AIBU that football should not affect your mood

[EvertonSuck]

Everton have just lost. I now have to deal with a very pissed off husband - AIBU that my husband shouldn’t get too emotionally invested in something he has zero control over?

I’d understand a little bit more if he actually played on the bloody team!!

This is spot on.
YABVU to suggest people shouldn't be emotionally invested in sport.

I can get very excited at an underdog winning, or feel sad when my team gets relegated, just the same as I can cry at a film or TV drama or good book.

Never met a football fan who didn't strop about like a toddler when "their" team lost. It only seems to appeal to people who struggle with an adult emotional reaction.
How odd. I have known hundreds of football fans, and don't know anyone like this. I am thrilled when "we" win, disappointed when "we" lose, and even a bit sad, but I've never "stropped about like a toddler" and I've never "struggled with an adult emotional reaction" either

im single now and my ex(was together 21 years)wasn't in to rugby or football it was wrestling for him(as was i)so i dont have experience of stroppy men(any many woman as well) over football

but i wouldn't be "dealing" with anything, especial a mood

why should what ever football team losing affect(effect i can never get this right) your night.

if hes childish enough to throw moods and strops i would be either taken myself else where or putting him else where

like hell would something as significant as a bloody football match effect(see above) my evening

I felt quite elated when Emma Radecanu won her first major. I don’t know her, and only tend to watch Wimbledon normally, but I found it to be a wonderful story.

I’m quite amused that some people think that this emotional response makes me “like a toddler.”

Or is it maybe that it’s attaching one’s emotions to a football team specifically is the issue, and cheering Kelly Holmes to victory is somehow supposed to be different?

I'm with Stewart Lee on this one.

And for Everton, success is not getting relegated. 😂

why should what ever football team losing affect(effect i can never get this right) your night.

”Affect” is the one you need.

Cheering, people being happy about something is usually something that is pleasant to be around. As apposed to shouting, swearing and stamping / storming around which is unpleasant to be around.

The claims being made are that feeling emotional about a sports event is infantile and “like a toddler.” Are you admitting now that you may be wrong?

IMO there is nothing wrong with football fans being passionate and letting it affect their mood. Obviously, however, it is massively unreasonable if their mood then impacts others in anything more than a fairly trivial way.

IMO having a short sulk after the final whistle goes is fine... using it as an excuse to be abusive or violent or abandon all responsibilities for the next three weeks - not fine.

No, stomping around storming out is childish and toddler like, adults exposing other adults to those emotions is uncomfortable and unsettling. Toddlers can not help and control those emotions, adults can.

Snowing joy at something is positive and has no ill effect on those around them, therefore does not need as much regulation.

That’s some moving of the goalposts there.

Cheering, people being happy about something is usually something that is pleasant to be around. As apposed to shouting, swearing and stamping / storming around which is unpleasant to be around.

I agree shouting and swearing isn't pleasant to be around, but I - and I presume others - are answering the OP's question about "if she is BU to think football should not affect your mood" and "if she IBU to say he shouldn’t get too emotionally invested in something he has zero control over?"

That is where OP IBU. Of course it is fine to be emotionally invested in things.
If you are emotionally invested in something, then it is likely to affect your mood. Again, that is fine and normal, so the OP IBU.

Quite separately, if you asked if people like being around people who shout and swear, I personally would say "no". I mean, I know there are plenty on MN who love to demonstrate their love for swearing, so even that wouldn't get you full agreement. But what you seem to be confusing here is some kind of link between being emotional, and your mood being affected by something that upsets you or makes you happy, and then implying that everyone who is upset / disappointed / unhappy then behaves in a loud, aggressive, and offensive way.