To say parenting is boring?

[BoredYummyMummy]

I’m bored of; the shitty nappies, the crying, the whining, the coaxing to do absolutely everything, the cheery ‘well done’s’ as they do the same fucking thing agaiiiin, the infinite laundry, the tantrums, the streams of snot and oh my god I’m bored of fucking BING

Any sane human has to find the repetition bone achingly boring?

Don't ask for a refund just yet... I promise it gets funner (best word ever). Mine is now 12 and an absolute legend. Just have to wait a decade 😂. But yes, agree that babies and toddlers are a complete ball ache.

I think people must just have different kids.

Mine get up at 5 and there are meltdowns all day. Its shit. I can't seem to play anything with them because they fight or don't engage.

Sorry notsorry to have offended you with my boredom

When mine we're there age I met an older woman in the park and she said she hoisted up a flag mentally the day they started school - made me feel so much better. 90 percent drudgery, 10 percent wonderful I find.

@BoredYummyMummy I wasn't meaning you I was meaning the poster who slated you for not being organised.

If you read my posts you'd see I agreed with you.

DueyCheatemAndHow · 22/04/2022 20:48
God someone left the gate open at the cunt farm again didn't they

ha ha ha! 😂

Yeah it’s pretty draining, With flashes of loveliness. 2, 2 and under must be pretty damn challenging!

philippa perry’s book “the book you wish your parents had read” helped me quite a lot with keeping calm. I’ve been told they get better by 5yrs old. Probably because they are in school 😬.

It's little flashes of amazingness wrapped up in 95% relentless drudgery.

I don't mind changing shitty nappies - I do mind having to chase them around and fight them to get it off, then fight them again to get a clean one on.

I don't mind helping them to do every little thing, like get dressed. I do mind wrestling them into clothes only for them to run away and pull them off two minutes later.

I don't mind cleaning up mess if they've been playing and having fun. I do mind cleaning up mess that they've made just for the hell of it - tipping out baskets of washing, pulling duvets off beds, dragging stuff out cupboards and all over the floor .

I hate cooking food that nobody eats.

I hate the coaxing. I hate the negotiating that never goes anywhere and ends up with them either getting what they want and me screaming internally with frustration, or me sticking to my guns and then having an epic meltdown.

I hate the fact that with two I can never please them both. It's always a battle - even if they don't care about the underlying issue, they will kick up hell for it just to see who wins, to see who I love more.

Genuinely had no idea it would be this hard.

Of course it’s monotonous and there are tedious moments, but I think parenting is very much a “you get back what you put in” type of thing. I certainly find on days when I’m my most tired and stressed, the children are at their worst. In general it’s delightful, and things like the nappy changes and the washing aren’t exactly a surprise (I absolutely love hanging up and folding washing etc too - cute little baby clothes, what’s not to love?!). Even on my exhausted days (like a PP, mine wake up at 5), I just try to see the good and focus on their sweet little faces and it’s always fine 😊

Also I think the Bing episodes are sweet but it drives me mad that Bing doesn’t speak properly. How does that help children?!

You have the same ages as I do. I feel bad because my 6 year old was really really hard work when he was a baby and toddler and my 2 year old, bless him really is an angel compared to how he was. However, it's still much harder being with the 2 year old right now. Constantly worrying about him running off, hurting himself, nappies, screeching. My 6 year old is so portable.

You mention the sweet spot. What happens a 9?

But what is Flop? Is he Bing's dad? Why is he so creepy?!

@Giraffesandbottoms

“I absolutely love hanging up and folding washing etc too”

you want to get a life! 🤣

@LuckySantangelo35

me liking something you don’t like doesn’t mean I need a life, thanks! I just find the joy in the little things
and I also like the smell. I love the life I have 😊

@Favourodds

there is a deeeeep rabbit hole on the Internet about this. Many theories. There’s also a fantastic “open letter to flop” somewhere that cracks me up every time, about how he’s just SO unflappable no matter what!

@Giraffesandbottoms

its not that I don’t like it per se, I guess I’m just indifferent. And genuinely surprised someone could “absolutely love it”

@LuckySantangelo35

i have a wall pulley hanging thing and there’s something extremely soothing and satisfying about using it and hanging the clothes up 😃 I like to organise things though so maybe that’s part of it. Also i do most of my washing at the weekend so it’s a nice and calm room
to hide in from the children whilst DH is on duty with them 😆

My least favourite things at the moment:
Endless washing
A nightly battle over cleaning teeth
House looking like a shit tip constantly
Being woken up every night
Constant noise
Food waste
Coming in to the bathroom to find my toiletries smeared all over the place, entire pack of (unused!) sanitary towels stuck to the wall etc
"No mummy the GREEN sippy cup!!!"
Frozen. So over fucking Frozen.

Oh, and Baby Shark.

and there’s something extremely soothing and satisfying about using it and hanging the clothes up

So you can achieve that without being screamed/cried/whined at?

I like to organise things

me too.. marie kondo’d the duck out of my drawers.. doesn’t make it less boring to fold laundry times 4 PER DAY

Ah, @florianfortescue we are the same this evening, my pads were stuck to the stair bannister shouting ‘Mammy’ solidarity

Bing is absolutely fucking horrendous..you do know you can say no to Bing right? No one should have to tolerate that shit.. Literally makes me want to pull my eyeballs out if he pops up on the TV.
It is boring and shit at times parenting, I wouldn't mind not having to wash a pooey potty out ever again. But I would miss all the funny and good stuff. For example my 3 year old pooed a kind of stickman shape on the potty, got u,.inspected her work and said 'Oh, I pooed Dad!!'
It's all worth it for these magic memories 😂😂😉
One thing that helped me on a few bad days with my toddler was headphones. Amazing how much more tolerable freezing my tits off at the park was whilst listening to Robyn and Strike's latest case.
Also do shit for you. Even if it's really small like picking up your favourite sandwich filling...or actually drinking enough water one day ...or using any help you can possibly get to have a nap......whatever self care takes the edge off. Someone once said to me,
They will never need us more than they did today... that thought makes me sad and relieved at the same time.

I’ve found my people 🙌🏻

this week has been the absolute WORST too. I see you all, I hear you all, you’re not alone.

7month old - little bloody angel.
20 month old - absolutely exhausting!!! And I’m a nursery nurse!
i think it just hits differently when it’s you’re own and you can’t give them back at the end of the day.

So you can achieve that without being screamed/cried/whined at

yes. During the week I do emergency loads of stuff that needs doing immediately aka spilled or stained - that doesn’t take very long and usually I can get the children to do something in the utility room like stack loo rolls or “help” (definitely not helping and making mess but easy enough to fix) for these smaller loads. Bulk of washing is at the weekend when DH can have them for the hanging and folding bits that do take time as it’s a lot!

I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and I don’t understand how you have 4 loads of washing a day, every day

What is this wall pulley hanging thing of which you speak?!

Oh, OP, why do you have to fold it 4 times a day? That is a lot of laundry!

I wonder if you could find a way to reduce it, or at least reduce the folding?