Would it be offensive & rude to ask a family member to stop sending me pics of their dc?

[FabulousFlowerpots]

I just want to check if I'm being rude here. I want to ask (nicely) a family member not to send me pics of their kids. I'm not interested in a 100 pics of what Johnny ate for breakfast, Johnny getting the bus, Johnny eating his ice cream, Johnny at soft play, Johnny having his afternoon nap etc. You get the idea. I told a friend I want to stop the pics and she said there's nothing I can say that won't cause offence. What d'you think? Aibu? How can I handle this better?

Why don't you just ignore, why are you set on being so nasty?

Haha! I have two family members who do this
''Look at this bit , look at that''..I just say ''Looks good'' or ''I don't really know what I'm looking at''
When a bike is fully done, then I can see a marked difference.

YABU
They obviously care about you and want you to share in their joy.
You sound jealous.

Just ignore them and reply every now and then a “so cute xx” text.

I can’t see how it affects your day.

Oh and I do have someone spamming me with pics of their motorbike which I really don’t care about at all but I know they love it so although I don’t reply straight away it doesn’t annoy me.

The thing was that I actually had to ask for pics of the kids! But she was bonkers enough not to send them - she thought I’d rather see the stuff she sent🤣

Well that is fucking boring, that’s for sure!
I’m suorised about the answers.
Surely it’s rude to bore people with your kids pictures, they can’t believe anyone else cares, right?

Some people do care though! I’m happy to see pics of friends and relatives kids, so yes, whilst they may be OTT it’s not crazy to assume other people care.

Everyone aches to do this but civilisation has not yet invented the perfect refusal.

Tell them the picture messages on your phone are playing up, ask them to send them to an email address for you.

Set up an automated response of "awwww cute", change it every week or so.

Is that you, mum?

It's likely the constant ''Ting...Ting.....Ting''' as pics of someone else's DC come through.

New parents {and new puppy owners too!} always think their baby or sweet puppy is the best thing that ever walked this Earth {and that is how it should be, after all} but they assume everyone will be feeling the same :)

Another who is curious as to how many / how often this is.
Also to some extent how old 'Jonny' is - as if brand new parents they can be forgiven and it will wear off.

Overall though, I agree with everyone else.
Just mute the notifications, and if you want to comment ever 33rd photo, they are still there.
You are only going to offend and upset the person by asking them to stop sending photos, and I don't see the point in that, when you don't have to look at them / can choose to ignore them

Just ignore the kid pics and respond to other stuff. They'll take the hint eventually. Make sure your media settings are set so that the pics don't auto download to your phone. Sorted. Mute friend if they don't get hint 😆

Are they just to you? How are you related to this person? We have a family snap chat where ppl send pics of their kids constantly both young and old one. It's imo opinion a nice way to keep up to date with family. I also send a few pics of my dog to my MIL (she minds him a lot and adores him) hope I'm not annoying her! I will prob send her pics of DS when he is born this summer. But I never send pics of dog to my mam I know she wouldn't like them, I will send her pics of DS though. I would assume this person is close to you and thinks you want to see them.

How close is this family member? And it is it a group chat or are they sending you a stream of pics directly?

My BIL simply left our family WhatsApp group one day without an explanation  I assume he'd had enough of the regular cute photos of my DC (which were specifically requested by other family members!). I was not offended - I hardly ever see him and I knew kids were not his thing.

All depends on the circumstances really.

Urgh, sounds like my bloody MIL. Only, she sends pictures of her favourite grandchild and their child(her great grandchild). Inundates us with their pics. So and so eating , so and so farting, the list is endless Drives me mad. We just ignore them and when she asks if we saw them we say we hadn't had a chance to look. Hardly sends us any now but they are all she talks about 🥱. In fact she'll talk about them to whoever she thinks will listen. Waitresses, checkout staff etc 🙄

When they send a photo, don't reply or respond in any way. They'll get bored soon enough

I wouldn't totally ignore the photos if you want to remain friends with this person but maybe respond sometimes with a very brief response like a simple love heart ❤ and they will get the message slowly but surely.

I had this same situation and it was a little strange looking in my gallery of more images of someone's else's child than my own from all the WhatsApp images! But I later learned that the friend constantly doing this was having relationship problems and felt really lonely! So make sure your friend is OK, people that spend alot of time what's Apping and using social media in an usual way, it can sometimes be for a form of attention from you connected to a more deeper issue they are going through! So if she's a good friend check she's also OK in general before being so direct! She may just really love you as a friend and feels she can share everything with you like a family member.

Could you say that your data is getting a bit expensive now with so many photos? Suggest they set up a Flicker or PhotoBucket account (remember those???) and then they send you a link.

This is why I only send to my parents not everyone else 🤣 stop replying.. they’ll get the hint!!! If you say anything, you’ll upset them yes. x

Sorry I miss read that it is a family member* but same applies she may just really love you and wants to share everything with you! Sounds harmless and she just wants to connect :)

no you’re not being unreasonable. I think the best thing would be to mute the messages, that way you can’t see the photos.

i would also send them loads of pictures back. Like every time they send you a pic, send one back of what you just cooked or your motorbike or a nice tree you passed. But in a non obvious way- like ‘ah looks fab. Saw this lovely blossom tree today’ or ‘aw cute! Busy day here too- motorbike coming along well!’

failing that, say your phone memory is getting full and you need to reduce WhatsApp conversations. Having media stored on the chats is taking up too much data. (I don’t know if this is a factual thing but I’m sure it could be)

No need to be PA about it - just mute the conversation.

Is this a new family member - as in PFB - then give them some slack. What is your relationship to close family member?

Life is too short to cause offense and there are plenty of polite ways to excuse yourself from this "spam"

What?! Are people really this detached from reality? Mental.

I can’t tell you how many WhatsApp groups I have muted. No-one’s offended or any the wiser. Win win.