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AIBU?

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DH has given DD all of her easter chocolate over the last week

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:41

I bought some small easter eggs and little mini egg things about a month ago for DD to do an easter egg hunt today. When I bought them, I said to DH these are for DD, don't eat them and don't give them to her because they are for easter. Put them in the cupboard under the stairs in an easter bucket thing so it was very clear.

Came downstairs today to find none of it is there. Asked DH and he said he's given it to her over the last week because he doesn't want her "eating it in one go".

AIBU for being really annoyed? I was really clear and was looking forward to doing this for her and had told her the easter bunny would be bringing her eggs and hiding them, so she knows we were meant to be doing this. All of the shops are shut today so I can't get any more.

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f** off in general.

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

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AllOfUsAreDead · 17/04/2022 09:53

I wouldnt have gone out to get more. I'd have yelled at him to tell his daughter the truth about what happened, the fact that he ate them all because let's face it, the selfish fucker did. Then he'd have been told to get his fat arse to the local shops for more EGGS, not freddos and god help him if he came back with anything but eggs.

Your husband is not a good father or person, sorry to break it to you.

Veiaola · 17/04/2022 09:54

Can you not just go out an ho Aldi to get some more. An next year hide the blinking things as u obviously can’t rely on your dh to follow a simple instruction. I would be annoyed too but life is too short to spoil your lovely time with your daughter because of him, I know because I have been there an so wish I could go back an make it better for my dcs. I can’t but you can.

Sswhinesthebest · 17/04/2022 09:54

Ok so this is one red flag. Watch out for more in the future. I suspect you’ll be seeing lots at some point or other.

Why didn’t he just say sorry when you pointed out he’d cocked up?

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:54

Lots of eggs left in the local shop and I have one too for me. Hooray! Now just off to get my coffee.

This is one occasion and he is genuinely a great bloke. He was defensive because I went nuts this morning. When he realised I wad getting ready to go out he started getting ready and said he'd go but I said I wanted to and I'd prefer for you to get dd ready.

We have a long, good relationship, I do appreciate everyone's concerns but that won't be jeopardised by Easter chocolate. At least he's learnt for next year.

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BrutusMcDogface · 17/04/2022 09:55

Wow. What a prize arse. Hope you can find an open shop today for some more.

BrutusMcDogface · 17/04/2022 09:57

Oops! Cross posted with your update!

Goldbar · 17/04/2022 09:57

@Leobynature

People really need to calm down! his not an arsehole, a prick or a vile person. This is only chocolate! He has ruined Easter, it’s only the morning. Send him to the shops get some more-sorted. Honestly the hatred of men on MN. I really couldn’t get worked up about this.

Unfortunately it is the action of an arsehole to ruin something that they know someone they apparently love has put a lot of effort into and is looking forward to. It doesn't matter if it is "just chocolate".

MintyMoocow · 17/04/2022 09:57

Yes, there are genuinely women on here, who hate men enough to think that a woman should bin off her marriage, because her husband ate their child’s chocolate.
FFS!

Blanketpolicy · 17/04/2022 10:02

It is not clear from your posts, you told him the eggs are for easter a month ago, but have you discussed them since and talked about doing the Easter egg hunt together, especially this week? Did he not mention then, before this morning that they had been eaten?

SpinningMeSoftly · 17/04/2022 10:05

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f off in general

Nice

WimbyAce · 17/04/2022 10:10

I totally understand why you are annoyed as you have gathered bits all ready and been excited for today. Then to find them gone and have the panic of not being able to replace them as most places closed! I would have been the same as you and gone out and replaced them myself as you have in mind what you wanted to do. I find it is a normal reaction unfortunately with men to go on defensive when they know they are in the wrong. Who knows why he has been giving her the chocolate unless he genuinely forgot what they were for or hadn't listened in the 1st place! Anyway glad you have found some more and hopefully she will enjoy the hunt

lightisnotwhite · 17/04/2022 10:11

I’m not sure I get the angst if there’s an open shop that close. Especially if some place is open for coffee as well.

I’m mean he’s annoying and he needs to make amends but clearly it’s a easy solve.

KitKattaktik · 17/04/2022 10:16

@lightisnotwhite

I’m not sure I get the angst if there’s an open shop that close. Especially if some place is open for coffee as well.

I’m mean he’s annoying and he needs to make amends but clearly it’s a easy solve.

It it shouldn't have to be solved had he not sabotaged her Easter plans for a young child!

PartiallyStars · 17/04/2022 10:17

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f off in general*

My DH is, I think, a genuinely great bloke. We have been together for more than 20 years and he has never ever told me to fuck off. I don’t see that as being a genuinely great bloke.

TheLadyDIdGood · 17/04/2022 10:21

Petrol stations should be open today so try there for Easter eggs.

gamerchick · 17/04/2022 10:23

@afizzysweet

Why do you keep saying he’s a great dad? Great Dads don’t eat your eater eggs and then swear at your mum when she asks where they are.

This is one occasion, he is a good dad.

But this one occasion he's acted really strange though OP. He's deliberately sabataged something your bairn was looking forward to and isn't sorry and has even said he's willing to sabatage it further by threatening to get freddos. Why would he want to upset her like that? He should be wanting to make it right if he's a good dad.

toomuchlaundry · 17/04/2022 10:27

@lightisnotwhite who is the person having to solve the issue. And why should the Op have to put up with being told to fuck off

Invasionofthegutsnatchers · 17/04/2022 10:27

What a dick.

saleorbouy · 17/04/2022 10:31

Could you hard boil some eggs and use them for the hunt and get something else as a prize.
Hubby can then peel the eggs and make egg sandwiches later as penance.

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 17/04/2022 10:33

3 year olds shouldn’t be eating mini eggs- such as choking hazard.

We are doing Easter bunny tomo as travelling today, kids will never know, I would buy some today and sneak tomo Easter!

BellePeppa · 17/04/2022 10:33

When did the language on MN get so abusive or has it always been like it? (I’m fairly new). Words like asehole, wnker, etc get bandied about a lot. I thought it was all gilets and hunters wellies on here 😁😁 (I don’t own either though).

Thelnebriati · 17/04/2022 10:34

He's a grown adult who could buy his own chocolate. Instead he's chosen to be a dick, sabotage OP's fun plans for their child, and taken a gift away from his child. This really isnt 'just about the chocolate' and its not 'man hating' to point out the underlying problem that a grown man is jealous of his daughter getting attention.

OP, you need to keep a close eye that this kind of behaviour doesn't escalate as your DD gets older.

gamerchick · 17/04/2022 10:36

@BellePeppa

People who own that shit are above swearing?

Februarymama · 17/04/2022 10:36

Oh I’d be FUMING that we deliberately sabotaged your plans.

Imagine for a moment this is the other way around and a child’s dad put time and effort into organising an Easter hunt, buying the necessary bits and then his wife didn’t agree so deliberately used up the bits without even talking to his wife.

I can’t imagine any parenting decision where it’s OK to not even discuss your reservations with your significant other, and to just do it your own way without telling them. I really think this would be unforgiveable for me.

Calafsidentity · 17/04/2022 10:36

I'll head over in case or try to call ahead
Don't do that! Your DH caused this problem so I would sending him out to rectify it. Natural consequences

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