To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?

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The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

I think so but on mumsnet if people stay up partying til 4am that's okay but not for a child to play out 😅

One of our neighbours has 2 DC about 3 & 2 and they are in the garden all week from about 6.30am they just pap them outside no matter what the weather. They have a massive outbuilding/shed thing which I think they have kitted out as a gym and while they are working out the kids are put out. The youngest is a crier and just whines the whole time.
They must get up really early as last week I was putting a washing out and she shouted them in for lunch at 10.30am, at that point I thought I better get my two out their beds!!

DD is usually up and on the trampoline by 8am. Sometimes earlier. I don't think normal family noises in a residential area is unreasonable tbh. It's only a kid playing, it's not like you have the venga boys blasting through the window at that time.

Depends how noisy they are. Toddler chatter is one thing, screeching is another.

Our old neighbour’s children used to spend the whole time outside shouting, ‘mum, mum, muuuum, look at me, mum, look, look mum-now, look-look!’

I’d think, just please bloody respond to them!

Yep, this.

Fine

Thought you were going to say 6.30 or something! 8.30 is absolutely reasonable!

I want to live wherever posters on this thread live, 8:00 is prime jetwash/lawn mower/let your dog out to bark incessantly/builders commence work accompanied by full volume local radio time on the weekends here.

Same!

My cut off when DC were that age was 9am

9 Saturday, 10 Sunday

I can't imagine anyone with young children being asleep at 8.30am.

Having said that, I've never been one to have a lie-in anyway in my life (unless ill.)

If you'd said 7.30 I 'd have raised an eyebrow but there's a lot going on in most roads by 8,30. I hear my neighbours' cars and them going out at that time or earlier - sometimes 6am!

I beg to differ

dd 5 woke up about 8.20 this am. Heard her on monitor. She turned ceebeebies on in her room. I rolled over and had a doze

9am outside

unless they can play quietly and not shout non stop unlike the children at the bottom of the garden

TBH I don't think the time of day is the issue- it's the noise level.

We have neighbours with 2 DCs (ours are adults and away from home) and they make a terrible racket in the garden, often all weekend, especially Sunday afternoons when all we want to do is sit and enjoy some peace and quiet.

They allow them to screech (girls, aged 8 and 4) and it's unbearable at times. No thought for anyone else.

My 9yo is still asleep!

I think 08.30 is fine. It's a toddler not a rock band or builders. I am a working 60 year old and enjoy a lie in at the weekend but toddlers wouldn't worry me at all. Just don't encourage squealing/screaming/shrieking. I used to tell mine that if they did it all the time no one would help if they got into trouble.

I would definitely agree it’s up to how noisy the play is. Is it screaming shouting kind of play, or babbling normal talking noise levels? If just talking noise levels then I would say any time after 8. If he’s loud then after 9 on the weekends. Either way I don’t think I’d begrudge a neighbour for having their toddler out at 8:30 in the morning on a sunny Saturday. People are so grumpy sometimes.

I let mine out for 14 minutes at 1pm to play in silence. Not in autumn though, as the sound of them stepping on crunchy leaves may disturb the neighbours.

I think 9/9.30 would be more acceptable too.

OP - it’s fine. By 8.30 cars will be starting up, dogs will be barking, the noises of the neighbourhood will be getting underway. Unless your child is screaming or shouting loudly (which is annoying for anyone) then let them get out into the fresh air - get them digging in the sandpit or garden, chalking, doing a treasure hunt, washing down their bikes, timed running round the garden, etc etc etc.

10am for us

I no longer have young DCs (I’m lucky if the one left at home surfaces by midday 😆) but I was woken at 7:30 today by my neighbour (nearly 80), mowing her lawn! By 8:00 I was in my conservatory and enjoying the sound of the three children in the house behind mine playing in their garden. I’d far rather have these “normal” sorts if noise waking me up in the morning than a loud party or rows keeping me awake at night.

I don't know why but 8.30am to me sounds too early to be in the garden (and I have a toddler and baby so I've been up from about 5am 🤣) but 9am sounds fine which is a bit ridiculous as it's 30mins difference.

I haven't read all 5 pages of replies but have you considered knocking the neighbours doors and just asking them what they'd find a reasonable time? As their children get older they will probably want to use the garden, especially in the summer when the middle of the day can be too warm to have babies and toddlers out so morning may be their best opportunity too.

If your other half isnt happy with 8.30am then you could visit the park at that time then when you're home it's a more reasonable time to play in the garden.

It wouldn't bother me. And I'd feel it was reasonable to go and cut the grass if there were children out playing noisily.

But I was woken by the milkman at 4.30 this morning, and was just dropping off again when the guy next door but one went to work just after 5 (I curse his noisy diesel 4x4 most mornings).

I think I'll be having a nap this afternoon.

I've never really thought about this before.
It wouldn't annoy me at all, but we live in a city, hear trains, neighbours, traffic, workmen etc all the time.
I can't imagine one little toddler makes that much noise that it would annoy people? I wouldn't mow the lawn or anything at that time but a child playing in their own garden seems reasonable to me!