To want one room decorated in a less than a 6 month timescale?

[EmeraldSkies]

So annoyed. Every house I see on Instagram uncluttered, wallpapered perfection. How do these women motivate or get their partners on board because I doubt they are doing it themselves, what with childcare and careers! I asked my partner to start on our living room back at beginning of October. The wallpaper was removed and then progress stopped. In the build up to Xmas I waited and waited and nothing happened with the living room out of action. I had to move the furniture back into place on 23rd December and quickly rustle up a Christmas tree in a bare walled room as it was obvious it was not going to be completed. The room has stayed like that until last weekend, some 6 months after the project begun, when I put my foot down and said it's got to be done. Cue, furniture removed again. Had picked out a Farrow & Ball colour months ago, further moaning that it was a 'difficult paint to work with' and he wasn't going to use it (more excuses). Gave up and allowed a colour match with Johnstone's. Ceiling finally painted this weekend after saying it would be completed on the 2nd weekend dedicated to it (started at about 3pm today (Sunday)).

What I need to ask is: how do you motivate the other half to bother? And if you have a 'insta-perfect' house, how do you get buy-in from your other half to do the work? My DH just doesn't seem to care if he lives in a cluttered pit and any kind of home improvement is a massive drag and effort on my part to motivate and move him forward.

Just more respectful of people's time - reading through a whole life story takes time. So sometimes it's easier to do it that way.

Not sure why Mumsnetters get so upset with so-called 'drip-feeding'. You can't sum up an entire story in one post - anyone who thinks you can do that is naive. It seems to be more of an obsession with getting their reply 'right' first time rather than having a 2-way dialogue. Most real life conversations are 2-way.

I'm not a decorator though am I @Aprilx!? So should be no issue with using it. 🤭

cant you do it?

im a single mother and 24/7 carer to a disabled child that doesn't sleep and a 24/7 home educator(google unschooling its a 24/7 style of learning)

in 2020 after 22 years my ex left us overnight for our best friend

as we were both the above(take away single mother) the whole house needed doing

ive painted every wall ,ceiling, radiator in a large 3 bedroom house(3 bedrooms, a large stairs and landing area, bathroom, kitchen, large living room all doors) and carpeted the stairs and landing all alone

granted i dont have a day job but im on call 24/7

ive taken a level 3 house to a level 5(out of 5)its taken over a year but ive done it all myself

If you’d just said that you’re working full time and your partner isn’t in the first post you’d have had a much more supportive response.

This.
Sometimes DH will do some, but only if I've already started. He just doesn't see it as important, he doesn't care what the house looks like. I've learned to accept that. It's not his job, just because he has a penis.
He has, however, promised to paint the living room this month (a promise made while drunk) as he's not working. We shall see!