Mum slapped me

[Ohdearrr]

i don’t even know why I’m writing this but I just need to get it out and rant. I have my own home but I’ve been at my parents for a bit whilst they have been away watering their plants, putting their bins out etc. I left a bag of my DDs toy in their porch that they have at their house as I want to sort them out for charity, as some of them she has outgrown.

They came back today. My mum was annoyed that I’d left the bag of toys in the porch. She said ‘you could have sorted them instead of being sat on your arse’ I got really annoyed at this and said I’ve been fucking helping out putting your bins out etc. She then slapped me straight in the face saying don’t you swear at me in my face. I’m so cross. I’m 26 year old. Don’t even know what to think about this.

All these people saying op was out of order swearing at her mum - you all clearly have a Disney mum!
Some of us have parents, that quite frankly, are fucking awful!
Op, your mum is clearly a bully. If my mum slapped me in my 20s, I would have put her on her arse.
Stop contact with her until she apologises. 🥺💐💕

Me too! 👍🏼

I’m sorry op, this is awful. I’d be devastated 💐

OP has since stated her mum is only 55. And I don't need a lecture about Parkinson's, my aunt died of it. But she didn't get it at 55. Nor she she ever slap anyone.

Sounds like you overreacted to what she said. She shouldn't have slapped you though.

PumpkinsandKittens

Are you just being contentious because you've had a really bad day, or are you naturally unpleasant?

I bet you both miss Jeremy Kyle!!!

My mum would do the same thing or lift the first thing she could get hold of and fire it in any of her kids direction if we have pissed her off. It is unacceptable but it has become acceptable in our family unfortunately.

Assault is no joke. It’s a criminal offence. No exceptions.
”The offence of common assault under section 39 CJA is committed when someone assaults another person or commits a battery. A battery is the application of unlawful force, for instance, a push or slap, or spitting at someone.“

Nice.

🙄Yep get it. Really good copy and pasting. If your mother hit you (let's assume she's usually fine) would you actually report her?? Actually I'd assume you would!!

She was completely unreasonable obviously.

I wouldn’t be reporting her to the police but I absolutely would have no contact with her from now on.

I hope she is very apologetic but seeing as she hasn’t so far I wouldn’t hold my breath.

HRTFT so apologies if this has been mentioned already. If she actually said 'sat on your arse' then I can't see how she can call you out on your language?

OK so your word was maybe a bit ruder than hers but a purist would say 'arse' was hardly polite either. She has behaved shockingly, and you would be totally within your rights to keep away for a very long time. Just go NC until she apologises. I'm sorry you've had such a horrible experience with your own mother!

Grow up 🙄

@Sometimeswinning

Being slapped or assaulted or verbally abused by someone is hardly having “the need to be a victim in this world.”

I’ve lived over six decades and never once met anyone who needed to be a victim. However, I have run across far too many bullies in my life, who thrived on pushing about others, both physically and psychologically.

Bullies are everywhere, thus providing us with real victims. Few if any victims at all beg to be hit or slapped or beat up or abused or threatened with abuse or verbally abused. And regardless of what abusers claim, victims don’t “ask for it.”

”You made me do it” is bullshit. So is “she asked for it.” Or, “I warned her.” And on & on & on.

In conclusion, I reject your statement. The percentage of people who “get off on victimhood” (they are free to seek psychological help—but they won’t because they like it) is minuscule in comparison to the real, true victims of physical and/or psychological abuse and trauma.
Let’s concentrate on them. They actually want the help, and need it desperately.

If it’s unusual behaviour I’d be thinking dementia or a UTI. The first sign my neighbour had it was uncharacteristically calling his son a name and screaming in his face. What is your gut telling you? Xx

Yes I would.
But it’s all hypothetical as my mum was murdered shortly after I turned 27. Understandably, I have zero tolerance for criminal violence.

So you ring the police and say your mother slapped you, and they come to arrest her....somebody even mentioned handcuffs! Not sure that's the real world!

Of course you do! That is horrific. In my circumstance though I would be more concerned than angry. There is absolutely nothing which would make me report my mum for assault with our history.

I agree with this or this more to the story and the history/dynamics between them.

What did your dad say?
I’d be keeping a very frosty distance and probably send a text saying how sad I felt.

Sadly I wouldn’t expect an apology from her.

Next time they go away if they ask for your help house sitting I’d say “oh no after last time that’s not going to work for me” and let them sort themselves out.

I don’t fucking believe some of the people on here. It beggars belief! If a man had hit her, they’d be saying LTB and get your ducks in a row etc but because it was her mother, she gets “well you shouldn’t have sworn at her”. I’m not saying she should report to the police but this was bang out of order and I wouldn’t be speaking her again until I got an apology at the very least.

Sorry, I tried to add a quote from a couple of pages back but it hasn't worked!

im not surprised you feel sad. Can you talk to your dad about it? Can you give her some space to enable her to reflect on her behaviour