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Original poster

DH has given DD all of her easter chocolate over the last week

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:41

I bought some small easter eggs and little mini egg things about a month ago for DD to do an easter egg hunt today. When I bought them, I said to DH these are for DD, don't eat them and don't give them to her because they are for easter. Put them in the cupboard under the stairs in an easter bucket thing so it was very clear.

Came downstairs today to find none of it is there. Asked DH and he said he's given it to her over the last week because he doesn't want her "eating it in one go".

AIBU for being really annoyed? I was really clear and was looking forward to doing this for her and had told her the easter bunny would be bringing her eggs and hiding them, so she knows we were meant to be doing this. All of the shops are shut today so I can't get any more.

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f** off in general.

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

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girlmom21 · 17/04/2022 09:09

Psycho-analysing a bit but I don't think he's parents did things like easter egg hunts with him so don't think he sees the issue as long how she gets chocolate because she still gets her chocolate.

Bollocks.
My parents didn't do Easter egg hunts but I wouldn't ruin them for my own children.

minipie · 17/04/2022 09:14

@HowFascinating

He has eaten most of them himself- because there was no other chocolate in the house. He gave DD a few bits here and there, for a grain of truth in a cover story. He's trying to make out it was all done with good intentions and DD's best interests(which don't actually make sense) but if that were true, he wouldn't be nasty and angry at you. He's nasty and angry because he's been caught out.
Yup this. I wonder if your DD even got any, maybe the odd fragment.

What an utter twat.

Booklover3 · 17/04/2022 09:15

Nah he is a dick. He’s not a well meaning dick. He spoilt your fun and his own child’s. Sorry OP but I wouldn’t minimise that behaviour personally.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:15

She was eating some this morning when I came downstairs so she's definitely had some but I feel like I would have seen them being gradually eaten seeing as I'm home with her 95% of the time, he's definitely been eating them as well.

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HopeIsNotAStrategy · 17/04/2022 09:15

I'm afraid this smacks of deliberate sabotage to me. Nasty. I would gently suggest you have a think about that. 💐

theleafandnotthetree · 17/04/2022 09:16

@WelliesWithHeels

Ew. He sounds vile. Why would he want to ruin your DC's Easter?
Vile? Ah now come on...
Booklover3 · 17/04/2022 09:17

I’d try COOP first. They had some yesterday in the one near me. So fingers crossed.

Also if he were genuinely sorry then he would be rectifying it… he said he would get Freddos I think you said? He’s not sorry.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:17

I'm not going to think too hard on it tbh, he is a great dad and a really good husband, he's just been annoying this morning, it's not a sign of a wider issue. Probably thought because she's so young she would forget or not care, but I do.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:18

Just getting dressed to head to co-op, will report back!

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AngelinaFibres · 17/04/2022 09:19

@CaptainCallisto

Hide some real eggs if you've got some, and then get DD to decorate them when she's found them. We did that last year after I totally forgot to buy extra chocolate ones to hide and the DC's loved it!
That's an excellent idea
EdwinaSharma · 17/04/2022 09:21

That's awful because he's deliberately spoiled something you had planned as a nice thing for your dd.

SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 17/04/2022 09:22

Apart from anything else, he should not be telling you to F off! Total lack of respect.

JosephineDeBeauharnais · 17/04/2022 09:22

@Hoppinggreen

He ate them and is being defensive because he knows he shouldn’t have
This ^^. He hasn’t been breaking them into small pieces in a bowl and giving them to her over the past week ffs.
ToCaden · 17/04/2022 09:23

Good luck. I tend to find the smaller shops (small Pound shop type places, convenience stores) tend to hold onto their eggs for longer than supermarkets.

EatTheToast · 17/04/2022 09:24

Sounds like he's getting a kick out of spoiling something special for your daughter. Yes I would be sending him around petrol stations to sort this out. And probably ruining something that is special to him but I know that's not a mature response.

Sally872 · 17/04/2022 09:24

Is he even sorry?

He should have had a conversation if he thought the egg hunt was a bad idea not just ruined it. I don't believe he is too stupid to grasp the concept either he ie either lazy and couldn't say no to request for choc (lazy not soft) or deliberately ruining it for you.

RussianSpy101 · 17/04/2022 09:26

He’s ruined DDs Easter plans and told you to fuck off.
Next Easter loose the DH!
I hope you and DD have a lovely day!

TheBigDilemma · 17/04/2022 09:26

Red flags… the man who cannot put his children first, his needs and wants come always first.

It is just Easter chocolates op, but I’m sure that if you look a bit more carefully you will notice this is not a one off.

EatTheToast · 17/04/2022 09:27

His excuse is shit too. I don't let my DS eat all his eggs at once either. He will be eating them over the next month or so not pre easter.

thebabynanny · 17/04/2022 09:27

What a mean thing to do to your dd.

Who steals a 3 year olds Easter eggs ffs?

Wereeaglesdare · 17/04/2022 09:27

8 shops yesterday! It is slim pickings out there petrol stations only place near me still selling eggs. Why don't u go out and buy lots of kinder eggs and creme eggs and do an egg hunt with them? Most corner shops will have them still

WalkerWalking · 17/04/2022 09:27

He's just being an arsehole because he screwed up.

I bet he was just going to give her one little egg (so he could be good cop) but he didn't realise that once he gave her one, she'd then know they existed, and she would pester and whine until they were all gone. So he accidentally ended up giving her the whole lot.

If you still one left, you could do a hunt for clues rather than a hunt for eggs, with just one egg at the end. (clues can be super easy like "I'm tired from hiding all these clues - I need a sleep!" then hide the next clue under her pillow etc)

Lovemusic33 · 17/04/2022 09:28

Surely he should be the one going to buy more eggs?

Yes he’s a dick and should have discussed it with you first, he knew you had plans to do a Easter egg hunt and he ruined it by giving her chocolate all week and eating half himself.

Bigboysmademedoit · 17/04/2022 09:29

He ate them and the attitude is defensive. Greedy lump.

LadyCordeliaFitzgerald · 17/04/2022 09:29

His reaction to your upset is pretty shit. I could understand that he might not have registered the Easter egg hunt intention if he didn’t grow up with that, but I can’t imagine my dh doing anything other than jumping into action and heading off to find eggs somewhere in these circumstances.

He doesn’t sound very nice at all.