let me start this by saying I absolutely LOVE my parents dog - I was still at home when they got her, so I’m not completing detached from her!
Anyway, I’ve just moved into my first home with my partner, we live about 45 minutes away now from both sets of parents (the only affordable place left in our county.) My parents came round to see the house when we first got it, about three weeks ago, and I’ve invited them round to see the progress of it this weekend.
My mum said they want to come, but they’d like to bring the dog. I said they can bring her, but she’s not allowed on the carpet. I have a brand new home, with cream carpet. We have no pets or children, so it will stay clean, because I want it to. For reference, she’s a very hairy, smelly cocker spaniel. I’ve said the dog can come in the kitchen, but apparently that isn’t ok…
Anyway - they don’t want to leave the dog for hours on end, which is completely fair enough. However, they would be gone for four/five hours MAX. Plus, my 30 year old brother lives at home! I got frustrated with my mum and this is verbatim the text she sent: “I don’t want her to be alone. Minimum of 50 mins to you, and back so that leaves a couple of hours max at yours….simple, you come here 😊”
Am I being unreasonable?! Just the way she worded the text, expecting me to drive 50 minutes away because of the dog, even though I have invited them to mine. I don’t mind driving to them, but it’s the principle.
Am I going to spend my whole life only travelling to them because they have a dog? 🤦🏻♀️ Really needed to vent because I’m so angry!
AIBU?
Parents won’t come round without the dog - but I have a brand new house, with a cream carpet
rightonthemoney · 19/05/2022 20:49
Am I being unreasonable?
860 votes. Final results.
POLLRampantIvy · 26/05/2022 20:20
are you OK with them sitting around your house barefoot (assuming you don't provide slippers)?
Yes. Why wouldn't I be?
I don't share the weird distaste that some mumsnetters have for bare feet. My friends wear socks with trainers and if it is hot weather they wear sandals so their feet wouldn't be sweaty. Although, in hot weather we would be in the garden anyway.
CupidStunt22 · 26/05/2022 20:07
Well thats insane
youdothemaths · 26/05/2022 14:50
Something that's just occurred to me: those who are in the shoes-off brigade, if someone has come without socks/tights on, are you OK with them sitting around your house barefoot (assuming you don't provide slippers)?
I think I'd have far more of a problem with the idea of someone's foot sweat on my carpets than the soles of their shoes, personally. Especially in summer.
youdothemaths · 26/05/2022 14:50
Something that's just occurred to me: those who are in the shoes-off brigade, if someone has come without socks/tights on, are you OK with them sitting around your house barefoot (assuming you don't provide slippers)?
I think I'd have far more of a problem with the idea of someone's foot sweat on my carpets than the soles of their shoes, personally. Especially in summer.
youdothemaths · 26/05/2022 14:50
Something that's just occurred to me: those who are in the shoes-off brigade, if someone has come without socks/tights on, are you OK with them sitting around your house barefoot (assuming you don't provide slippers)?
I think I'd have far more of a problem with the idea of someone's foot sweat on my carpets than the soles of their shoes, personally. Especially in summer.
Classicblunder · 26/05/2022 11:57
@youdothemaths - genuine question, why are you uncomfortable without shoes?
I take my shoes off everywhere I go purely for comfort!
LuckySantangelo35 · 21/05/2022 08:59
@Mrpunchisagit
Any one who doesn’t take their shoes off in the house must have questionable hygiene in my opinion.
Have you seen the state of most streets in the Uk these days? Full of dog shit, proper minging.
You do not want to be walking around your house in the same shoes you’ve walked around outside in
Mrpunchisagit · 21/05/2022 08:20
don't want to live in a show house where people are terrified but we take our shoes off at the door and the kids aren't allowed to have messy food in the living room. We've still had plenty of spills (wine/coffee etc) and we just spray it and hope for the best! But if a friend brought a dog to visit, it'd be a kitchen/garden job!
how very odd. To people not realise carpets can be and should be cleaned and there are very few stains a professional can’t get out?
really surprised at all these people living with weird rules in their own homes so their carPets don’t get dirty.
Blossomtoes · 21/05/2022 12:37
Of course you could. Ours regularly goes into kennels. She’s spoilt rotten in there. No way am I never going to have a holiday in the sun again because I won’t leave the dog, despite loving her more than my bloke!
SillyLittleBiscuit · 21/05/2022 12:16
They come with us. We used to go Cyprus every year, now it’s Dorset 🤣 I couldn’t leave him for a week!
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Blossomtoes · 21/05/2022 12:37
Of course you could. Ours regularly goes into kennels. She’s spoilt rotten in there. No way am I never going to have a holiday in the sun again because I won’t leave the dog, despite loving her more than my bloke!
SillyLittleBiscuit · 21/05/2022 12:16
They come with us. We used to go Cyprus every year, now it’s Dorset 🤣 I couldn’t leave him for a week!
SillyLittleBiscuit · 21/05/2022 12:16
They come with us. We used to go Cyprus every year, now it’s Dorset 🤣 I couldn’t leave him for a week!
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