I’ve recently become friends with a girl I used to work with, we only worked together for six months and were friendly then, but have been spending some time together recently. Going for the odd cocktail etc. she’s always been nice enough.
She asked if I’d be interested in going to Berlin with her for the weekend, and I said yes. So here we are now and my issue is, my friend turned up with no money hardly. She turned up at the airport with 60 euros and only 7 pound for a four day trip. We have no food included in our room.
I wouldn’t have minded but she’s recently been on a 3 day night out, meals out, cinema and whatever else. Now we are in Berlin and she can’t afford anything and I’m having to subsidise us. Even at the airport with a 4 hour wait, she couldn’t even afford a coffee so I have had to cover it.
Now we are in Berlin, and she’s also so angry. If I go into a shop to look at anything or, if we go to a bar, it’s obvious she’s uncomfortable as she can’t afford anything and then it puts me on the spot. She’s also being very sweary and angry! This trip was her idea and she’s been abroad to European cities before so she knows they’re pricey.
Weve got two more nights and I honestly don’t know how to stop feeling so awkward. I brought enough money (280 euros) but it’s now draining so fast.
AIBU?
To ask how I don’t be bitter this weekend?
Dancingmoonlight · 23/04/2022 07:39
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLLoisLane66 · 05/05/2022 23:03
When you get to my age you've learned the lessons that younger MNers are still trying to process, such as the trusting OP, in this case.
Never borrow never lend is my mantra - not to friends or family. It can do irreparable damage in many ways.
stayathomer · 06/05/2022 06:20
When you get to my age you've learned the lessons that younger MNers are still trying to process, such as the trusting OP, in this case.
Never borrow never lend is my mantra - not to friends or family. It can do irreparable damage in many ways.
This used to be my mantra, repeated over and over to me by my parents who were fantastic savers and excellent with money. We went through a 'bad patch' years ago and we struggled and crawled for a few years until we were offered a loan by a relative, a relative who saved us and who we paid back early. Now I don't think life is so clear cut, and I'd never say it to my kids. You try all other avenues, yes, but if you have to ask for help, you must
Dancingmoonlight · 28/04/2022 21:46
Have messaged her twice, read and no response! I was expecting to be blocked tbh, but know if I keep going on now I’ll get blocked.
I thought about now I’m back in the uk, just going around and asking for it, but then again I’m not the bloody bailiffs and she lives in a flat so could easily just ignore the buzzer.
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