Was at the dentist today for my routine check up. I have never had a problem with her before in all the years I have been a patient at her surgery, but today it just felt like she was in a foul mood but I think she came across as quite stuck up and arrogant.
let’s say I’m called Sandra and say she’s called Barbara Brown (just a random name) officially she is called Dr Brown.
i was waiting at reception to be called for my appointment, she came to reception and called my name so I got up and walked over and I said “hi Barbara, how are you” then her response was quite sharp.
she had a face like thunder and she said something like “Sorry Sandra, my name is Dr Brown. In future, you call me Dr Brown”
I was really shocked and taken aback - there was no conversation from her during my appointment, usually she is quite chatty and friendly. All she did was tut and sigh.
AIBU to think this was quite unprofessional and arrogant? Why can’t I call her by her first name? She’s not God!
AIBU?
To think my dentist is very stuck up
cuppateaandabiccie · 11/05/2022 19:31
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cuppateaandabiccie · 11/05/2022 21:33
I never have called her by her name at all, I just said hi “Barbara” without thinking. I didn’t think it would be a problem.
i do think if she wants me to call her by her title then she needs to call me by my title
mihimagna · 12/05/2022 08:46
She wishes that she was a real doctor as in Medical Doctor. She couldn't hack it, so resorted to being a dentist. All sorts of pepple can be referred to as a "doctor" but only MD's are true doctors. If you had a medical emergency and you only had the option to choose between a dentist, veterinarian, doctor of philosophy, or a medical doctor which one would you choose to save your life?
strrawberriesandcream · 11/05/2022 23:04
Babdoc
I’m older generation (in my 60s), and, for most of my contemporaries, Christian names are for friends and family only - one waits for permission to use them for anyone else.
So in your example, you would always address her as (title surname), unless or until she says “Oh please call me (Christian name)”.
I must admit, I grit my teeth if a young nurse addresses me by first name instead of Dr Babdoc! It is disrespectful and cheeky.
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We're not in the 1950s anymore, times have changed and people are far less formal than they used to be.
You need to make absolutely clear how you expect to be addressed in work otherwise it is generally the norm for people to use first names by default.
It's definitely not disrespectful or cheeky. Referring to someone as 'young nurse' is quite condescending.
mihimagna · 12/05/2022 08:46
She wishes that she was a real doctor as in Medical Doctor. She couldn't hack it, so resorted to being a dentist. All sorts of pepple can be referred to as a "doctor" but only MD's are true doctors. If you had a medical emergency and you only had the option to choose between a dentist, veterinarian, doctor of philosophy, or a medical doctor which one would you choose to save your life?
mihimagna · 12/05/2022 08:46
She wishes that she was a real doctor as in Medical Doctor. She couldn't hack it, so resorted to being a dentist. All sorts of pepple can be referred to as a "doctor" but only MD's are true doctors. If you had a medical emergency and you only had the option to choose between a dentist, veterinarian, doctor of philosophy, or a medical doctor which one would you choose to save your life?
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SilverGlassHare · 11/05/2022 19:35
I wouldn’t call anyone I was seeing in a professional capacity by their first name, unless previously invited to do so. But in your situation I’d have said, ‘Actually, it’s Mrs/Ms/Dr/Rev Cuppa.”
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