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Original poster

DH has given DD all of her easter chocolate over the last week

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:41

I bought some small easter eggs and little mini egg things about a month ago for DD to do an easter egg hunt today. When I bought them, I said to DH these are for DD, don't eat them and don't give them to her because they are for easter. Put them in the cupboard under the stairs in an easter bucket thing so it was very clear.

Came downstairs today to find none of it is there. Asked DH and he said he's given it to her over the last week because he doesn't want her "eating it in one go".

AIBU for being really annoyed? I was really clear and was looking forward to doing this for her and had told her the easter bunny would be bringing her eggs and hiding them, so she knows we were meant to be doing this. All of the shops are shut today so I can't get any more.

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f** off in general.

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

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WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia · 17/04/2022 12:38

What do you mean you "went nuts"?

Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 12:46

*They’ve had an argument, like every healthy couple do. Stop trying to paint a picture that of the OP’s own accounts is completely inaccurate. No person is perfect, we all mess up. This was one of those occasions and now has been rectified.

Glad you managed to sort it, OP. Hope your DC had a lovely Easter egg hunt.*

Honestly, the amount of people suggesting that any form of argument between a couple is a sign of a serious problem is surprising. We argue once in a blue moon, today was one of those days. We've been together for 15 years, these things happen!

She loved the easter egg hunt and DH has since apologised and said that it was a really nice thing to arrange for her. At least he knows for next year.

What do you mean you "went nuts"?

"Why did you give her them already and eat some yourself? You knew they were for today for an easter egg hunt and now I can't do it because most of the shops will be closed. For god's sake, I've been looking forward to doing that with her and have asked you not to give them to her". Obviously said in a bit of a shirty manner because I was wound up.

Not anything sinister as I imagine many on here suspect.

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whynotwhatknot · 17/04/2022 12:46

why did he eat the mini eggs though and then say you had some aswell

HRTQueen · 17/04/2022 12:48

Lesson learnt op don’t come on to MN with an argument that is trivial that you want to vent about Grin

Glad your little one enjoyed her Easter egg hunt 🐣

Mef82 · 17/04/2022 12:49

@AllOfUsAreDead

I wouldnt have gone out to get more. I'd have yelled at him to tell his daughter the truth about what happened, the fact that he ate them all because let's face it, the selfish fucker did. Then he'd have been told to get his fat arse to the local shops for more EGGS, not freddos and god help him if he came back with anything but eggs.

Your husband is not a good father or person, sorry to break it to you.

That sounds like a scary reaction. Where would the three year old be,in this scenario, while you were yelling and shouting at her dad to get his 'fat arse' to the shop? Hiding under her bed maybe?
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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 12:55

That sounds like a scary reaction. Where would the three year old be,in this scenario, while you were yelling and shouting at her dad to get his 'fat arse' to the shop? Hiding under her bed maybe?

Exactly. If we do have disagreements, DD is not in any way shape or form involved in them. DH comes from a household where he always saw his parents arguing and it caused a lot of early trauma for him which he acknowledges and wants to do everything possible not to bring his kids up that way. It's also not how I want to do things. We model behaviour for our kids, after all.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 12:56

@HRTQueen yep, was not expecting to hear the pre-cursors to LTB over easter eggs! Just wanted a moan.

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Booklover3 · 17/04/2022 13:01

I don’t think anyone said LTB did they? We just said he’s a dick and that you’re minimising his behaviour

girlmom21 · 17/04/2022 13:03

[quote afizzysweet]@HRTQueen yep, was not expecting to hear the pre-cursors to LTB over easter eggs! Just wanted a moan.[/quote]
People were responding to the real issue here:

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f off in general.

cluckyduckyfeelinglucky · 17/04/2022 13:12

Awk noooo!!! Why did he ruin her wee fun day. I know it's not life or death but little ones love these kind of tings and they mean so much when they're small. I would change the locks on the house after you send him out to replace them

HRTQueen · 17/04/2022 13:12

Oh stop it

Husband was a bit of a dick over some chocolate and they had an argument

Op vented on MN as she was annoyed

It’s been resolved their dd had a lovely time and he has apologised

End of story …

Script writers from soaps should look on MN for ideas the ability to create drama is quite a talent

LaurenKelsey · 17/04/2022 13:21

This is a terrible thing to do to his child and to you. It seems that you’ll have to hide the chocolate from HIM in the future. I’d ask your DD what chocolate he gave her. I’m guessing he ate all or most of it. Then he gave you a ridiculous excuse and is now blaming you for reacting to his utter selfish and inconsiderate behaviour.

LaurenKelsey · 17/04/2022 13:27

I read your update and it was apparently much ado about nothing.

converseandjeans · 17/04/2022 13:29

He broke it in to small pieces in a bowl rather than give her the eggs so that it was easier for her to eat

So she didn't actually get the thrill of opening up the egg in the foil. Part of the fun is cracking it open. Breaking it up into pieces makes it no longer an Easter Egg.

I also think he is out of order as there hasn't been chocolate on offer in the house & he didn't want to stand up to DD and so gave in to her.

I know you say he's great - but this sounds controlling.

I also think he has probably eaten quite a bit himself. Hide it all next year at your Mums house.

Newmum1998 · 17/04/2022 13:30

Does he often try to gaslight you ?

Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 14:14

Oh my word

No he is not controlling
No he doesn't gaslight me

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girlmom21 · 17/04/2022 14:15

@afizzysweet

Oh my word

No he is not controlling
No he doesn't gaslight me

He is if he tried to convince you you'd eaten the mini eggs too
Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 14:16

I read your update and it was apparently much ado about nothing.

Well yeah, we had a minor row about Easter eggs and I came here to vent, this certainly isn't going to affect anything wider than that. Now we're back to having a lovely day. He's out with DD in the garden playing whilst I put my feet up with a cuppa for a bit.

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dumdumduuuummmmm · 17/04/2022 14:19

For the love of God, people in here love to undermine other people abs their relationships. Sometimes I wonder why I'm on here are all.
OP glad you had a lovely morning. For what it's worth, I am loud, shorty, sweary, volatile, moody, unpredictable, unreasonable and petulant. I'm also loving, nurturing, caring, fun, and committed. My DH wouldn't want me any other way and I wouldn't want him and all his peculiarities any other way either. I can assure you, the most sanctimonious on here are also the most dysfunctional. They fail to see their own fallibility's and they genuinely believe they are perfect.

dumdumduuuummmmm · 17/04/2022 14:20

Shouty not shorty. Well I am kind of short tbh

HRTQueen · 17/04/2022 14:23

Op do you have a fever ?

Maybe you have come down with Stockholm Syndrome Shock

Honestly the arm chair psychology on here is nasty at times

SpinningMeSoftly · 17/04/2022 14:49

How did he dispose of the evidence? Hmm

Were there no easter egg wrappers visible in the bin(s) - or were they hidden under the yogurt pots? That's where I'd be focusing my interrogations. As I often say, it's not the original fuck-up that bites you on the bum - it's the cover-up.

RussianSpy101 · 17/04/2022 15:01

I don’t think the worst thing is that the gave the eggs. It’s the fact he told you to fuck off over chocolate!

Carlswhite29x · 17/04/2022 15:21

Omg MNs is literally the most dramatic place on the internet. Husband and wife have arguement and everyone is quick to call husband a dick or question whether the husband is abusive/gaslighting wife 🙄 I don't know how you lot have the gaul!

Patchbatch · 17/04/2022 15:43

@Carlswhite29x

Omg MNs is literally the most dramatic place on the internet. Husband and wife have arguement and everyone is quick to call husband a dick or question whether the husband is abusive/gaslighting wife 🙄 I don't know how you lot have the gaul!
Perhaps some people have higher standards and think this behaviour isn't attractive?