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To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?
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Theresamagicalplace · 07/05/2022 08:08

The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

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OfstedOffred · 07/05/2022 10:06

Fine imho but I'd be supervising to ensure he wasnt being ridiculously loud.

People always make out like this is going to disturb people sleeping.... are there SO many people who don't have double glazing? We genuinely hear nothing of our neighbours including their 3 dogs.

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Viviennemary · 07/05/2022 10:06

10 am is quite early enough for a noisy child to be out in the garden at the weekend. But if there is a noisy barking dog next door Id say anything from 6 am onwards.

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VintageVest · 07/05/2022 10:07

YANBU there are many health benefits to early morning light exposure which will peak priir to 10am. Get your kids out as much as possible, it will do them good. Maybe have a rule about noisy games before 10 perhaps, so as not to upset the neighbours.

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Mumwantingtogetitright · 07/05/2022 10:08

It's a myth that all young children are up and about by 8.30 am. DD was always a late riser when she was little, so we never had to get up at the crack of dawn.

I would say it's unreasonable to let your dc play out before 9am on a Saturday. Preferably wait till 9.30/10ish if you can.

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qpmz · 07/05/2022 10:12

I can't see anything wrong whatsoever! It's great for them to play outside, it's not like it's 5am!

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Sswhinesthebest · 07/05/2022 10:18

WibblyWobblyLane · 07/05/2022 09:33

DD is usually up and on the trampoline by 8am. Sometimes earlier. I don't think normal family noises in a residential area is unreasonable tbh. It's only a kid playing, it's not like you have the venga boys blasting through the window at that time.

I think you will be thought of as “one of those” by your neighbours!

9am for me too.

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Bikesbikesbikes · 07/05/2022 10:21

We're often out at 7am but live on a road with 3 houses, one house has several kids and next door gets up at 5am every morning

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WildCoasts · 07/05/2022 10:23

I'd say 9am. That's a perfectly reasonable time for anyone to start their normal day activities.

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WibblyWobblyLane · 07/05/2022 10:23

Sswhinesthebest · 07/05/2022 10:18

I think you will be thought of as “one of those” by your neighbours!

9am for me too.

Meh, probably. The builder also turned up at 9am and by 9.10 was doing some drilling. Oh well.

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Chocolateswissroll · 07/05/2022 10:29

It would be fine here. Immediate neighbours are up and walking dogs by 8am and another has started noisy building work at that time.

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Hugasauras · 07/05/2022 10:30

Not before 9 any day of the week here.

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MrsR87 · 07/05/2022 10:30

Not too early for me personally but I would wait until 9am at the weekend for respect for my neighbours.

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Chakraleaf · 07/05/2022 10:35

I say 8.30 workmen go out earlier so 8.30 is fine.

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Chakraleaf · 07/05/2022 10:36

Hugasauras · 07/05/2022 10:30

Not before 9 any day of the week here.

But we leave for school at 8 and they def are not silent. By that time people are out and about in cars and walking past!

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Kat1953 · 07/05/2022 10:36

Take him out for a walk instead!

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mycatisannoying · 07/05/2022 10:37

Too early by far.

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Farawayfromhere · 07/05/2022 10:38

I think 8.30 am is fine.

It’s the same as if the neighbours had a bbq and were still out in the garden after 7pm when lots of small kids go to bed.

It would be unfair to say that because they might wake sleeping children no one can enjoy their gardens in the evening.

It has to go both ways. Many toddlers have been up and indoors for 2 hours by 8.30.

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mycatisannoying · 07/05/2022 10:38

ZenKaleidoscope · 07/05/2022 08:12

How on earth do you keep a toddler entertained at home until 10:30?

I don't think 8:30 is too early at all.

With respect, that's not really the neighbours' problem.
Go to the park?

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SleepCheeseBeer · 07/05/2022 10:39

I'm a night owl. I happily lie in to 11am on a weekend if I've nowhere to be.

But it's your garden, use it when you want. 8.30 is fine.

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Imperfectp3rf3ction · 07/05/2022 10:39

Oops I let mine 0ut at 6 am !
They aren't noisy the youngest that mainly wants to be out at that time is non verbal asd and just wants to be on the basket swing 🤷‍♀️ then dd 7 will often go in and out but they aren't screaming widly or playing loud at all until dd 11 wakes up she's the noisy one but isn't up till later on.

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Svara · 07/05/2022 10:40

LunchBoxPolice · 07/05/2022 09:54

I let mine out for 14 minutes at 1pm to play in silence. Not in autumn though, as the sound of them stepping on crunchy leaves may disturb the neighbours.

1pm! Toddlers might be napping. You really ought to be more considerate! 😉

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WildCoasts · 07/05/2022 10:41

I let mine out at 9.30am one Sunday. The neighbour peeked sleepily around his curtain, clearly roused by the kids normal level noises. They would sleep till lunchtime and I'm not waiting till then. It's not like they were considerate with their garage band at 9pm when I wanted to get kids to sleep. The world doesn't stop because I have children and I'm not going to curtail normal levels of family activity at 9.30am. We all got on fine though.

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Imperfectp3rf3ction · 07/05/2022 10:41

Also to add neighbours on both sides have both recently had garden parties until after 11 one after 1 am and each have children under 8 that are up early.

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pictish · 07/05/2022 10:41

8.30 is acceptable but I was super nice and didn’t let mine out till 10 at weekends.

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Hugasauras · 07/05/2022 10:43

@Chakraleaf That's fine but I like my neighbours and their bedrooms back onto where gardens are so I think it's just courtesy 🤷‍♀️ We've never had a pressing need to be in the garden at 8am anyway. We are still in our PJs then!

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