Rude Comments About Shopping

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3 adults plus DS at WE.Had reasonable amount for us ,and the week ahead .An old chap smiled behind me ,I smiled back .He then commented re amount saying " You dont have to buy the whole shop you know ,leave something for the rest of us!" I muttered a comment and felt annoyed and embarrassed .Had just general meals for Dinners, plus Bread ,sandwich fillings etc plus Loo rolls ,washing liquid and so on .No Alcohol or huge joints of Beef!

Honestly this is a non-issue.

The reason it’s genuinely older people who make comments is because there was a time you could have a chit chat with someone you don’t know and not be called a weirdo or rude etc.

Nowadays everyone is way too eager to be offended and if anyone says anything they must try and make a big deal out of it.

You we’re doing a big shop OP.
He would have seen people do big shops before but he was just making conversation.
Let it go.

We had those comments and look before even from the delivery person! It's annoying when you have to shop for a big family during pandemic, 2 adults, 2 teens (eat as much as me or more) and a 8 years old who eat well as well. People assumed we stock buy but our cupboards and fridge are empty weekly.

You should take a chill pill! It’s obvious the man was making small talk ! I’d just laugh and look in his basket or trolley and say well I left enough for you hey!

I can't bear strangers talking to me for no reason. I'd be pissed off too. Yes I'm singular, reclusivce and grumpy but I'm perfectly lovely when I'm left the fuck alone!

You are taking this far too seriously. He was just making small talk. When we had more people at home I would make this sort of comment about myself!

I think he was just an old guy perhaps trying to engage because he's a bit lonely. It us kind if an old fashioned thing to say - my gran might say this for.example.

Commenting on a person's shopping is rude. Making personal comments in general is rude. When you comment on their shopping you are indirectly commenting on their body, their diet, their lifestyle, and their family size.

This one wouldn't have bothered me too much, but you run the risk of offending someone when you don't stick to impersonal comments.

Considering ~1/4 people here dislike it, I do find it strange that so many here are insisting on persisting with this type of smalltalk and insisting others put up with it, even when they find out many consider it rude. I had thought one's goal with smalltalk is to create a pleasant interaction? Perhaps I was mistaken.

Ridiculous to be so sensitive about someone making a bit of conversation

When you comment on their shopping you are indirectly commenting on their body, their diet, their lifestyle, and their family size.
Oh my God!! 😆😆😆
Get a bloody grip.

I find the OP's reaction to a joke sad, but also the idea that only lonely people will make a light-hearted comment to a stranger is also extremely sad.

I no longer live in the UK but when I was young we would also talk to each to other and make a joke, without the need for a formal introduction

I'm pretty introverted, but I love it when random people in supermarkets make little connections with me. I really miss going up to my late in-laws' yorkshire mining area where simply going to the local market resulted in loads of little conversations with random strangers. It's kind of comforting.

I'm retired, I live alone. I can quite see a time when I get older, where these random chats will be even more important. A lot of the posts on here are pretty sad and lacking in empathy.

I was once in Greggs buying food for me, DH and our 4 kids and an old man said " bloody hell girl, you having a party?" It was a lighthearted comment, probably a way of starting a conversation. I can't remember what I replied back but I laughed it off.

Rude for him to judge you and none of his beeswax.

Not the most persuasive argument that people who like to make these kinds of comments aren't just intending to be rude...

And then people wonder why there's no sense of community anymore?!

Ignore them. The more you mention it, the worse they'll be as they think they're unique and witty.

I don't see what the issue is. Literally, can't see something even remotely offensive or upsetting here.

It sounds like the OP has potentially got a few problems psychologically than anything else. If you take a (albeit very mildly) joking comment this personally then I think the problem may be you.

What was the thought that went through your mind OP? Because him being malicious doesn't sound plausible.

I'm with you. When did people become so insular and self obsessed. Not to mention think everyone is jealous of them.

What does negging mean? I thought at first it was a typo for nagging. Never heard it before.

Exactly this.

Its odd people are insisting its ok for a stranger to make personal and rude comments when they are being told that others find it rude. Combination of their ignorance and arrogance rolled into one I think.

Weird group of people piling onto to the OP and anyone who dares to agree with her.

Rude? You call that rude? Some people really need to look outside their bubbles.

Yes I call it rude. Am I not allowed to? Did I need to ask your permission, or am i allowed to have my own opinion.

You YABU people sound insane and rude. Thats why you didnt think the man was rude isnt it. Because you are so rude yourself.

He was smiling. It was most likely an attempt at a joke and small talk. You said he's old, so it's quite possible that he lives on his own, and has no social interaction apart from when he's shopping.

You are pretty rude yourself you know. Of course you don't need my permission and nor do I need yours.
At least I'm pleasant to possibly lonely old people in supermarkets.

This thread is mad.

I'm just wondering who's going to get the last word in. It's between the op, lemongreentea and Johnnysgirl my money is on lemongreentea although I'm wondering if the op and lemongreentea are the same poster 🤔

Also, what does WE stand for? It's obviously a supermarket, which one? Oh is it waitrose? YES IT MATTERS slightly over invested in the thread

There's certainly plenty of ruden