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Partner goes shooting almost 5 to 6 days a week

237 replies

Bebenama · 04/05/2022 07:26

been with my partner for a year, for the last 3months he’s been going shooting from 5pm till 11:30pm, and occasionally when he’s off work or weekend he will go all night and come back in the morning about 11am something 3pm in the afternoon. I’m not comfortable with this as I don’t feel that give us any time together.

l work till 4 and have school age kids from previous relationship so I’m the week I’m ready to chill with partner by 8pm. My partner work at home and finish mostly between 5 and 6pm and that is when he have a shower and prepare to go out.

I really don’t understand this shooting and hunting habit. When I met him I know he was into this but thought he only do it few days in a week as mostly he would be at mine by 8pm for just us to have a nice time. This is before we start leaving together about 5 months ago.

He wouldn’t take me out anywhere, anything I suggest he would make excuses so I give up asking. on the other hand I do all the cooking and most house work. I have to cook as I have kids in the house.

please let me know if this is normal relationship for him to go out almost every night and sometimes don’t come home.

OP posts:
Neolara · 04/05/2022 07:47

You realise your basically the housekeeper?

OneTC · 04/05/2022 07:49

Is the shooting work or a hobby?

The only person I know who hunts like this is paid for it

darlingdodo · 04/05/2022 07:51

Aye, right.

Spidey66 · 04/05/2022 07:52

TomAllenWife · 04/05/2022 07:32

I would guess that he's not shooting

He's got another relationship

Please value yourself more

That was my first thought too.

Either that or something illegal, maybe involving the guns?

DeskInUse · 04/05/2022 07:54

Do you live together?

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/05/2022 07:54

My DP shoots. He does not shoot every night until 11.30...!
Whatever the hobby there has to be balance.

User478 · 04/05/2022 07:54

FrecklesMalone · 04/05/2022 07:28

You've only been going out here he's already doing this?? Fuck that he is not a keeper.
Why on earth are you staying with him? You doing all the housework and he's never there. I hope he hasn't moved in with you yet.

He might be a game keeper...

LowlandLucky · 04/05/2022 07:56

He has a shower before he goes shooting ! Aye right. What the hell do you think he is shooting from 6 at night until 3 the next afternoon ? My husband shoots as do all of my neighbours, they are out for about 4 hours max. He has another woman, get rid of him.

TottersBlankly · 04/05/2022 07:56

I’ve assumed, if this is real, that the OP is not in the UK. Plenty of places inside and outside Europe where shooting / hunting take up a lot of leisure time.

Georgeskitchen · 04/05/2022 07:57

Is he shooting animals? Sorry that be would an instant no no for me

BumBurnerBum · 04/05/2022 07:57

The season is closed so whatever he's shooting is illegal and there isn't even a whole lot to poach. What does he bring home?

KangarooKenny · 04/05/2022 08:00

Nobody has asked what load he is shooting all night 🤣

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 04/05/2022 08:04

The fact that he's killing animals for sport (?) would not be acceptable to me in the first place.

However, it sounds to me that he is 'lamping' which is illegal.

Be wary OP.....

shinynewapple22 · 04/05/2022 08:04

Mafia hit man?

EthicalNonMahogany · 04/05/2022 08:06

He's not a keeper but he might actually be a keeper.

Silvercatowner · 04/05/2022 08:06

WhereisWallyFFS · 04/05/2022 07:32

Yes. Totally normal and infuriating. I’m mostly sick of having to gather the berries while he gets to hunt. I’m always the one who has to clean the skins to make clothes too. Don’t even get me started on clearing up the flint bits from him making his spears. Drives me bonkers.

Good one OP. Hilarious reading the replies from the posters who don't bother with updates.

Silversprinkles · 04/05/2022 08:07

please let me know if this is normal relationship for him to go out almost every night and sometimes don’t come home.

Of COURSE it's not frigging normal. Do you really need to ask??

Set your bar a LOT higher, especially since you have children. Very unwise to move in together so soon after meeting.

LittleBearPad · 04/05/2022 08:07

What in earth is he shooting?

NOTANUM · 04/05/2022 08:10

Taking this at face value though I have my doubts..
You need good light for shooting so he can’t be shooting after dusk.
Cartridges are expensive so how can he afford to shoot for hours on end?

Maydaysoonenough · 04/05/2022 08:11

Not shooting with a gun that's for sure...

Maydaysoonenough · 04/05/2022 08:12

Is he all cuddly?. Coz pandas eat shoots and leaves....

Somanysocks · 04/05/2022 08:15

I think you can shoot pigeons and squirrels at any time, or on private land.

But he isn't is he?

Luculentus · 04/05/2022 08:22

Silvercatowner · 04/05/2022 08:06

Good one OP. Hilarious reading the replies from the posters who don't bother with updates.

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What updates? OP hasn't reappeared.

Lalliella · 04/05/2022 08:22

🤣🤣🤣 Really? You actually have to ask if this is normal? Umm, no!

GoodVibesHere · 04/05/2022 08:24

He is taking the pistol