To say parenting is boring?

[BoredYummyMummy]

I’m bored of; the shitty nappies, the crying, the whining, the coaxing to do absolutely everything, the cheery ‘well done’s’ as they do the same fucking thing agaiiiin, the infinite laundry, the tantrums, the streams of snot and oh my god I’m bored of fucking BING

Any sane human has to find the repetition bone achingly boring?

Mine are pretty much the same age gap but 9 and just turned 11. I could not wait until they were old enough to sort themselves out re. feeding and going to the loo and showering and going out to play. Turns out, it's different but still rather dull. One would rather play alone whereas the other is in and out with friends and I still seem to spend half my holidays either preparing or tidying up after meals or waiting for them to either go out or come home. I still have to pester them to go to bed or get in the shower etc. The teen years are just around the corner and I am not looking forward to them.

The park is boring. Sooooooo boring. I thought I'd love taking DD to the park but I hate it, my heart sinks every single time we go. There, I have said it.

I absolutely looooove my little DS but I find the same activities quite dull. I work full time so it's a real pleasure to hang out with him, but I couldn't be a SAHM.

It’s worth it in the long run.

But yes, imo for 18 years parenting is 90% hard work, worry, boredom and takes up all of your time and money on things that are generally a bit crap.
But with 10% worth of highlights that make it all worthwhile.

This is how I feel. The only chore I enjoy is cooking. A neighbour friend helps me once a week for a few hours. She's one of those people who enjoys tasks that I hate and would never do if she weren't working alongside me. The contrast between us is fascinating. I need radio or a podcast to take the edge off the utter mundanity of the laundry folding task. She does not because she derives pleasure from the task itself. I can literally see her buzzing from a cupboard re-org. These people need to pair up with people like me. There are 3 years between my two children. Never had two in nappies and we still "lived off the dry pile" for years. The "dry pile" being the pile that never made it into drawers and wardrobes ever. One year gap is super tough. I sometimes think we need to lower our domestic standards in general so that we can spend a few minutes engaged in something more interesting.

I can’t make sense of that either.

90% hideous.

if your extremely expensive hair salon that you went to weekly made you feel rubbish every nine out of ten visits, would you say they are still worth going to?

It’s just my opinion.
I love my DCs very much, then and now.
But I’m also glad they are now independent and I wouldn’t want to go back in time to do it again.
I just don’t think being a parent came very naturally to me unfortunately, but I did my best.
They’ve grown up into good people and we are still very close.
So yes, for me overall the highlights outweighed the grind.

Not really the same thing.
You can’t just opt out of your responsibilities as a parent.

You said 10% of highlights make it all worthwhile.

if you compared to any other extremely expensive activity would 10% of it being ‘good’ make it worth it?

i didn’t mention ‘opting out’.

No, I don’t find it boring at all unlike some very tedious jobs I’ve had. There is repetition and tedium in every job but parenting has been the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done.

However! My only complaint with motherhood is that I have had very little sleep which drives me nuts. I was diagnosed with clinical sleep deprivation and it was torture. It is much better now but I still don’t get good enough sleep.

Your feelings are totally normal and I can see why you’ve had enough of the diapers and all the rest. It seems like there’s never a break from it. It will get better!

I'm not a fan of babies or toddlers but they get much more fun @ 3 plus when you can have a good chat.

@ijustcouldntthinkofausername you say you hate the ironing the most. Does it really need doing? I’ve got two kids to 6 and 2 without ironing a single thing for them!

When they start school life dramatically improves. I think I was the only mother shouting “YES!” and cheering that first drop off morning. All the other mothers were crying and clutching their pearls over missing their little darlings and I’m the one asking “when can he start after school clubs”
if they’re 1 and 2 sign them up to some nursery. Two mornings a week minimum. Then sit on your arse and enjoy some peace and quiet.

I started a similar thread about 9 years ago. Onoromise it gets better! Mine are 10 and 13 now, and whilst there is a bit of a struggle going on re: personal hygiene/lazy teenagers, they’re more interesting and fun than when they were in those toddler:preschool days.

Completely agree. Single mum to nearly 5 year old son, and sometimes I find it soo boring.. I love him to bits but sitting playing same old stuff is mind numbing, so taking that into consideration I try get out and do stuff. Something he will enjoy but I'm also interested in, this way he experiences new things while I also have fun. Lots of new adventures, experiences etc, plus a happy mum = happy child. Tbh I love arts and crafts, and it's defo rubbed of on him so we sit together colouring and drawing etc, my minds busy and he loves the quality time. So I can only advice to start incorporate your interests into daily life, keep having fun on your terms. The kids will love it either way, x

Sweet baby clothes lose their novelty after the first wash I find.

Does it then magically hang itself up? Put itself away?
Please share your tips on this miracle.

It does have boring, tiring parts but I really love it. I like changing nappies. I like watching her with her toys or look over at me and beam as though to say "isn't this great mummy?"

Also, I really like Bing 😂 I think it's such a good show, very sweet

4-12 are the best years. 13-18 are the hardest but 1-3 are definitely the dullest!!

Agree it looks utterly boring and tedious. I don't understand why that doesn't put more women off to be honest unless they kid themselves that their baby won't be boring. Motherhood is a mugs game.

Sometimes it is very boring, and it’s very tiring, especially if you never get a break.
I’m a single mum and recently two separate couples-parents have said to me “Oh, but isn’t it so nice that you get to spend all your time with your kid?”
And yes, it is. But you know what’s also nice? Peeing on my own. Taking a long shower. Waking up naturally.

At this age parenting is pretty relentless. I know I’ll miss it when he’s older, so I make the most of it- but god I need a day off. 😩

It is. I lasted four months, they then went to nursery and I went back to work pt each time. Just outsource the worst bits.
Great by primary school.
They're now 19 and 17 and nothing was harder than those first two or three years.