@Daisydot87 Thank you for your post pointing out OPs rights.
Many horrible things have been done to women in the past that were perfectly legal and aren't legal now and people used to defend those behaviours.
It took long enough for marital rape and coercive control to be seen as wrong and still, women are very reluctant to report anything at all due to the deeply misogynistic and victim blaming that still exists in our society.
There have been court cases about this and law proposals.
When people lie to obtain money, we call it theft. When they lie to enter
private property, we call it trespass. When they lie to obtain sex . . . we have no
idea what to call it.
Some call it lawful seduction. Others call it criminal rape.
An Israeli court recently aligned itself with the latter camp when it convicted an Arab man of rape-by-deception for falsely claiming that he was a Jewish bachelor in order to have sex with a Jewish woman.
So too did a Scottish court when it convicted a transgendered man of “sexual intimacy by fraud” for failing to reveal his gender history to his girlfriend.
In contrast, a grand jury in New Jersey sided with those who call lying to obtain sex an act of lawful seduction when it refused to indict a man for sexual assault for having sex with his fiancée after lying about his nationality, profession, and marital status.In response, New Jersey Assemblyman Troy Singleton sought to amend the state’s rape laws to include a crime of sex obtained by fraud or deception.
Assemblyman Singleton challenged those who opposed the bill to ask themselves: should the law “afford less legal protection to a person’s body than it does to that person’s property?”
After all, he asked, “if it is a crime to deceive individuals out of their property,
how can it be lawful to deceive them out of their bodies?”
The criminal case and subsequent bill sparked a national conversation and a healthy dose of scholarly commentary on the limits of rape law and the fuzzy line between permissible sex and unlawful rape.