To think she should stay home with her child

[HomeSick2]

I'm home with a sick 1 year old who's unable to go to nursery, I've been off work Monday Tuesday and today because of this.

It's my DSDs time with her mum today, tomorrow and Friday (50:50) and she has rang my husband this morning at work to say DSD is poorly and can I look after her as I'm off work anyway and she has to go to work (erm so do I?!)

I've said no.

Firstly, it sounds like DSD has something different she's vomitting whereas DS has Covid like symptoms (although negative test). No sick but temp, cough, cold, and very clingy, and no sleep 😭. Could be the same thing but doesn't sound it and no way I want DS getting something else on top if I can help it nor do I want to spend the day clearing up another child's sick when I'm already knackered.

And secondly, her mum has made our life difficult on so many occasions I just have no interest in doing anything for her tbh.

I've said to DH she should take the day off herself for her child like I've had to with DS, considering its her day too.

You have yours today, she has hers today. Tomorrow your DH has both his children.

It's the only reasonable way.

OP has taken three days off work to look after her sick child. Either the ex or her DH should take time off their work to look after their sick child.

Being a working mum and the default parent for all sick days and hospital appointments, etc, does impact your career. In an ideal world it wouldn't, but the reality is that it does.

Every sick day, every missed meeting, every early finish because you've got to collect them from nursery - it all gets noticed by bosses and team members and it has an incremental negative impact. Why should OP have to take that hit so that her DH's ex never has to? Or her DH, for that matter?

It isn't though, because then both children are needlessly exposed to each other's illnesses , very unwise.

It's perfectly reasonable for her mother to have her on both days, as her dad did last time she was ill.

OP had already said that DH takes his share of the sick days for their DC.

Okay, well so can his ex then.