My husband and I have a one year old, and he is due to go on his brother's stag do for two nights in June. It will be his second stag do of the year and the third time he has left me for more than one night to look after DS.
We live in a village and have only one car between us, which my husband bought. I did have my own car, but sold it as we used it so infrequently that I kept having to replace the battery.
My husband wants to take our only car on the stag do, which would leave me and DS car-less for the weekend (not great for emergencies and would leave me and DS house bound). I have offered to pay for a rental car for him to use, but he is insisting that he wants to take our car. My real problem is that I would have to move our very safe, but very heavy and difficult to install car seat into a rental car, just so he can take our car instead. Husband cannot fit the car seat as he's not very practical, and given that DS's safety is at stake, I'm not prepared to let him do a rubbish job of it.
Am I being unreasonable in expecting him to take a rental car so I don't have to fight with the car seat twice?
AIBU?
Husband taking only car on stag do
Clego · 19/05/2022 15:55
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLAquamarine1029 · 19/05/2022 15:57
You can't just plan ahead and stay home for a couple of days?
Hugasauras · 19/05/2022 15:59
Honestly for two nights I don't think it's a big deal? We live in a village too, but we could manage fine without a car for a couple of days over a weekend. We wouldn't be housebound though - we would just do stuff locally. I personally think it's unnecessary to pay for a rental car when we already have one that I could easily just not use for a couple of days.
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Aprilx · 19/05/2022 16:02
It does seem like it would be easier for him to take the rental rather than you, but only be a small margin surely? I live in the countryside too, DH has gone away for a weekend without me and to be honest it wouldn’t occur to us to hire a car for either of us. I would stock up the fridge and not go anywhere where I need to drive!
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Belephant · 19/05/2022 16:08
As a fellow rural-dweller, I understand what you're saying but also what if (god forbid) some emergency happens and she has to drive her children to the hospital? Good luck waiting for an ambulance in my neck of the woods. This is the main reason I personally would never be left without access to a car with my child.
Aprilx · 19/05/2022 16:02
It does seem like it would be easier for him to take the rental rather than you, but only be a small margin surely? I live in the countryside too, DH has gone away for a weekend without me and to be honest it wouldn’t occur to us to hire a car for either of us. I would stock up the fridge and not go anywhere where I need to drive!
Bathroom2022 · 19/05/2022 16:08
It's really selfish of him. We don't have access to even a shop without a car and I would feel completely miserable, and also worried in an emergency.
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