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Original poster

Which part of this is enjoyable then, folks?

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Whichpart · 14/05/2022 07:21

Hey

which part of this is enjoyable? I am sick of hearing ‘enjoy every second’ ‘ they’re only young once’ ‘ don’t wish it away’ etc…

So which part of this am I meant to be enjoying?

the scramming?
the screaming?
the crying/whining?
the constant illnesses from nursery?
the shit?
the piss on the floor 20 seconds after they run away with no nappy?
the going to sleep at ten and waking every hour until they’re back up for the day at 5?
the 4am poo explosion?
the hair pulling?
the fighting with each other over toys?
the battles at bedtime?
the struggle to get them changed as they wriggle around and try to escape?
the fingers up my nose?
the grabbing my nipple as they try and climb me?

whoch part of this is everyone enjoying and looking back wishing they still had it?

AIBU to say that people either didn’t experience this absolute shit show OR their brain has forgotten it so that the species can continue pro creating??

OP posts:
Goldijobsandthe3bears · 16/05/2022 07:24

PeakyBlinda · 16/05/2022 06:35

@Goldijobsandthe3bears

Which is why when considering to have a baby/go through with a pregnancy I really don't think women should ask themselves do WE want this baby, it should be do I. Am I prepared to do this (finances/care/everything) all on my own? Because chances are relationships break down or partners turn out to be utterly useless.

Pets was one example but you can apply it to anything. And no I've never experienced sleep deprivation but I do know how I feel after no sleep and that's bad enough. You can have the foresight to know how you'd cope. More women (and men) need to either be strong enough and honest enough and stop being the sheep of society to say actually no its best if I don't parent. Or if they are still that desperate for a baby, fully accept that they are probably going to hate it but the end goal obviously means more to them.

You don’t have the first clue 😂 Have a good day.

DonAlfonso · 16/05/2022 07:34

Pmsl at someone telling OP to get her kids adopted. God forbid women tell the truth about having children sometimes being hard, eh ladies?

Overtheanvil · 16/05/2022 07:38

To be fair people have acknowledged to the OP on how hard parenting is and then she gets stroppy with them. She asked for opinions and not everyone felt the way she did.

Goldenbear · 16/05/2022 08:04

Something being perceived as 'hard' is subjective though. Some people don't find these things tough relative to other experiences in their life. It is not about hiding the truth because it isn't their truth.

DonAlfonso · 16/05/2022 08:26

Goldenbear · 16/05/2022 08:04

Something being perceived as 'hard' is subjective though. Some people don't find these things tough relative to other experiences in their life. It is not about hiding the truth because it isn't their truth.

Sure, but it doesn’t follow that someone who says they do find it hard should be told to have their kids adopted. People should be allowed to talk about their own experience without being subjected to such nastiness.

Orangello · 16/05/2022 09:50

No one forced you to have kids!

What a valuable contribution. Is the OP supposed to stuff them back or what?

PeakyBlinda · 16/05/2022 20:52

@Goldijobsandthe3bears I actually do. I think you just don't want to hear it as your probably find yourself in that category.

Original poster
Whichpart · 16/05/2022 21:12

Overtheanvil · 16/05/2022 07:38

To be fair people have acknowledged to the OP on how hard parenting is and then she gets stroppy with them. She asked for opinions and not everyone felt the way she did.

Except that’s not what’s happened.

Ive only replied to the people who have INCORRECTLY thought I wrote parenting in my op.

i haven’t got stroppy with posters who have either answered why belters say enjoy every second or given their experience of it all.

OP posts:
Goldijobsandthe3bears · 16/05/2022 21:31

PeakyBlinda · 16/05/2022 20:52

@Goldijobsandthe3bears I actually do. I think you just don't want to hear it as your probably find yourself in that category.

😂😂Cute but wrong.

LuckySantangelo35 · 17/05/2022 09:55

“No one forced you to have kids!”

society may not force you to have kids, but it can put a lot of pressure on women which many find hard to resist

Abouttimemum · 17/05/2022 10:00

I only have one and he’s 3 and aside from the first 6 months (which was utterly hideous) he’s slept really well, and in all honesty I think that makes such a huge difference to everything else. I do feel lucky about that. That and the fact my DH parents 50% so we both get time to ourselves.

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