To want my own bed on holiday

[littlepieces]

I'm going to Lisbon for a long weekend in July, meeting up with two great friends I haven't seen for about 4 years; one lives in LA, the other is in Dublin (I'm in London). We booked a villa with four double bedrooms to accommodate LA friend and her husband, their friends (another couple) who I've met a few times and are lovely, then Dublin friend and me would each have our own rooms.

LA friend has just announced that she's invited another couple, hope that's OK with everyone. And possibly some other friend might sleep on the sofa bed for two nights?! This now means me and Dublin friend will be sharing a queen size bed. Now I adore Dublin friend but I'm 35 and want my own bed. Also she's 6'2, snores loads, and is always the one last to bed drunk, and freakishly early to rise. I'm a loser and like my sleep 😄. I'm thinking of suggesting to book my own place, but think this might go down badly. Something similar happened with another group of friends years ago on a trip to New York - they had people sleeping on the floor in a grotty, overpriced Airbnb with rats, while I stayed in a really nice, new hostel with private rooms. They were all a bit offended and caused some bad feeling.

Wait a minute!! I am in the States, and I have not had this experience. Always want my own room when traveling. May be fine with adjoining rooms with just one door between them, but definitely not extra people all in one room.

Have you told them you are not sharing yet?!

This sort of shit is just about tolerable as a student, but as a fully grown adult, I don’t go anywhere unless I have my own room and preferably, my own bathroom. Essentially, if it’s not at least as comfortable as my own home, I ain’t going

I wouldn't share a room, let alone a bed, with anyone I wasn't shagging. No-one would want to share with me either. I have very odd sleeping habits. I wake in the small hours, when I get up, make a cuppa and take it back to bed to drink while I read. And then there's the farting...

I think you're going to have to be very clear and say that this is only ok if you get the room to yourself as originally planned.

I wonder if the extra people will mean a shortage of other things, too, though? I've stayed in many a holiday cottage that sleeps 4, and also has 4 mugs, 4 wine glasses, 4 place settings of cutlery etc.

I also think it's very rude of LA friend to invite others along without consulting others first.

So @littlepieces have you been totally blunt with USA friend and asked where they were sleeping as you aren’t sharing

Did you speak to them about it?