let me start this by saying I absolutely LOVE my parents dog - I was still at home when they got her, so I’m not completing detached from her!
Anyway, I’ve just moved into my first home with my partner, we live about 45 minutes away now from both sets of parents (the only affordable place left in our county.) My parents came round to see the house when we first got it, about three weeks ago, and I’ve invited them round to see the progress of it this weekend.
My mum said they want to come, but they’d like to bring the dog. I said they can bring her, but she’s not allowed on the carpet. I have a brand new home, with cream carpet. We have no pets or children, so it will stay clean, because I want it to. For reference, she’s a very hairy, smelly cocker spaniel. I’ve said the dog can come in the kitchen, but apparently that isn’t ok…
Anyway - they don’t want to leave the dog for hours on end, which is completely fair enough. However, they would be gone for four/five hours MAX. Plus, my 30 year old brother lives at home! I got frustrated with my mum and this is verbatim the text she sent: “I don’t want her to be alone. Minimum of 50 mins to you, and back so that leaves a couple of hours max at yours….simple, you come here 😊”
Am I being unreasonable?! Just the way she worded the text, expecting me to drive 50 minutes away because of the dog, even though I have invited them to mine. I don’t mind driving to them, but it’s the principle.
Am I going to spend my whole life only travelling to them because they have a dog? 🤦🏻♀️ Really needed to vent because I’m so angry!
AIBU?
Parents won’t come round without the dog - but I have a brand new house, with a cream carpet
rightonthemoney · 19/05/2022 20:49
Am I being unreasonable?
860 votes. Final results.
POLLMuseumland · 19/05/2022 22:06
I wouldn't want to leave my dog at the weekend unless there was no other option, for example a wedding or something similar. I think your parents might be thinking that the dog is part of their family and loved by them and you are putting your carpets ahead of that.
rightonthemoney · 19/05/2022 21:50
I’d never stop people from bringing their children to my home.. I have small nephews of my own. I also do want my own children on day. However, for now, I don’t want a dog walking all over my brand new carpet.
AnotherAnxiousMess · 19/05/2022 21:46
It’s your house, your rules…. I get that it’s nice and new and you want it to stay that way for as long as possible, but if you want it to be that way, you’re probably best not to have any visitors at all. Dogs aren’t the only messy ones, I have 2 young kids that are twice more likely to cause mess than my dog… but no one’s ever told me I can’t bring them with me to their home.
yikesanotherbooboo · 19/05/2022 22:34
Are you really putting your inanimate carpet and its cleanliness above the comfort of your parents?
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AnotherAnxiousMess · 19/05/2022 22:10
My daughter once got her dirty pizza hands on my brothers brand new sofa... If your nephew is invited to your home, there’s a good chance your carpet isn’t going to stay nice and new for long anyway…
rightonthemoney · 19/05/2022 21:50
I’d never stop people from bringing their children to my home.. I have small nephews of my own. I also do want my own children on day. However, for now, I don’t want a dog walking all over my brand new carpet.
AnotherAnxiousMess · 19/05/2022 21:46
It’s your house, your rules…. I get that it’s nice and new and you want it to stay that way for as long as possible, but if you want it to be that way, you’re probably best not to have any visitors at all. Dogs aren’t the only messy ones, I have 2 young kids that are twice more likely to cause mess than my dog… but no one’s ever told me I can’t bring them with me to their home.
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