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To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?

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Theresamagicalplace · 07/05/2022 08:08

The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

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MyBrilliantFriend · 07/05/2022 08:08

It’s a bit early. My cut off is 9am - 10:30 is the middle of the day for a toddler!

Bathroom2022 · 07/05/2022 08:09

I used to wait until 9.

SheWoreYellow · 07/05/2022 08:09

I’d say nine for other neighbours who might hear.

Thorilicious · 07/05/2022 08:09

I would say 9am, at the earliest.

Mum198000 · 07/05/2022 08:09

Nobody with young children is asleep at 8:30!

Absolutesuperstar · 07/05/2022 08:09

I would say 9.30am. Anything before 9 is definitely too early.

violetbunny · 07/05/2022 08:10

If you were my neighbour I'd be sticking pins into a miniature sized doll of you.

100Roses · 07/05/2022 08:10

Our house rule is 9 on a Saturday and 10 on a Sunday.

hesbeen2021 · 07/05/2022 08:10

Well as my ( lovely) student neighbours party until 4am in the summer I'd be delighted just to hear the sound of a child playing at 8.30am. Builders start here at 7am in the week and by 8am weekends

Ziggerty · 07/05/2022 08:11

9am is our cut off here!

Fizbosshoes · 07/05/2022 08:11

I would say 9 is ok for a weekend. Like pp said 10.30 is practically lunch time when toddlers are up at the crack of dawn.
I think before 9am is unsociable for people to start doing noisy DIY or gardening on a weekend but toddler noise is nowhere near as loud.

ZenKaleidoscope · 07/05/2022 08:12

How on earth do you keep a toddler entertained at home until 10:30?

I don't think 8:30 is too early at all.

Flatandhappy · 07/05/2022 08:12

Sending him outside to burn off excess energy does not sound like he will be playing quietly 😁

WimpoleHat · 07/05/2022 08:12

i’d say 9 too. With instructions to be considerate of others and not to make too much noise!

Beees · 07/05/2022 08:12

Yep I'd agree 9am is the earliest. Unless you only have 2 neighbours total then the noise of a 2 year old playing will carry and disturb others. Why not take him to the park instead?

DappledShade · 07/05/2022 08:13

I think 8:30 is absolutely fair enough.

Geranium1984 · 07/05/2022 08:14

I'd do it if it was a one off and both neighbours had kids.
Possibly not on a Sunday.
We are often at the local playground by 8.45am 😅

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 07/05/2022 08:14

It's fine if they're quiet - but in my experience, most toddlers aren't quiet.

I'd say 9am for weekends personally - if they want to run about and be noisy, take them out to the park, don't let them disturb your neighbours.

Whinge · 07/05/2022 08:14

100Roses · 07/05/2022 08:10

Our house rule is 9 on a Saturday and 10 on a Sunday.

I agree with this.

Ponoka7 · 07/05/2022 08:15

Children's voices carry, so it depends whose at the back of you etc. All my neighbours are up early, but I'd still say around 9. We used to take advantage of the shops being empty and get out early.

BigFatLiar · 07/05/2022 08:16

As soon as he's had his breakfast let him loose.

2pinkginsplease · 07/05/2022 08:17

My cut off when the children were small was 9,30am.

people deserve a long lie at the weekend and I wouldn’t have noisy children out in the garden to disturb others peace and quiet any earlier at the weekend.

Howevee I wish our retired neighbours thought the same. He’s out building fences, banging about , cutting grass from 8 am most weekends! Infuriating.

InFiveMins · 07/05/2022 08:18

8:30 is way too early. I'd say 10am.

BaaMoon · 07/05/2022 08:19

9 at the absolute earliest on a weekend

dottiedodah · 07/05/2022 08:19

I would say 9.00 to 9.30 really .Although unlikely to wake your immediate NDN.Could carry across the way .Maybe pop on a DVD for an hour of Peppa Pig or suchlike?

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