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To say parenting is boring?

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BoredYummyMummy · 22/04/2022 20:05

I’m bored of; the shitty nappies, the crying, the whining, the coaxing to do absolutely everything, the cheery ‘well done’s’ as they do the same fucking thing agaiiiin, the infinite laundry, the tantrums, the streams of snot and oh my god I’m bored of fucking BING

Any sane human has to find the repetition bone achingly boring?

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DaffodilsandCoffee · 22/04/2022 21:52

overall I really like it, but there’s definitely moments and sometimes entire days that do my head in, and the way there’s basically no time off can feel hard sometimes.

Trying to persuade a toddler to let me change their shitty nappy isn’t exactly my favourite thing to do, but it’s balanced out by a lot of pure joy.

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sqirrelfriends · 22/04/2022 21:56

Bing is a little shit, try finding something less awful. (Hey Duggee is amazing)

Parenting is a grind, I think it gets better but at almost 4 I'm still having to bargain and nag DS to do anything.

RowanAlong · 22/04/2022 21:57

I don’t find parenting the actual children boring at all, but the mountain of chores that go alongside raising them, yes, are unbelievably boring.

Giraffesandbottoms · 22/04/2022 21:59

Bing is a little shit

that is actually unfair. Bing is a little bit whiny. PANDO IS A LITTLE
SHIT!!!!! And Alma is a total enabler. The swing episode gives me rage. And surely it’s a safeguarding issue to just let pando go around in fucking pants?!

Sunnytwobridges · 22/04/2022 21:59

I'm with you. It was so mind numbingly boring. It got better when she met friends and was old enough to go outside and play which was around age 6 or 7.

I stayed at home with her for about 4 months and I would cry every day from boredom . I finally got a job and it wasn't too bad except the weekends and I still had to push myself thru them. Work and her getting older saved my sanity.

😅

WibblyWobblyLane · 22/04/2022 21:59

That age is mind numbingly boring. I have a 4 year old and it still has it's moments, we are getting to a fun stage. I love her to bits and love being HER mum, but not being a mum, if that makes sense.

EarlGreywithLemon · 22/04/2022 22:08

No. I really love it (daughter 2 and a half).

Giraffesandbottoms · 22/04/2022 22:15

That age is mind numbingly boring

madness! 1 and 2 are magical - they are still cute and babyish but also developing sense of self/mischief/personality and learning to speak and engage. It’s a fantastic age!

also I want to say I am
a big fan of the nappy stage. The nappy stage and the loo stages are great. The in between where they poo in a potty you need to empty and clean several times a day is less good 🤢🤦🏻‍♀️😆

EarlGreywithLemon · 22/04/2022 22:16

On the other hand I find adults at work moaning and politicking incredibly tedious and so so repetitive. Give me a toddler to look after any day. When I went on mat leave I said no way would be a baby as difficult to deal with as my then boss. I was completely right (Luckily I now have a different boss)

EarlGreywithLemon · 22/04/2022 22:18

@Giraffesandbottoms madness! 1 and 2 are magical - they are still cute and babyish but also developing sense of self/mischief/personality and learning to speak and engage. It’s a fantastic age!
I agree. She comes up with the funniest stuff. And she’s so delighted about the smallest things; everything is new and amazing.

PrinnyPree · 22/04/2022 22:20

Wow 2 kids 2 and under, that is hard, I have a (nearly) 2 year old and it's bad enough. I'm probably more mixed feelings, I don't totally hate it, but he does go to nursery 2 days a week Tues and Thurs whilst I WFH so I get a break from the relentless drudgery. I used to be full time but packed it in 3 months after coming back after mat leave as it was a high stress job and I needed a better work life balance. (12 years of service and I was pretty burned out regardless of kids, mat leave felt comparitively glorious)

Fucking hate Bing too though, I try to steer towards Bluey or Kiri and Lou on I player but I usually get requests for Peppa or Paw Patrol on Netflix... Brushing teeth and nappies are now a nightmare, especially nappies and he really flails.

The worse thing for me though is he seems to get real enjoyment for hurting me sometimes, like the hitting me whilst he's having a tantrum is one thing because he's uncontrollably upset, but sometimes when he's calm or we're having a cuddle he'll just bite or nip me really hard or pull my hair (And grit his teeth whilst nipping me and laugh). I find THAT really difficult and it makes me feel like shit.

summersun29 · 22/04/2022 23:13

Depends, some kids are exhausting! I often think how different it would be if mj kid wasn't so easy going...

mycatisannoying · 22/04/2022 23:16

I raise you my teens post. Just you wait! Grin
Sorry, no, you're right. Much of it is boring, and let's be frank, you spend about 70% of your life doing stuff you'd rather not be doing!
YANBU Flowers

pointythings · 22/04/2022 23:20

I enjoyed the baby thing because love and all that. But honestly, I enjoyed them most when they were teenagers. Opinionated, kind, open-minded, funny, challenging, all of that. Because of them, I opened myself up to new music, art and culture. Learned so much. It was worth all the shitty nappies and tantrums and bloody Biff, Chip and Kipper. I loved it so much I fostered another one. They're 19, 20 and 21 now and I wouldn't be without them. Keep going, it really does get better.

veronicagoldberg · 22/04/2022 23:22

I thought I would find it tedious but I actually really enjoy it Blush

Marty13 · 22/04/2022 23:33

It is endless, and boring, and exhausting, and draining.

To clarify, I've never ever regretted having my kids. I'm a single parent by choice so it's doubly relentless as I can't even "just" take a shower or go grab something at the grocery store.

But I see it as an investment into the future. My are 2 and 3 so still young but the eldest is beginning to speak well and the youngest is beginning to speak also, and our interactions become more interesting every month. I think I'll start enjoying being a parent when they're about 5-6.

Right now it can be pretty miserable (they're great kids ! But they act their age, which is hard regardless). But I know if I didn't have them I'd regret it so, so much.

I've decided recently to go for a third, and for a while it wasn't looking great (as a single parent I need IVF which entails loads of paperwork and related issues). Thinking it might not happen made me appreciate the kids I already have more, tantrums and all.

Choopi · 22/04/2022 23:34

I loved it personally. You have to do chores whether you have kids or not and things like changing nappies etc never bothered me, it's quick and easy. I loved watching them learn and grow, loved showing them new things, loved just generally hanging out with them. I thought it was an amazing privilege to be part of it all tbh.

Marty13 · 22/04/2022 23:36

Wanted to add I'm so so fortunate as my kids act their age but overall they're wonderful, and though it's hard it could be so much harder if they weren't so good and well behaved. I'm so proud of them. Makes it worth every stinky diaper.

Newforumnewname · 22/04/2022 23:39

I’ll never forget a friend turning to me as we pushed the pushchairs down to the baby group….. “I really really can’t be bothered to teach him colours” she said “I’ve just fucking taught my eldest! I can’t be bothered to start going “oh a truck what colour is it? yes it’s red!” again!”
I totally feel you.

pixie5121 · 22/04/2022 23:44

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supersonicspider · 22/04/2022 23:47

Remember that you are their whole world. Cherish them as tough as it can be sometimes.

PortalooSunset · 22/04/2022 23:50

Whoever told me it would be better once they got older was a fucking liar 😡

ijustcouldntthinkofausername · 22/04/2022 23:56

I love being a mum, don't mind the nappies, I enjoy the encouragement and the exaggerated well dones because he's my first and he's only just gone 1 and I love to see him progressing etc. that being said he is my first and I imagine it is very difficult with a 2 and 1 year old.
Wash loads don't bother me, I do same as you by putting a wash load in overnight and then tumble dry in morning but it's the ironing I HATE. This is relentless and boring for me, not the baby,
Everyone is different I suppose but that's my experience (so far) I might be back here in few months with a different outlook yet though lol

Youcansaythatagainandagain · 22/04/2022 23:57

YANBU. It is incredibly fucking boring and monotonous.
I disagree that it 'gets better' as they get older. Mine are in Y3 and Y4. Its still boring. Their chat is relentless and dull about topics like computer games.

The same laundry, cooking meals, picking up other people's stuff, tidying bedrooms, being a taxi driver for daily activities, making sure they do homework, practice music, brushing hair and teeth, cleaning muddy shoes, emptying pockets of stones and pine cones. Thank fuck they are growing out of playgrounds which is a particular kind of hell.