To not want to be felt up when reading stories to dc

[Notledbybaby]

I might be being over sensitise but this keeps happening. I’m in bed and kids come in with a book and I start reading it to them, meanwhile DH is feeling my bum up. It makes me feel a bit sick tbh.

Also my youngest shoves her hand down my top a lot, DH makes comments like oh I like doing that too.

I don’t think he should be doing that - AIBU?

YANBU.

Yuck! Not appropriate at all.

Just bloody tell him then

Gross

Have you asked him to stop? If you have and he keeps doing it then tell him to stop molesting you.

Ugh. Tell him in no uncertain terms to stop doing it. I'm not sure which is worse, the wandering hands or the creepy comment in front of your child. Wtf is wrong with him?

Have you told him to stop?

You need to tell him.
You aren't some sex prop for him to use and make sure to explain it doesn't make you feel appreciated or attractive or desired.

Rather than making a thread on here where no doubt you'll be told to LTB and he'll be all kinds of things, have you actually thought to ask if he could stop doing it? I suspect there is a fair chance he would... Unless you're a drip feeder

Oh good grief! Tellhim in no uncertain terms that if he doesn’t stop this shit, then he will be reading a fair proportion of the bedtime stories himself, when the children come to stay with him in his new bachelor pad.

*Called all kinds of things

Asking him to stop being a sleaze.

My DP is EXACTLY the same, I've told him it's not normal and not to do it but he doesn't see it as a problem.
He'll want me to touch him when DC isn't looking or say she's too young to understand anyway, I think its massively inappropriate.
He continues to do it and I just have to move away or push him away everytime as he doesn't listen to no.
I know how you feel!

I asked an ex about this years ago. Apparently some men think it's showing affection and would be delighted to be constantly mauled at every opportunity.
Eurgh.

That’s helpful @MayorDusty and @Straightupp - I wonder if he does think he’s being really affectionate and I bet he does.

I haven’t disturbed story reading to tell him but I’ve shoved his hand away.

I just don’t like anything sexual around the children, I think that’s normal enough.

Tell him to stop. God help him if him continues, it's disgusting. Tell him he's a pervert to get sexually aroused in the presence of his young daughter.

Stop excusing and minimizing it by acting poor him is trying to be affectionate or him thinking he is! He is making sexual comments in front of your children. You need to be very angry and disgusted and tell him so!

I’m concerned by these men who don’t stop when asked to

Urgh I used to hate shit like that. Still do but I'm single now so it's not a problem.

How about your " show affection" by I dunno helping clear up so we can acts it down together for the evening sooner. Instead of making the washing up etc tale twice as long because your in the way with your hands some where . Then they turn it round on you " I was just being nice " " but I love you" etc

Fuck off

My ex was like this and I didn’t like it at all. They seem to think because the children are young it doesn’t matter but I found it gross and inappropriate. So glad not to be mauled and groped at any more.

I hate this too. My irritating sex pest grabs my legs or pulls my skirt up to grab my bum. Apparently I’m supposed to be flattered. 🙄

I tell him to stop in no uncertain terms.

Not unreasonable at all! He sounds really gross.Tell him when DC asleep how inappropriate he is . He sounds like he is jealous of your time with them, and is trying to get attention.

Vile

A million times this.

I have an ex who used to feel me up while I was chopping veg, etc. He was "just being affectionate." How about set the fucking table instead of treating me like a piece of meat?