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DH has given DD all of her easter chocolate over the last week

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:41

I bought some small easter eggs and little mini egg things about a month ago for DD to do an easter egg hunt today. When I bought them, I said to DH these are for DD, don't eat them and don't give them to her because they are for easter. Put them in the cupboard under the stairs in an easter bucket thing so it was very clear.

Came downstairs today to find none of it is there. Asked DH and he said he's given it to her over the last week because he doesn't want her "eating it in one go".

AIBU for being really annoyed? I was really clear and was looking forward to doing this for her and had told her the easter bunny would be bringing her eggs and hiding them, so she knows we were meant to be doing this. All of the shops are shut today so I can't get any more.

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f** off in general.

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:53

I'm going to go out to get some myself because he said he's just going to get freddos and that's pissed me off even more

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LouiseTrees · 17/04/2022 08:53

Draw up so eggs on paper. Hunt the paper eggs. Not the same but still let’s you have the fun of the hunt.

notwhatineednow · 17/04/2022 08:54

Real eggs are a good back up if the garage doesn't have chocolate ones. Good luck!

(And husband is a selfish arsehole, obviously).

2reefsin30knots · 17/04/2022 08:55

You need to send him to the shop OP, not go yourself.

toomuchlaundry · 17/04/2022 08:55

Are you sure he is not like this usually, he doesn’t seem to want to make amends in anyway

NoddingTulip · 17/04/2022 08:56

Are there any convenience shops near you, like a co-op or one stop? These are usually open today and you may be able to get something there. Even if you only get one biggish one, you could then do a scavenger type hunt or just lots if clues leading dd around the house/garden leading to the discovery of the egg, rather than finding lots of small ones. This is what we usually do for our dcs, or we get them to find lots of cardboard eggs which they then swap for a big chocolate one once they've found 12 each.

Heronwatcher · 17/04/2022 08:56

He’s a dick who doesn’t respect you- sounds like he’s deliberately sabotaging your nice plans with your DD. I’d get through the day and then have a really honest chat with him about this, plus keep an eye on it in the future. Deliberately undermining your plans is a form of bullying.

LowlyTheWorm · 17/04/2022 08:57

Why didn’t he mention the worry about eating too much when you mentioned the eggs hiding place? How has your daughter not noticed she’s been eating easter eggs all week?

girlmom21 · 17/04/2022 08:58

@afizzysweet

I'm going to go out to get some myself because he said he's just going to get freddos and that's pissed me off even more
Are you sure he's not normally a complete arse?
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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:59

He’s a dick who doesn’t respect you- sounds like he’s deliberately sabotaging your nice plans with your DD. I’d get through the day and then have a really honest chat with him about this, plus keep an eye on it in the future. Deliberately undermining your plans is a form of bullying.

I don't think it's that, he's a softie, DD probably asked for chocolate (which I haven't been keeping in the cupboards recently because she's been getting stroppy if I say she can't have it so I just don't buy it), he has probably caved and knows where there is some. Psycho-analysing a bit but I don't think he's parents did things like easter egg hunts with him so don't think he sees the issue as long how she gets chocolate because she still gets her chocolate. But it isn't about that, it's something nice I wanted to do for DD.

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GoodSoup · 17/04/2022 09:00

What a twat.

Co-op should be open if you have one.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:00

Why didn’t he mention the worry about eating too much when you mentioned the eggs hiding place? How has your daughter not noticed she’s been eating easter eggs all week?

He broke it in to small pieces in a bowl rather than give her the eggs so that it was easier for her to eat

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:01

Thanks, we have a co-op, I'll go down in a bit so we don't end up with freddos. Glad I came to mumsnet or I'd have been driving around fuming all morning.

I'll get myself a nice coffee while I'm down there and a cake and nothing for DH Grin

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Rhondapearlman · 17/04/2022 09:01

I’m sure there’ll be a corner shop or petrol station open. I would be annoyed he’s not told you he’d eaten them and given your daughter them already.

GoodSoup · 17/04/2022 09:02

Do it! Take your time too. Grin

Hoppinggreen · 17/04/2022 09:03

He ate them and is being defensive because he knows he shouldn’t have

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:03

Do it! Take your time too.

Yep! He can try and persuade her to brush her teeth today, not me

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Cauliflowersqueeze · 17/04/2022 09:03

Yeah. Make a morning of it. How annoying!!

LampLighter414 · 17/04/2022 09:04

He binged all the mini eggs? Then accused you of helping in doing so?

He sounds greedy. I can't imagine scoffing and gorging upon treats for my children. And even if I did I would certainly replace them. What a pig!

HowFascinating · 17/04/2022 09:06

He has eaten most of them himself- because there was no other chocolate in the house. He gave DD a few bits here and there, for a grain of truth in a cover story.
He's trying to make out it was all done with good intentions and DD's best interests(which don't actually make sense) but if that were true, he wouldn't be nasty and angry at you. He's nasty and angry because he's been caught out.

IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 17/04/2022 09:06

I would be absolutely livid OP. There is just no way my DH, or any rational human being, would give all the easter hunt chocolate to DC BEFORE EASTER. I am speechless but dont know what to advise.

toomuchlaundry · 17/04/2022 09:06

Check your co-op opening times before setting out. Our local one isn’t open today. I think it usually depends on the size of the shop, so small convenience one can be open but not large stores

Soubriquet · 17/04/2022 09:06

He’s a dick

He has also made himself out to be the favourite parent because he’s given her chocolate all week whereas you haven’t

YouHaveYourFathersBreasts · 17/04/2022 09:07

If you have a Sainsburys local or little Tesco they should be open today, normal hours. Might not be anything left mind you.

He is being massively unreasonable and the mean fucker probably ate most or all of it himself. He’s being an arsehole and telling you you’re ruining everything now to deflect from himself.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:07

He has also made himself out to be the favourite parent because he’s given her chocolate all week whereas you haven’t

Haha yes there is that, I've been saying no chocolate all week and telling her to have fruit, I've turned in to my mother.

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