Or is friend batshit?

[userxkkyrdhkhv]

I have had a friend for 4 years.
I met her a few times before covid hit.

I began meeting her again some weeks back and we took her child and my child out together.
During these outings friend argued with everyone everywhere we went. In shops, train stations, restaurants, activities, in the street. She argued with them for things like putting too much sauce in a burger and talking on the phone in a taxi.

Friend asked if she could stay 2 nights last week. I said she was more than welcome and if she was still here on x date then could she look after dc in the park next door whilst I got my hair done.

All was fine until I cleaned the bathroom (they had sole use of it as we use en suite). There was urine on the toilet seat and around the Base. I began using a bleach spray, friend started coughing loudly and said, "this is why I use natural products."
Friend left the bathroom and went to the kitchen. When I'd finished cleaning their bathroom I went to the kitchen. Friend demanded I opened the French doors as she was about to "pass out" due to my use of bleach in the bathroom.

Whilst she was here we went on several outings where friend continued to argue with everyone from a Starbucks employee misspelling her name to a teenager standing behind us on the bus.

The day before she left friend attacked a woman for apparently nudging past one of the dc at a busy tube station.

On the final night dc was constipated (chronic) so I had to give multiple medications whilst massaging and pushing their stomach to help them go. Friend asked a question, "is that too much?" To which I replied,"no. This is what dc's consultant advised.

I went to wash my hands in the bathroom when I saw poo in the toilet. This was my trigger point as I have OCD.

Friend went out to smoke a joint and I spoke to my cousin. I arranged to go and see cousin for a night as she has a newborn that I'm yet to meet.
I informed friend via WhatsApp but advised we could still go ahead with our plans that day but she could go home after.
Friend seemed very annoyed and when she came in went straight to the room without saying a word.

Friend was supposed to leave at 08:30am the next morning. I needed to leave between 10-11am however I stalled as friend was clearly not ready. At 12pm I said to friend "we need to leave soon. Should I pack your food items into a bag to help out?" Friend aggressively said,"I cannot leave as you didn't wash or dry my clothes and now I need to borrow money from someone to take a cab home."

I put items in a bag including vegan milk, butter and a pizza. These were the only perishable items and were in the fridge.

15 minutes later friend storms in and mutters very loudly, "she's done this out of spite. If she wants to spiteful I'll be spiteful."

Friend pulled mine and her clothing out of the washing machine onto the floor and proceeded to put her trousers into the dryer.

Friend then left without saying a word.

I locked the door and came back inside to find several of my frozen food items on the floor.

I had to pay my cleaner to return as the room they stayed in was messy and stunk.

In the end the smell was so strong it went through 3 mattress protectors and 7 sheets and we had to throw the entire mattress away.

I then received a text from friend informing me she left several items in my home and telling me to post them to her. I responded saying I was not going to post them after her disrespectful behaviour but she was more than welcome to come and collect them or arrange a postal courier.
There were a few further text engagements before friend blocked me.

I then received this message a few hours ago:

Dont mess with me when it comes to finances, as I will mess with the finances you shouldn't even be receiving, right back. You also owe me for the cream that you didn't use, alongside the clothes that you washed that were nowhere to be found. And the oil £5 aswell. I expect that in my account today. You are also short on reimbursing for your food order, and owe me £15 for the food that perished due to your behaviour.

You crossed a lot of lines with me and your incompetence as a mother and an adult impacted my child on far too many occasions so do not call my phone again as I have no desire to hear anything you have to say to me. Feel free to deduct the £2 for the items you are aware your child is intolerant to yet still force her to consume that was left out of your freezer due to your disgustingly spiteful behaviour.

Aibu or is she batshit?

She stayed for 5 days where she used my toiletries, food, water, electricity, towels etc. She also broke one of my items worth circa £25.

MN deleted my previous thread by mistake.

Posting again as I feel I will need further advice in the next few days as I think she will contact further.

I’m confused… did she stay for 2 nights, 5 nights or 7 nights!?

Sounds like she has a mental health issue, paranoid schizophrenia?

You don't sound witty or clever. You're just mocking soneone with a neurological disorder that has a chronic mental health illness

She’s taken advantage of you, very badly. It’s really sad that you doubt yourself enough to believe that you might be the unreasonable one. Hopefully you’ve learned from this and won’t let anyone treat you like this again (let alone believe they’re your friend).

She sounds like a user who thinks she can do as she pleases

justg block her-dont worry about dwp if youve done nothing wrong

She told me she has a condition that seems similar to this hence my turning a blind eye

Op she’s horrible. You carry on as you are

LOL Just a bit

Sounds like she had every intention of out staying her welcome and taking advantage, and got angry when her plan didn't work. You're much better off without her

Thank you. I guess the way she's acting is just so... Out there that I'm struggling to believe that she'd act like that without me doing something really wrong.

Thank you so much.

Thank you. She got angry and said her daughter will be disappointed etc but I didn't invite her to live with me?

Thank you :)

@userxkkyrdhkhv
She is beyond batshit.
She shits in your loo and doesn’t flush and pisses on your loo seat and floor- Never mind her aggressive behaviour.
What a vile person she sounds.
Cut this toxic user out of your life.
To have made the room and bed stink, she must really have reeked.
Gross.
Sorry it happened to you.

Oh dear. Oops. 😳

You and this woman obviously aren’t a good match. I remember on the other thread, people saying you’re sensitive to smells rather than her being smelly. Sometimes I have to air rooms for days to remove smells.

She sounds bonkers getting angry with you for taking the perishable items out of the fridge 15 mins before she left…. 2/3 days later than invited.

I had to appeal it so I hope that her potential report would mean nothing. She also got awarded pip mobility and said she was surprised as she has no mobility problems.

She spent the last of her money on weed so I think she's hoping I'll give in and pay her to get her out of debt.

What you're dealing with is a narcissist and unfortunately she took advantage of your good nature. The story does sounds slightly exaggerated but I believe that you have been badly treated and you're hurt. Best way to treat a narc is to cut them off and go quiet. I'd even be tempted to pay the money so she'll clear off and have nothing to bother you about anymore.

Ah thank you. I didn’t read all the way to the end as I was already familiar with the story

Was it 2, 5 or 7 days?

I remember on the other thread, people saying you’re sensitive to smells rather than her being smelly. Sometimes I have to air rooms for days to remove smells.

I'd believe this could be the case however it was my cleaner who was taking the sheets off the bed. And she told me they stink. She said the mattress smelt awful and that we could let it air outside like her mum used to do when she wet the bed.

It sounds as though she has her own mental health issues, OP. Given your own challenges, I don't think your friendship is likely to ever have been positive for either of you. In this case I'd just block and ignore her. She's certainly no loss to your wellbeing.