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Original poster

DH has given DD all of her easter chocolate over the last week

216 replies

afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 08:41

I bought some small easter eggs and little mini egg things about a month ago for DD to do an easter egg hunt today. When I bought them, I said to DH these are for DD, don't eat them and don't give them to her because they are for easter. Put them in the cupboard under the stairs in an easter bucket thing so it was very clear.

Came downstairs today to find none of it is there. Asked DH and he said he's given it to her over the last week because he doesn't want her "eating it in one go".

AIBU for being really annoyed? I was really clear and was looking forward to doing this for her and had told her the easter bunny would be bringing her eggs and hiding them, so she knows we were meant to be doing this. All of the shops are shut today so I can't get any more.

DH has said that I'm over reacting for nothing, am ruining everyone's morning, should go back to sleep and f** off in general.

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

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LoveSpringDaffs · 17/04/2022 11:22

@2reefsin30knots

You need to send him to the shop OP, not go yourself.
Mo because he'll come back with Freddie or smarties not Easter Eggs because he's a monumental TWAT.

@afizzysweet

Your poor DD, I hope you can rescue her day!!

I don't think he's as good a bloke as you think he is. A good DH/Dad wouldn't do this to his 3 yo.

...and yes, before anyone starts, we all know 'bigger things' are going in and there are displaced children/wars/economic disaster et , but for THIS 3 yo it's going to be very upsetting and all because her Dad is a complete TWAT.

lightisnotwhite · 17/04/2022 11:24

[quote toomuchlaundry]@lightisnotwhite who is the person having to solve the issue. And why should the Op have to put up with being told to fuck off[/quote]
To be fair he was happy to go and get stuff. Not sure why Freddos were mentioned but clearly if the shop had eggs he could have got those.

I hate sweary obnoxious blokes that tell people, especially those close to them, to fuck off. Aggressive and unnecessary. However Op went “nuts”. Maybe they have one of those horrible loud dysfunctional relationships.

I am more interested in the fact that he gave her the chocolate when you have stopped buying it. Why are you made to look like the bad guy and he gets to give her the “ naughty” chocolate.

SexiestDogWalker · 17/04/2022 11:27

Punch his fucking Easter egg.

BurglerBill · 17/04/2022 11:31

I'd be so upset about this. Sorry OP. Hope you get it sorted.

CherryDocsInYrBalls · 17/04/2022 11:32

MN and other places are full of threads where we're meant to believe grown men don't understand the concepts of simple things like an Easter egg hunt and therefore their twattish deliberately unkind behaviour towards their family is justified. He knew what the eggs were for, the op actually went out of her way to what an Easter egg stash is used for, and he still chose to sabotage today and is still a great dad according to his DW. This is where the bar is set for a lot of people sadly

mamaduckbone · 17/04/2022 11:36

I would be fuming - you're definitely not overreacting and it's him that's ruined everyone's morning, not you. Send him out now to find a garage or somewhere that still has some in stock.

SparklingLime · 17/04/2022 11:40

He really does sound like a total prick. (Breaking up an egg?) I’d be amazed if this is his only incidence of arseholery.

Notimeforaname · 17/04/2022 11:44

Sittin here shaking and crying now because all I got for my nieces and nephews were Freddo eggs...

Notimeforaname · 17/04/2022 11:45

Punch his fucking Easter egg.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 funniest thing on the Internet today so far 🤣

Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 11:49

For those saying the mini eggs will be a choking hazard - they weren't actually mini eggs, they were small chocolate eggs, not full sized easter eggs. Sorry that was not clear.

We went to grandparents to hide the eggs as no dog at their house, she found them all in 15 minutes. I put the little yellow chickens around where eggs were and moved them after she found them. Easy way to not miss any then.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 11:51

*Maybe they have one of those horrible loud dysfunctional relationships.

I am more interested in the fact that he gave her the chocolate when you have stopped buying it. Why are you made to look like the bad guy and he gets to give her the “ naughty” chocolate.*

Wow. I can assure you we do not have a loud dysfunctional relationship! How rude.

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afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 11:55

Notimeforaname haha they'll be fine, they're eggs after all!

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eggsbenedict82 · 17/04/2022 11:56

He sounds like an arse, particularly for accusing you of scoffing the mini eggs aswell. YANBU.

Branleuse · 17/04/2022 12:03

id be annoyed that he had done this because its a real dick move and quite odd. Even if you dont want to give all at once, you clearly start at easter, not the week before. Would he give all xmas presents the week before xmas? Its weird.
Saying that, I wouldnt be rushing out to buy more chocolate eggs. Shes only 3. Id do something else eastery instead. A roast dinner, going to see lambs etc

Nanny0gg · 17/04/2022 12:09

Yes. A three year old would be longing for a roast dinner!!

Anyway IT'S ALL BEEN SORTED NOW

New eggs were bought. Easter Egg Hunt done.

All is well.

KhansMambo · 17/04/2022 12:12

@afizzysweet

*Maybe they have one of those horrible loud dysfunctional relationships.

I am more interested in the fact that he gave her the chocolate when you have stopped buying it. Why are you made to look like the bad guy and he gets to give her the “ naughty” chocolate.*

Wow. I can assure you we do not have a loud dysfunctional relationship! How rude.

Has he apologised?
AgentJohnson · 17/04/2022 12:17

I will add he isn't usually a complete asshole.

Except when he’s being a complete arsehole, thanks for clarifying!

You can do a hunt without chocolates, get creative. The biggest issue, is your H being a complete arsehole. Psychoanalysing why he is behaving like one doesn’t change the fact that he is behaving like one.

He told you to fuck off because he doesn’t like being challenged for being an arsehole. I’m guessing this isn’t his first instance of him getting indignant when his questionable behaviour is being challenged.

Finding more chocolate to feed to a three year old who has had more than her fair share over the past week is the least of your worries. And just to be clear, your DD’s so called ‘big softie’ of a father telling her mother to fuck off, is the greater of your worries.

Patchbatch · 17/04/2022 12:18

Yes mum sorted it out whilst he was pathetic and rude, what a lovely chap he is.

diddl · 17/04/2022 12:22

Ate his kid's chocolate, cba to get off his arse to get more & tells his wife to fuck off.

I can see the attraction, Op.

Would he even have found them if you hadn't pointed them out?

Does he have "form" for this?

Original poster
afizzysweet · 17/04/2022 12:27

Does he have "form" for this?

No he doesn't

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HRTQueen · 17/04/2022 12:29

He is being a dick he was greedy and wanted it

He should go out and replace it

It’s not a huge deal it’s chocolate it can be replaced.

I’m speechless Hmm oh my do you faint when real issues arise IDidntKnowItWasAParty

SkankingWombat · 17/04/2022 12:30

@girlmom21

Psycho-analysing a bit but I don't think he's parents did things like easter egg hunts with him so don't think he sees the issue as long how she gets chocolate because she still gets her chocolate.

Bollocks.
My parents didn't do Easter egg hunts but I wouldn't ruin them for my own children.

Exactly. DH's parents never made a fuss with this sort of including birthdays, and it took him some years to adjust to my DM treating him as she did me (and getting the same treatment from me too obviously). However, he was touched and took joy in it, he's never tried to sabotage our efforts. In fact he was excitedly chasing the DCs round this morning with a camera during the egg hunt, and you could clearly see him biting his tongue as was desperate to point the eggs out in the fever.

OP, is your DH one of those men who will snaffle all the snacks in the house if you don't hide them/release them in dribs and drabs? My DH is very much like this (likely also a result of his upbringing: eat it all now or you'll get nothing) but even he manages self-control when I say specific things are to be left for xyz. My money is on no self-control and giving DD a small amount to corroborate his story whilst he scoffed the rest.

I'm glad you managed to find replacements. Hopefully your DH will learn from this!

HRTQueen · 17/04/2022 12:31

I’ve eaten ds Easter chocolate before but I left him with something Grin

Now doubt this shall be central to his psychotherapy in years to come

Cocomarine · 17/04/2022 12:36

Well no doesn’t have form for eating himself and inappropriately feeding her a 3yo’s Easter egg hunt.

But form for selfish behaviour?

  • ate her chocolate himself
  • have it to her without checking with you and (almost) ruining your plans
  • not apologising
  • blaming you
  • not rectifying it himself
  • not being trusted not to just get Freddos

I mean… that’s form.
I’m not saying LTB over one incident, but I would say that even within one incident there’s a pattern of selfish behaviour. So put him straight! (instead of the stupid suggestion from a PP that you should hide them better next year.

tuesday2am · 17/04/2022 12:36

Jesus, so many of you desperate to paint this Dad as a complete and utter twat despite what the OP is saying.

So his kid has asked for chocolate and all he could find were the Easter eggs that had been stashed. Yeah he shouldn’t have touched them, but he’s obviously thought what’s the harm and got them for his DC (and most likely had some for himself!) Very disappointing considering his DW asked him not to touch it, but it hardly seems like he was out to sabotage the plans on purpose. He hasn’t thought about it much and then got very defensive and rude when his DW “went nuts” at him.

They’ve had an argument, like every healthy couple do. Stop trying to paint a picture that of the OP’s own accounts is completely inaccurate. No person is perfect, we all mess up. This was one of those occasions and now has been rectified.

Glad you managed to sort it, OP. Hope your DC had a lovely Easter egg hunt. :)