs to take his fair share overnight. Then both of you can have a lie in at the weekend, or you’ll both feel slightly more refreshed to get up and out.

If he's getting up at 8am every day and never doing night waking he doesn't need a lie in.

So when will your partner ever get a lie in?

Share the night waking as far as possible. Even if you are breastfeeding you can get baby taken to you and nappies can be dealt with by others

@Portiasparty thats sort of how I see it, he’s getting a much better nights sleep than me plus not up so early.

I do all the nursery runs.

Why can you not share nights?

And this?

@Enko so if we did that that’s just two tired parents not one … I don’t want to wake DH just for the sake of things being ‘fair’ but I am permanently exhausted and I desperately need to catch up on some sleep!

But there is a consensus here so fair enough … but it does seem a bit much that I’m up at 6 six days a week and DH only one!

If you have to be out of the house at 07:30 and he starts WFH at 08:30, who is getting the child ready for nursery?
I used to have that same set up in reverse (me WFH) but my now XH still did nursery - cos it was on his way to work. And I did all night as I was breastfeeding.

Why isn’t he doing any night wakings?

More fool you then. Though can't really complain if you haven't made it fair in the first place.

its me who gets dc up and ready for nursery.