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Original poster

DH has given DD all of her easter chocolate over the last week

216 replies

afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:41

I bought some small easter eggs and little mini egg things about a month ago for DD to do an easter egg hunt today. When I bought them, I said to DH these are for DD, don't eat them and don't give them to her because they are for easter. Put them in the cupboard under the stairs in an easter bucket thing so it was very clear.

Came downstairs today to find none of it is there. Asked DH and he said he's given it to her over the last week because he doesn't want her "eating it in one go".

AIBU for being really annoyed? I was really clear and was looking forward to doing this for her and had told her the easter bunny would be bringing her eggs and hiding them, so she knows we were meant to be doing this. All of the shops are shut today so I can't get any more.

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f** off in general.

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

OP posts:
Alwayspaintyournails · 17/04/2022 09:30

What a dick he is!

Mummyoflittledragon · 17/04/2022 09:30

Good luck with co op. He’s an arse. Hide them from him!

girlmom21 · 17/04/2022 09:31

@Wereeaglesdare

8 shops yesterday! It is slim pickings out there petrol stations only place near me still selling eggs. Why don't u go out and buy lots of kinder eggs and creme eggs and do an egg hunt with them? Most corner shops will have them still
Nobody's selling kinder eggs at the moment
Moochio · 17/04/2022 09:32

Don't eat kinder eggs.

He is an absolute scumbag OP. He knew you were saving them. He needs some self control.

TeaAndCock · 17/04/2022 09:33

Does he still have his egg? And do you have one? Because you could cut out paper eggs and hide them, write a letter on each one one spell happy easter. Once she's found them all she gets the big egg/s.

Yanbu though it's thoughtless and shit of him.

lollipopsarentbreakfast · 17/04/2022 09:35

Try the co-op if you have one nearby. I think they're open until six today. I only know this as I had to make a quick stop on my way with my DC's to their GP's house

He really sounds vile. I say let him deal with it if she has an upset and explain what he did

BreatheAndFocus · 17/04/2022 09:37

Nasty little man, spoiling his own DD’s Easter treat and ruining your plans. He did it on purpose. His excuses are gas-lighting crap. Even if he couldn’t resist eating some, he could easily have replaced them before Easter.

I’d send him out to get replacements….and then, while he’s gone, go out with your DD and have a nice day somewhere without the spiteful and/or greedy git.

5zeds · 17/04/2022 09:37

What a strange thing for him to do.

Why would he take them if you’d said they were for Easter?Confused.

Why can’t he say “no” to a three year old? Confused

Why does a 3 year old need to not eat it all at once, when surely you just buy the amount she needs or scoff it together?

Why is he telling you to fuck off, when he stole the eggs?

Why do you keep saying he’s a great dad? Great Dads don’t eat your eater eggs and then swear at your mum when she asks where they are.

He can do better.

Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:37

Have found one egg that he didn't give her whilst getting ready to go. Even if its just creme eggs I think I can salvage the egg hunt plans.

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ThirdElephant · 17/04/2022 09:38

YANBU, OP. I'd be royally pissed off if my DH had done this.

My 3 year old had an egg hunt this morning, had a couple of eggs and then said she'd put the rest in her treat box (which she can dip into once a day when there's something in there- we set it up on Halloween, it got topped up again at Christmas but has been sitting empty since about February). It's perfectly possible to ration this stuff out after the event.

What would annoy me most is that he's heard your plans and thought he had the right to deliberately override them, like he knows best.

User839516 · 17/04/2022 09:38

I’m not sure you should be giving your 3yo chocolate every day plus multiple eggs at Easter, especially if she refuses to have her teeth brushed. You say there is normally chocolate in the cupboards and that she has been asking for it and was eating some this morning already. Tooth decay is the number one reason for hospital admissions in young children in this country.
Also your husband is a total dick, as evidenced by the fact he is not willing to go and fix his mistake himself.

Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 09:39

Why do you keep saying he’s a great dad? Great Dads don’t eat your eater eggs and then swear at your mum when she asks where they are.

This is one occasion, he is a good dad.

OP posts:
Goldbar · 17/04/2022 09:39

Did you buy him an Easter egg? If so, take it back and give it to your DD.

Rainbowqueeen · 17/04/2022 09:41

His reaction is really nasty. No apology. You’re too scared to send him to replace them because he will just get Freddos

Is he normally only a good dad and husband because he gets his own way on everything and you never challenge him???

MrsToothyBitch · 17/04/2022 09:41

I also think he ate almost all of them himself tbh. I think your Dd would have said something to you to try & get more chocolate if she'd had more than a miniscule amount. The po faced approach and defensiveness is just tracks-covering.

She could easily have found all the chocolate on the egg hunt today and you could have stashed it & released it a bit at a time- Easter bunny doesn't want you to be sick etc.

Progress2019 · 17/04/2022 09:43

He sounds horrible. I just read your post to my husband, who’s very laid back usually, and he says your husband sounds very controlling. He’s not a good dad, I think I’ve heard other people on here use the term Disney Dad

Leobynature · 17/04/2022 09:44

People really need to calm down! his not an arsehole, a prick or a vile person. This is only chocolate! He has ruined Easter, it’s only the morning. Send him to the shops get some more-sorted. Honestly the hatred of men on MN. I really couldn’t get worked up about this.

Beautiful3 · 17/04/2022 09:44

The corner shops still have eggs around here. Whereas the supermarkets are all out. I know from a neighbour going through the same thing as you, yesterday!

SarahBellam · 17/04/2022 09:45

What a greedy selfish asshat.

UnbeatenMum · 17/04/2022 09:45

It's really disrespectful if you buy something for a specific purpose and tell him, for him to then just override that and think he can do whatever he wants. If he bought it himself, fine. I hope you manage to find some eggs.

Cavagirl · 17/04/2022 09:45

Sorry OP, he doesn't sound like a great guy. It's not really about the easter eggs.

He's cocked up and for whatever reason - we can all speculate what really happened - the eggs are gone and you're a bit upset because you can't do the game you planned for DD.

Great Dad reaction: shit, I'm so sorry I realise - let me jump in the car and see if I can replace them!

Not Great Dad reaction: your feelings don't matter, fuck off, stop ruining the morning. You can try sending me out to get more but I won't, I'll just buy Freddos.

He's an arse, and his reaction to your upset is not good OP.

Really hope you find some eggs Flowers

girlmom21 · 17/04/2022 09:46

@Leobynature

People really need to calm down! his not an arsehole, a prick or a vile person. This is only chocolate! He has ruined Easter, it’s only the morning. Send him to the shops get some more-sorted. Honestly the hatred of men on MN. I really couldn’t get worked up about this.
He ruined the plans his wife had explicitly told him about for his young daughter, then blamed his wife and swore at her. When she asked him to replace the eggs he said he'd replace it with something completely different. How is he not an arsehole?
Gardeningcreature · 17/04/2022 09:47

He doesn't sound that great a dad to me.
What is he doing for the family today to make him such a great dad?

Beautiful3 · 17/04/2022 09:47

Honestly, I'd send him to do it. Then maybe he'll think twice about raiding them the week before. He obviously wanted to eat them so gave them to her, to share! Very greedy and selfish of him. I started buying all the kids eggs back in January, and stored them in the garage. I'd be mad if my husband did what yours did.

Cocomarine · 17/04/2022 09:53

@afizzysweet

He’s a dick who doesn’t respect you- sounds like he’s deliberately sabotaging your nice plans with your DD. I’d get through the day and then have a really honest chat with him about this, plus keep an eye on it in the future. Deliberately undermining your plans is a form of bullying.

I don't think it's that, he's a softie, DD probably asked for chocolate (which I haven't been keeping in the cupboards recently because she's been getting stroppy if I say she can't have it so I just don't buy it), he has probably caved and knows where there is some. Psycho-analysing a bit but I don't think he's parents did things like easter egg hunts with him so don't think he sees the issue as long how she gets chocolate because she still gets her chocolate. But it isn't about that, it's something nice I wanted to do for DD.

Bullshit. You make yourself look a fool coming out with that crap.

Honestly, it’s hard to believe that something this shitty is a one off. 0-60 in selfish arsehole behaviour then?

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